Would you have stayed in this relationship?

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You're 20 you meet a 28 year old man and fall in love. He breaks up with his girlfriend for you.

You're 21. He tells you his ex found out she was pregnant after they split up and she's keeping the baby. They never lived together but he's visiting her alot to see the baby.

You're 22. You find out he never told her it was over. He's been sleeping with her. You tell her your his girlfriend. They definitely split up now. He says he didn't tell her it was over because she's fragile and he didn't want to hurt her.

You're boyfriend is 30 and living with his parents.
He has a one year old child.
He cheated on you and the woman he cheated with is always going to be in his life.

You love him and you've never felt that way about anyone else.
He says the same about you.

Do you stay with him or leave?

Why would you stay?
He's a liar and he's unfaithful. You can never trust him so there's no future.
The only way you'd stay is if you have zero self respect.

Yet another thread about 'would you stay' from a poster who clearly has fuck all self respect. What is it with these questions? Journo or bot?

Stay of course, the path of true love never runs smooth. Thirty will be the making of him.

OP!! Time to wake up!!! Get the fuck out of that shit as far and fast as you can.

Not a journo or a bot.

This happened years ago but now I don't know if I made the right choice.

Have you posted about this before?

No.

I'd have called it a day at twenty, tbh. Who wants the kind of person who doesn't have the strength of character to leave a failing relationship before they have another to jump into?

100% ditch this lying, cheating waste of space!

Absolutely I would leave! That sounds so horrific and if it’s you in this situation (I’m assuming so) I am SO sorry and you should absolutely have the courage to leave. Just because you love someone, doesn’t mean you should stay. I know it’ll feel like your whole world is breaking but you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you! He is just a bad % of men out there, but they aren’t all like that and I PROMISE you will find someone genuine, wonderful and kind. I’m so sorry :(

The 20 year old should have told him he should go back to his pregnant girlfriend and ended the relationship then.
The 22 year old was deluded. Why did she think she was his girlfriend, and not the mother of his child with whom he was still sleeping? She should have left him as he was clearly a two timing liar.
What is it you love about this deceitful loser?
Of course you should ditch him!

Find some self respect and ditch the lying, cheating wanker.

Are you still with him?

You made the choice which you thought was right at the time, and you cannot revisit it.

If you stayed with him, there is no point berating yourself that you should have left - hindsight is a wonderful thing and we have all given men we love the benefit of the doubt, and this one did not deserve it.

if you left him, that was the right thing. He did not do you the courtesy of honesty or respect. Regardless of whether you are alone now or romanticising the good bits with him, he lied and cheated and you were right that you deserve better.

But the way to look is forward, not back. What is going on in your life now that is making you look back? Focus on sorting that out.

Why make life more complicated than it needs to be? U well rid of the cheat. If he ' broke up' with girlfriend for u he's no good. Was not free to be in a relationship with u. He woud probably have done the same to you at a later stage.

I'm guessing you stayed otherwise the thread and still fretting about it "years later" is pretty pointless.

Like other PP's i would have left at 20, I.e the nanosecond i found out he already had a girlfriend, never mind a pregnant one.

Hello OP. He didn’t cheat on you; he cheated with you. He never left his girlfriend. He lied for years. He’s not a good man. There’s no need to question or overthink it, just leave him. You deserve so much better. You deserve someone who truly loves you and is faithful to you.

Yes. We married and have two children.

Its too late to leave now.

I'm not sure if I'm still in love with him.

On the surface we have the perfect life, nice house, nice holidays but inside it doesn't feel right anymore.

It's never too late to leave. You can't trust him.

Did he ever stop shagging his first childs mum?

What's making me look back?

I don't know. Maybe because we've had some struggles in life lately.

MIL is ill and most of the caring has fallen on me because I work part time. We've got her into a home now but it was hard and I was doing most of the work sorting it out.

My dad was seriously ill too.

The children are both at difficult ages.

My job is stressful.

I didn't see life turning out like this. And I don't feel he's been supportive.

Yes,. Definitely. She met someone else soon after she found out about me.

Run a fucking mile.

If you aren’t happy you don’t have to justify leaving by bringing up the past. You stayed and years later you’re no longer feeling it. You’re within your rights to end it.

The thing is when it all came out his family were furious and most of his friends ditched him.

His whole life blew up and it was because he fell in love with me. How could I leave him then?

You are looking for an answer more sophisticated than “because he was a cheating, lying cunt” right?