What’s it like being a grandparent ?

[GingerPussInBoots]

Just wondering as as friends sister recently became one, as she posts a lot of photos of the baby calling her, her princess, yet I know she doenst like the mum much, but if a personality clash might get better with time hopefully and wheh peopel are more settled perhaps
anyway
I just can’t really imagine it
she’s the paternal grandparent

We might have different benchmarks, but you are talking from a position on not knowing any of the people involved.

They're not downtrodden. They've both supported themselves, have been single parents, worked hard, have great friendship circles and are what I would call strong, independent women.

I've known them 30 years and I know their children who are all happily making good lives for themselves. I've been there when they've helped their children set up homes, supported them through IVF, bereavement, ill health, marriage breakdowns. They share holidays, family events and have a great time together. I can assure you they have positive relationships.

My friends just thought life would get easier and they'd have more time to themselves now they're in their 60s after a lifetime of child rearing.

I'm just telling what one of them said.

They love their kids, but given a lifetime of experience and being able to weigh up the impact it has had on their life one of them said that if they could have their time over again they would not have had children.

Life isn't just black and white.

Because people are selfish aren't they. They don't see the bigger picture. They think the, 'just this once' or the, 'but I am desperate' is the most important thing.

People are human.

A couple of people from school are grandparents for a few years now but I have a six year old so I can't even imagine it 😆

No is a simple word

Goodness me @Notanartist81 . You're more invested in this than me.

It must be very confidence building to have such strident opinions about people of whom you know nothing.

Agree with all this!

Not ignored. Just always another pressing reason - ill health, work responsibilities, a friend's wedding, in law's funeral, driving test etc.
You can see can't you how this could build up over several children and their spouses and multiple grand children. What is a one off for them is one of many events for grandma.

Very positive relationships are full of compromises. One grandma. eight grandchildren. The compromise balance tips.

She needs to get all the parents together, sit down with them and explain that the situation is untenable. I bet she hasn't done that.

If she raises the subject again I will suggest that @LostWithoutMum .

Perhaps she was just confiding in an old friend something which she wouldn't say aloud to anyone else.

My first post wasn't asking for advice @Notanartist81

The other poster made their suggestion in a much more pleasant fashion than you and and specifically suggested speaking to all the children together.

Also, it's quite hard to take your input seriously because of the use of words like 'whinge', your dogged aggression and lack of punctuation.

Then I can't help you with either the manners or the full stops.