What will I do tomorrow.

[Pinklittlebaby]

The past few months has been so stressful for me. My work needs me to become certified and they had me working on an online course.

I enjoyed the course however it was so stressful and hard din the sense that my work was hard physically with the hours and my family also didn't respect this.

I had some extremely stressful incidents and long hours within my work. Then there was family. I have family home from abroad and I love them but it was so hard because they are on holiday mode. It broke my heart too because I don't have a lot of time to go and spend time with them. I do my best but sometimes it's never enough. My nephew and niece wants to do things with me.

I am not in a holiday mode. I still have work to do and then I have study and assignments to do too.

I do aim to try and get one day in the week to spend with them if not two and I try and spend time with them.

I spent two days last week with them followed by another half day on Monday.

I am getting begged a lot not to go to work and not to study too.

I am nearing the end of my course with assignments to submit this weekend with the deadline being midnight Sunday with more the following weekend too. I think I might be on track to submit this work this weekend.

It's now Friday evening and I will have to work late tonight but I don't know what time til.

Then it's Saturday and Sunday.

The last number of weeks has been so hard for me with so little time off too. If I am not working, I am doing course work or focusing on family time and I have very little time for myself.

I have some work to do with my assignment for this weekend too. I need to clean up some paragraphs. Double check the citations and work on the referencing page.

It shouldn't take me too long.

I know my nephew/niece will want me to spend time with them this weekend too and I would love that.

However I am stressed and anxious about the deadline for my assignment.

Last weekend was a nightmare when it came to studying too. They kept coming into my room along with my mother who is likely senile.

I am thinking for tomorrow, I could try and get up early in the morning, pack a pack back of stuff and go into the library and get this stuff done. Then I could spend Sunday with my nephew/niece - playing with them and taking them out for the day.

Also tomorrow, I could go to the library for a few hours and work on what I have to do followed by maybe a meal out in a restaurant and a glass of wine and just get some down time for myself.

The other option is to spend the day with family tomorrow and go into the city on Sunday morning with my work and sit down in a hotel lobby because the library will be closed on Sunday. This option fills me with anxiety for a few reasons. Likely a day spent with family will never be enough on Saturday and they will likely still want my time on Sunday.

Life for the past number of weeks has been crazy. Rushing meals, eating standing up and just animal type of behaviour due to so much stress.

You. Are. Not. Responsible. For. The. Children.

You ARE responsible to your workplace to do well in this course.

I know it’s difficult but your studies are work related and as they are paying need to take priority. You mentioned that your family booked last minute tickets so they should understand that they need to fit in with your schedule. Your niece and nephew should not be interrupting you and make demands - set boundaries. Prioritise your work and go to the library tomorrow so you can fully focus, get it done and have Sunday free. I know it’s tempting to say leave it to Sunday but you might not feel like doing it then and if something crops up on the Sunday your deadline could be at risk.

You need to be firmer with your family and set boundaries your time and work is just as important as theirs.

Then you need to send the message back that your work is more important and you aren't going to compromise.

Go to the library tomorrow. Have dinner by yourself in a restaurant (I assume you can afford this since you suggested it, but just holing up somewhere with a book and microwave meal is an alternative) and have a bit of downtime. If you get everything finished tomorrow then spend Sunday with family with a few hours carved out for yourself. If you haven't finished on Saturday then head to a hotel lobby and do your work. Take a little time to yourself after and then, if there is time, have dinner with family - maybe make it a celebration of having finished your coursework. A good signal to them that it's a big deal.

If they are clamouring for plans and don't know what to with your "maybe I can make time on Sunday" approach, then just say "sorry - not this weekend, it's the final push for my submissions." That's it. You can say you're sorry but this is really important and you won't jeopardise it. Just don't give in to them and risk your future or your mental health.

Carve out the time you need for work and yourself and give your family what's left. Stop treating yourself worse than you treat everyone else.

I think she is senile and she doesn't understand or care. Simply as that. I am astonished in that she is granny to my nephew/niece and she won't do anything with them.

I feel I would actually work better for the course if I went into a hotel lobby for the day. I know there is a hotel Inn my city aimed for workers and it has hub sections in the lobby and possible even the bar. I feel I would work better there than in a library. I find libraries are too quiet for me and they can be hit and stuffy.

Better yet I am tempted to book an air band b and check in for the night and go from a bed to a table.

I will figure things out in the morning what I will do.

I would prefer to get my course work done for tomorrow and as much as I can for next week too.

OP, get your course work done, to your satisfaction, before spending another minute with your family.

Be clear and definite : it is your job and your future.

Go to the library (Do not tell them where you are going!!! They will follow you! ).

You can’t possibly relax with them with a deadline hanging over you and the work not finished, you will stress yourself into the ground!

Work this evening. Library all day tomorrow. Find another space if you still need time on Sunday. Tell them firmly: Sunday after lunch is the time you can dorms with them. That’s that.

I'm in work late tonight and I don't know what time I finish. This is another problem too.

There is too much demands and I am being pulled in every direction from every side.

I'm tired too.

To really pull off tomorrow I am going to have to get up very early before they all get up so that I can leave.

This breaks my heart, it really does. I would love to spend time with them but I can't.

It's crazy how I have to leave my home to get some leave to get my college stuff done. I shouldn't have to do this. I should be allowed a lie in and in get up in my own time and go over to my study desk for the day.

But taking what happened last weekend, I won't be allowed.

Better yet I am tempted to book an air band b and check in for the night and go from a bed to a table.

THIS is what I would do... tonight before you don't get out tmrw.

I checked air b and bs for tomorrow night and this option is out for me. There are only rooms available in people's flats or houses or entire houses that is so expensive for one night. I fortunately this option is out for me.

I should be able to get work done sitting in a library or hotel lobby for the day.

Earlier today I looked at what I had to do and I need to finish one question and then I need to clean up another one and go over the citations and work on the referencing.

I'm not entirely happy with my work but I'm ok about considering I only found this assignment last week and I did most of it in a week. It was so so so stressful.

I have more work for submitting next week.

Tell them you are stressed and anxious about getting the assignment done. They are your family. They should love you enough to want you to do it. If they don’t, shame on them

ignore her then. Ignore any pleas from your siblings to look after the kids.

Do your own thing, and do things with them when you have time.

Prioritise your own commitments.

God theres so many problems left right and centre.

My work doesn't even respect me. I knew I was going to be late tonight but I was led to believe it would be a 10pm finish but that was a lie and I am still in work. Now I don't know what time I will finish at. It just means starting the weekend tomorrow morning likely tired and exhausted after my week and there's now ay I will be able to get up at the crack of dawn tomorrow morning like what I was hoping to do.

It's not just that - it's headspace too. How the fuck am I supposed to be going into a headspace to do assignment work.

I am just so sick of it.

I am tempted just to throw any shit together at this stage in the hope of just a pass and thrkw it all in anyways.

It's huge disrespect. They know I have assignments to do and they will not let me finish and go home.

Don't throw it all in. Start prioritising your future and make as much space as you can for your course and your mental health. You can't necessarily do anything about your work immediately, but your family can give. Lie in as late as you need to feel rested for your assignment. Get that Airbnb if it looks like it will make things nicer and make the assignments feel more doable (and you can afford it). If you have more crunch time coming up, maybe take some time off work to get it done.

Don't let present pressures squeeze your future out. Put it first.

I had so many plans to get up early tomorrow morning and get the remainder of my stuff done. Guess, still in fucking working 1.3/ hours after I was supposed to finished.

Looks like it will be a night where I will have to beg and cry to finish and be allowed to go home to my bed.

This is just going to dig i to my Saturday where I will feel the after affects of this week I think tomorrow if not Sunday too with a migraine too from stress.

I am due to go to work on Monday and they won't even give me a day off. Even next weekend. They expect me to work 2 or three weeks straight.

Dispicable.

Today is just not turning out to be what I wanted it to be unfortunately. I was working late last night so it was very late when I got home and into bed and that is affected my morning. I did get up early because I wanted to buy I had a low level headache that was likely sleep deprivation. I stayed up and had breakfast. When my breakfast was over, my mother got up and she was full of demands and aggro which aggreviated my headache.

So I went back to bed for another few more hours.

It is only now that I am moving and travelling into the city to get some peace for the day. I will likely go to a hotel that is designed for workers. I am hoping there won't be a wedding or function on there.

Overall I am so disappointed. It's everyone and everything. I am being pulled in every direction by everyone with no respect.

I will use today to get what I can do done and I will try and relax with a meal. It's been weeks of a busy hectic schedule and it's really catching up with me.

I am disappointed. I shouldn't have to leave my home to do this and get some time to myself but I know I won't be allowed any peace at home with demands. I should be sitting down now to get my work done but family will likely be offended if I sit down for the day and I will be lucky if I get blocks of 10/15 minutes.

The hotel I am going to just recently opened in April I think so I doubt there will be a wedding or a function there today because that kind of stuff is usually planned and booked in advance.

what's your job, OP? (sorry, you don't have to say)

worker's rights in the UK (guessing that's where you are) are shite

Good luck today OP.

You are clearly under huge stress, and answering demands from those who can’t help it as well as those who should know better.

Leave them behind, focus on your work, be proud of yourself for working so hard towards your future!

An update about today. I started travelling into the city at about 12.30. today. Before I left home my mother sent me for a list for things in town. I told her that today is not a shopping day but I just told her I will get it.

When I got into the city I spent the first hour approx going from pharmacy to pharmacy because what she was looking for was out of stock everywhere. I had to give up on that task then.

I decided to go to a hotel for the day. It was a good decision because I got some refreshments and little breaks.

It was about 2.30 when I opened my work on the laptop and it was about 7.30 when I decided it was enough for today. I would have stayed for longer but it was getting busy.

I did get some things done. I struggled with one of the questions I had. I lost the information page I had for citing my work and referencing and then I had to look online for more.

Another question was very comprehensive and I had a lot to provide citations for and a lot to reference at the end.

There is still some stuff that I need to review for tomorrow and edit. I have it written in my copy book.

I need to clean up the referencing page because I just dumped all of my work there. I need to reorganise that page I to alpaethical order.

All in all I am disappointed with my day and the work I got done.

I suppose I made some progress and it was good that I started today because if I left it til tomorrow I would struggle with this.

All in all I am so disappointed with all of this and with everyone around me from work keeping me late which affected my morning to family wanting demands out of me. They have no care that I have work to submit for a deadline.

I am dreading tomorrow because there's another day of this looming over me.

The library will be closed too on a Sunday.

I suppose I could go into town and go into another hotel lobby for the day.

I studied with the OU while working full time in a very stressful job, with a DH and 2 secondary age DCs

Can i give you a tip? Do your referencing as you go. Then it is done.

Thank you, I will know it for next time. I suppose I wanted to get the bulk of the work done I suppose so I just powered through the questions and answered.

Some of what I created, I am not 100% happy with it but it's not a thesis and it's low marks for that question so all is not lost.

I was hoping on having a family day tomorrow and there is that demand on me too. It is something I would love but I am just not done with this work.

What I could do is try and tap into this for a bit tonight when I get home. And maybe again tomorrow morning.

I don't feel comfortable going in a day trip with a deadline looming over me either.

This. Looking back, god knows how I worked, had three kids under 5 and did my OU degree, but somehow I did. I would number any bit that needed referencing on my assignment draft, then write that number down in my jotter, with the reference needed to add into final assignment. It saved time. Then I just added all the references in the relevant places during the final edit.

And I mean this kindly OP, start saying NO. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Listen to Let Them by Mel Robbins, life changing.