I have been raising my ds single handed from age 5 months and he is now 20. He is a delightful person. Motivated hardworking owns his own car plenty of savings pays monthly housekeeping etc.
I met up with an old school friend last summer who has taken up early retirement and is extremely well off. Has been married since age 28 and we are now both 61.
I was a bit vexed about my variable modest earnings at the time as I am self employed. It came out in conversation that she said 'no father at home. My ds is far more successful than her youngest who is c 24 has been to private school and went to a top university. She has barely worked. 2 jobs 9 months each plus 2 phases of travel overseas. Sits at home living off the bank of mum and dad.
I was rundown in April and had sent her an email when she again commented in a pitying way 'no father at home.
Her husband worked abroad most of the 3 children's upbringing in a very prominent well known international organization. Her mum helped her 5 days a week so she could manage.
I just hate the condescending pity from wives who 90 % of them assume we cannot possibly manage and must be up against it the whole time!
I have never had any family support as my parents are dead plus no siblings. Ds fathers side have helped though
Her husband retired recently so I guess she notices how much easier her life is. Does anybody else find many a wife condescending and assume you cannot manage whereas single parents are generally much stronger as a person.
I have now cut contact. I stick to single women and single men as friends.
Would appreciate anybody's views.