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Be honest, when you see fat people running?

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22O725 · 01/08/2025 13:27

When you see an overweight person out running what do you think? As a morbidly obese person I always used to admire their confidence and ability. I am now an overweight person (size 16) and I still feel like the size 24 I once was. I feel like everyone is looking at me and thinking ‘look at the state of her’.

Do you judge fat runners badly or do you think ‘well done’?

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Gustavo1 · 01/08/2025 14:07

As an overweight woman who needs more exercise, I admire their motivation. I am always going to get fitter, I just haven’t yet.

What other people may or may not think should never be a barrier to you doing something that’s beneficial to your health.

Happyholidays78 · 01/08/2025 14:08

Oh blimey I cheer them on! I'm chunky & dip in & out of jogging & I have my headphones on & don't give 2 poops what people think. I honestly drive past people jogging & say to myself 'you go girl/boy' & smile. I think it's great 👍

ihavespoken · 01/08/2025 14:08

countdowntonap · 01/08/2025 13:32

I think that unless you particularly love running, you’d be better spending your time lifting weights to achieve the body you want.

That's interesting! I assume they are doing it for enjoyment as well as exercise rather than to lose weight or change their body. I've been involved in running events for years and see all shapes and sizes achieving amazing things from 10k to 100 miles.

To answer the OP - I see them and wonder if they are training for any interesting challenges

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DiscoBob · 01/08/2025 14:08

I guess I kind of feel sorry for them as I know being a first time runner it's ridiculously hard even if you're slim. But being fatter is obviously more uncomfortable movement wise, rubbing, chafing etc.

But I'd wish them well and think I might hope to see them running again regularly and each time looking more comfortable with it. But I'd also think they may well give up as it's not easy.

RantzNotBantz · 01/08/2025 14:09

IF I think anything I think ‘good on you’.

Everywhere I exercise, gym, classes, pool, hills, I see so many people of the whole range of body shapes, so nothing really catches my eye, but I know that many bigger people feel more self conscious of judged so I think ‘good on you’ for normalising people, anyone and everyone, doing what they wish to do fitness wise.

(average bodied, average fitness non gym-bunny who doesn’t run at all but has been up and down in weight)

SirChenjins · 01/08/2025 14:09

I think well done and I wish I could run on pavements or cross country - I hate it, have never been able to run more than about a 100m, even at my fittest. I am full of admiration for them.

Agree about the sports bra @CocoPlum the sight of knockers bouncing up and down makes me wince!

tiddletiddleboomboom · 01/08/2025 14:09

people here say that they don’t judge, but that doesn’t reflect my real world experiences, which is that people very much do notice and judge, and a fair few comment as well. There’s a lot of abuse, or even just disdainful comments, when you are overweight and running

This is something many runners experience, overweight or not. I am not overweight (I am on the skinny side) and have had harrassing comments from men and passers by in cars making crude comments about my body etc Sadly, there has also been a phenomenon described in the media where men have been spitting at female runners and its not to do with their weight.

Its bloody awful but I am just saying that the simple act of running as a female sadly garners you unwanted attention from others, in particular, men.

InTriplicate · 01/08/2025 14:09

I'm thin but I've never been able to run, so if I see someone running I generally think "blimey that person is running". I can't remember ever noticing if they were fat or thin.

I know a couple of people who are very very overweight and when I see them walking, I feel quite alarmed that they might hurt themselves or tip over. I'm genuinely uncertain about how they are able to do it and I just feel worried about them.

xSideshowAuntSallyXx · 01/08/2025 14:10

Anyone that's running gets my utmost respect as I run like Forest Gump whilst trying to hold my not so small boobs down. I only ran in lockdown as the gyms were shut and I needed exercise.

Purplecatshopaholic · 01/08/2025 14:10

I genuinely just think ‘good on you’ and get on with my day.

WellIquitelikesprouts · 01/08/2025 14:10

I think Great, but be careful of your knees.

BeCosyLion · 01/08/2025 14:11

I think “good for you” and then my second thought is “I should really exercise today but probably won’t”

Daffodilsarefading · 01/08/2025 14:11

I think well done you.

Lemonyfuckit · 01/08/2025 14:12

Genuinely, if I think anything at all, it’s there’s someone doing something for their health and fitness, good on them.

RobertaFirmino · 01/08/2025 14:13

I barely register tbh. How could there possibly be anything shameful about anyone running? If someone looks at an overweight person out jogging and thinks 'Ooh, look at the state of that!' then they're really not the sort of person whose opinions matter.

Hoolahoophop · 01/08/2025 14:16

Honestly, I think its fucking unfair, that they (and I) put all that effort into running and it still doesn't make us skinny. Calories in to calories out ratio is nasty, that's before you even get onto medical, hormonal hills to climb.

Still, we will be physically and mentally more healthy than if we didn't bother. Just wish it showed more physically.

scotscorner · 01/08/2025 14:16

autienotnaughty · 01/08/2025 13:30

Admiration, the heavier /lack of fitness you have the harder it is!

Exactly this!

Wilfrida1 · 01/08/2025 14:17

I immediately think of this :

Hey, Fat Girl.
Yes, you. The one feigning to not see me when we cross paths on the running track. The one not even wearing sports gear, breathing heavy. You’re slow, you breathe hard and your efforts at moving forward make you cringe.
You cling shyly to the furthest corridor, sometimes making larger loops on the gravel ring by the track just so you’re not on it. You sweat so much that your hair is all wet. You rarely stay for more than 20 minutes at a time, and you look exhausted when you leave to go back home. You never talk to anyone. I’ve got something I’d like to say to you.

You are awesome.
If you’d look me in the eye only for an instant, you would notice the reverence and respect I have for you. The adventure you have started is tremendous; it leads to a better health, to renewed confidence and to a brand new kind of freedom. The gifts you will receive from running will far exceed the gigantic effort it takes you to show up here, to face your fears and to bravely set yourself in motion, in front of others.
You have already begun your transformation. You no longer accept this physical state of numbness and passivity. You have taken a difficult decision, but one that holds so much promise. Every hard breath you take is actually a tad easier than the one before, and every step is ever so slightly lighter. Each push forward leaves the former person you were in your wake, creating room for an improved version, one that is stronger, healthier and forward-looking, one who knows that anything is possible.
You’re a hero to me. And, if you’d take off the blaring headphones and put your head up for more than a second or two, you would notice that the other runners you cross, the ones that probably make you feel so inadequate, stare in awe at your determination. They, of all people, know best where you are coming from. They heard the resolutions of so many others, who vowed to pick up running and improve their health, “starting next week”. Yet, it is YOU who runs alongside, who digs from deep inside to find the strength to come here, and to come back again.
You are a runner, and no one can take that away from you. You are relentlessly moving forward. You are stronger than even you think, and you are about to be amazed by what you can do. One day, very soon, maybe tomorrow, you’ll step outside and marvel at your capabilities. You will not believe your own body, you will realize that you can do this. And a new horizon will open up for you. You are a true inspiration.
I bow to you.”

Shrimpybaby · 01/08/2025 14:18

I think good on them, I should do the same.

I also wonder whereabouts on their fitness journey they are and what their goals are.

menopausalfart · 01/08/2025 14:19

Whenever I see anyone run alongside a road, I think, What an absolute nutter.

SockFluffInTheBath · 01/08/2025 14:19

I always think ‘good for you, chick’ and feel a bit jealous. I used to run but I ignored an injury and fucked one of my ankles to the point it needs complicated surgery if I want to run. Now I’m just tubby and jealous of anyone running.

GrumpyExpat · 01/08/2025 14:20

I wouldn't think twice about their size, except whoowheee look at them go. I despise running so anyone who does it is like, an extremely fit athlete to me.

housethatbuiltme · 01/08/2025 14:21

I find all runners a bid mad in general no matter their size. Seeing people jogging in the rain makes me think that looks cold, wet and miserable but at the same time so does jogging on a hot day sound awful lol. Its like that meme 'how do you take up jogging? do you open your front door then just sort of leg it'.

Whatever exercise works for you though then use that though, its not one size fits all and its about you health not other peoples views. weather its pole dancing, synchronized swimming, martial arts, gymnastics, line dancing, weightlifting, hula hooping or anything else theres something for everyone no matter what others think.

Letstheriveranswer · 01/08/2025 14:21

I think they may perhaps feel very selfconscious, and I think how great it is that they are trying to make a positive change, how hard it is to do that, especially with the discomfort of the extra weight, potential chafing, and knees that are carrying the extra weight. I feel admiration for their determination and I send big warm vibes their way.

countdowntonap · 01/08/2025 14:22

22O725 · 01/08/2025 13:39

Perhaps it’s not about the body and just about the fitness. I have no interest in lifting anything.

Then that’s great. I just know a lot of people think it helps to achieve a desirable body, and so spend hours doing something they don’t enjoy.
I have ran competitively (very well) and know that my weight training helped with my speed - just if you ever wanted to look into it as part of your development as a runner. Sprint training is also useful. I do wonder what people think when they see me doing that - maybe they think I’ve knackered myself sprinting up the hill 🤣