Ugh. Turning 60 tomorrow and really bothered about it.

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Sounds mad, because it’s just a number, better than the alternative etc. but I’m feeling really sick about it.

I was unhappy turning 30 because it suddenly felt adult, but I’ve sailed through turning 40 and 50 quite happily.

Has anyone else felt like this?

I’m not far behind you and I get it whilst also appreciating everything I have to be grateful for.

Do you have something nice planned to celebrate?

Happy Birthday for tomorrow, some numbers hit harder don't they? I'm not far behind you and had a similar experience hitting 50, I hibernated and regretted it, so please try to do something nice to mark the occasion if you can.

I'm not far behind you and it feels strange. It is an age threshold. Had my eyes tested today...should have waited til next year when 60 and free! Will be able to get over 60 rail card etc...
I also feel 67 a long way off for pensions. Also, realise made poor life choices there and going to be small. Worry about health (dementia in particular) and sometimes really wish I could retire at 60. Thinking seriously about options and what I can afford. My closest friend has a life limiting illness (onset in her 50s) and it has concentrated my mind a bit.
I hear you...

Hi. Yes. We’re going to a vegetarian restaurant for lunch (DH would never entertain the idea if it wasn’t my birthday!) and then cake and fizz with my parents in the evening. I turned down a party organised by friends.

A few decades ago I’d have been retiring now and I suddenly felt old.

Mine’s coming up soon and I’ll be feeling exactly the same. As soon as I’m really starting to enjoy life it’s whizzing by.

I'm coming up to 70. That's a whole new level of existential angst.

Oh, and Happy Birthday!

I was 60 in June and Im not exactly bothered but not exactly jumping up and down about it.
I think its probably because I'm content in life. I have my own home, mortgage free, happily single, my son is doing well at uni and in life. I have great friends. I"m getting my moneys worth out of my senior railcard.
I will eventually have a decent pension.

The last few years of my working life will be as a foster carer. A new arrival has poured their heart out to me today. I feel heartbroken for them but glad I was here to listen and be here for them. To be entrusted with a child's most intimate feelings is a precious thing. For the first time in a long time Im doing something worthwhile with my life.

The blots on the landscape are my poor old moggy who is not at all well. He has been with me through thick and thin for 15 years.
And my parents are in their 80s and declining quickly. But that's life.
I have lots to look forward to, am in reasonable health.
Now 70 is a different matter - that feels like proper old.

Funny you said that @cupfinalchaos. I was all morose that my best years (child rearing) are behind me. I had a good weep to the film About Time a while ago. Silly really.

We lost PIL this year, but now I think about it MIL often said that their best years were driving around Europe in a campervan when they retired. Mind you they were only just 60. DH and I have a few more years to go before we have that freedom!

It’s great that you have such purpose @Ted27. You’re really making the most of your time.

Happy birthday!

Am not too far off 60 and yes I think it will be a shock. Hoping to forget the shock quickly and enjoy the good things. Also hoping to go down to 4 days a week then.

I was the same at 29 and 59. Strangely I had a wonderful day on my 60th thanks to some lovely colleagues and it's all been fine!

Where I live you can get a bus pass at 60 (you have to pay for it but still) and that really helped bizarrely!'

Oh and Happy Birthday for tomorrow! 🥂🥳

Happy 60th, OP!

I turned 60 last year and completely refused to acknowledge it. At all.

However, it actually turned out to be quite a nice year, and I felt much happier turning 61 a few months ago. It's not so bad. I'm reasonably happy, I'm healthy and I'm here. I'll take that.

Don’t. Beat you to it by a year. It’s great.

Thank you for the birthday wishes. I hadn’t thought of a bus pass - will check that out just in case.

I felt like this doe my 50th but as soon as I turned 50 it felt like a reset, like I went from 49, so 9, to 50, so 0! Could you think of it like that?
I didn't intentionally think like that but found once it happened that's how it felt. Liberating, at the begiyof something new. It didn't matter that it meant I was older, it just felt so new and fresh.

Hope that helps in some way, happy birthday for tomorrow.

Ah we are birthday twins! I’m turning 64 and to be honest had a dreadful 60th. Big family fall out that dragged on for months and I was put off celebrating birthdays ever since but tomorrow feels different. I’ve made changes to my life and very much live for the day as that’s all we can truly guarantee as tomorrow might never come.

A birthday is just one day but making changes to improve your life is always worthwhile so maybe focus on that, but also enjoy the fizz, cake and prezzies - I certainly will!

My husband died at 56 so for me, turning 60 went from a millstone to a milestone.

Happy birthday! It's a great age.

So sorry to hear about your husband @Seawolves. That must have been awful. Turning 60 is a privilege that not everyone gets. It does put it in perspective.