How many difficult people do you have in your life?

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I mean the life-long-confusing to deal with, truculent, boundary-less, extremely difficult people. Not just a garden variety a-hole from work or next door. The kind that probably have some sort of issue going on that is not just you don’t get on with them. People that have caused long term inter-personal problems.

Interested to see how many people have. I had 3, I now have 2.

I wouldn’t give people like that access to my life.

it is different if it is family but thankfully our family have good communication and boundaries

None.
I ignore, remove or block people who cause problems.

These people will be family

FIL is horrendous. Thankfully we don’t see them much. Thinly-disguised tolerance to him and his alcoholic wife, who have never done anything for DH.

Two

daughter and mum

daughter has MH issues and is improving slowly.

mum has dementia and is not

😞

None at the moment.

I had removed anyone like this and life was very good. Unfortunately 9yo is extremely hard work at the moment and everything turns into a major argument.

Two. But both have illnesses and are doing all they can, so not entirely their fault. It's just life.

None.

100 per cent agree with this

none

mine are garden variety ones at work / volunteering

None!

Two for me. Both family members, one I have gone very low contact with. The other is more present and therapy has given me some good tools to help. But still confusing and painful at times.

None. My ex is on of them , we see each other annually. End of.

Two. My Mum and my FIL. Neither are "bad" people - both have clear mental health difficulties which result in them being quite self-centred and treating others unpleasantly whilst in the grip of it. Both can also be lovely, wonderful, generous people when in a period of wellness.

None now and the one remaining boundary pusher I keep at arm’s length on my terms

Just one. My only surviving family member so I can’t cut them out

Just 1 - my sisters DP.

He's been around for ages, and little chance of him leaving. But I just find him horrid. He's skeezy, uses people, but all dressed up in a "I'm nice, I am" image. Everything is on his terms. It's his way or no way.

Fortunately, I've established very strong boundaries with him. I no longer see him socially one-on-one (which I did when he and my sister first got together), I don't follow him on any social media platforms after he attacked my mum on there, and I keep communication extremely limited.
Nowadays I only see him about 3 times a year. I'll exchange, "Hello, nice to see you" pleasantries, but that's it.

2 my sister who I am now nc with and my elderly dm who has been manipulated by my sister not seen dm for nearly a year she is in a care home so I am able to see her now and she has said she is happy to see me and my dc i haven’t decided if i will go or not yet

None. I got rid of them all. Living a peaceful, chilled existence now.

At one time I had 8.

As I got older and wiser I dropped them or they died a natural death.

For the last 5 years its been none. It's lovely.

4
They are family members. can’t cut them off and I wouldn’t but I’ve had to put boundaries in place as much as I’m able to.

None.

I am 54 and no longer willing to put up with toxic/negative people or CFs.

I cut contact with toxic relatives and got rid of any flaky, fair weather friends a few years ago after several health scares made me reevaluate my life.

The only annoying people I have contact with is through work occasionally and I make sure I don't let them affect me.

Just my mother-in-law. I can tolerate her for the sake of my partner.