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Adultwork

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EmSx1 · 30/07/2025 20:42

Hello my husband of 10 years has been using adultwork. I’ve found emails. He changes his username so I don’t find out. This time I’ve found emails with different username
and I’m tempted to log in and click forgot password and
see the email from
them and make up new password and log in. But he will know it’s me as he will then
not be able to log in. But I know he has messages as the emails say he has new messages. I want to know what’s in these messages. Is he asking for pictures. Or meet ups?? I thought we were happily married. So why would he do this. I just don’t want to have it out with him as he gets so defensive and angry. It’s making me go crazy. Any help would be appreciated x

OP posts:
Smallchangebigstep · 30/07/2025 20:53

Well I thought Adultwork was used to meet prostitutes.
If you know he is contacting women on there do you really want to stay in a relationship with him?

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EmSx1 · 30/07/2025 20:57

Yes I know that but could just be for photos. I don’t want my marriage to end. We have 2 kids and he is a good hubby and father

OP posts:
Chocaholic1216 · 30/07/2025 20:59

It could be for webcam bookings and he’s emailing them for special requests such as what he wants them to wear during it etc. Hope you are ok as it must be a terrible shock

Frodoo · 30/07/2025 21:04

I thought we were happily married. So why would he do this. I just don’t want to have it out with him as he gets so defensive and angry. It’s making me go crazy. Any help would be appreciated

hes cheating, it’s rough to hear but you have to decide if you want this for the rest of your life. Rather than giving up, he just changed his username, he gets defensive when you call him out on his bs, realistically this is a pattern that will repeat and repeat and repeat.

Smallchangebigstep · 30/07/2025 21:04

So him paying other women for sexually explicit photos or webcam special requests would be acceptable to you so long as he isnt meeting up with them?

Honestly OP a "good hubby", who presumably took wedding vows to you, wouldn't be getting his sexual gratification from other women.

And do you think a man who pays women for sexual favours is really a " good " father.

ObtuseMoose · 30/07/2025 21:04

So to recap,
he's either meeting prostitutes or watching webcam girls
he's defensive and angry
But yet he's a good husband.
How?

Soundofthesea · 30/07/2025 21:13

I provide chat and text services on AW. The emails I get range from men asking if I will provide a certain type of call/fetish, the ones trying to engage in some free dirty emails or others asking to meet me. Sorry but that will be what’s in the emails. X

frozendaisy · 30/07/2025 21:15

Ask him to show you because it’s driving you crazy, a “good hubby” would want to put his wife’s, mother of his children’s, mind at ease.

Doesn’t have to be a confrontation.

But I suspect he isn’t that good, because he sounds unapproachable, depends on where you draw the line at actual cheating, but this to me would be breaking the marriage vows, the fact he is happy to use/pay for women (I presume but guess could be men) to fulfil sexual fantasies indicates he is happy to support the sex industry, which is a pit of abuse, and exploits both the workers and customers. He is doing all this at home? Whilst his wife and kids in bed?

What do you want to do @EmSx1?

Soundofthesea · 30/07/2025 21:15

Sorry it also won’t just be for pictures. Each girl has a gallery you can free view clothed or you can pay for private. You dont email asking for this just buy credits and purchase pictures or movies

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 30/07/2025 21:16

EmSx1 · 30/07/2025 20:57

Yes I know that but could just be for photos. I don’t want my marriage to end. We have 2 kids and he is a good hubby and father

Possibly not.......

Sorry @EmSx1 he doesn't sound very nice.

Tb15887 · 24/09/2025 16:23

Can I ask, does anyone know what £10 to adultwork would be for ? I've found several go out my husbands account. Like is that pictures, videos ?

Soundofthesea · 24/09/2025 16:26

The £10 is used to purchase Adultwork credits which can be used for phone chat, text chat, cam and photos. Possibly for escort bookings but I’m sure they would take payment in cash. Sorry x

Tb15887 · 24/09/2025 20:09

Thank you. I've seen he's done webcam through OF already. He's so dishonest I don't know what to believe he said it was for videos but that would require some sort of chat surely?

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 25/09/2025 10:30

Noone uses Adult work for photos. There are a million places on the internet if you want photos of naked women.

If he's on Adult work, he wants to shag someone else.

Soundofthesea · 25/09/2025 10:47

Tb15887 · 24/09/2025 20:09

Thank you. I've seen he's done webcam through OF already. He's so dishonest I don't know what to believe he said it was for videos but that would require some sort of chat surely?

I don’t think he would have paid for videos or pictures unless he was also speaking to someone. It’s highly likely he is having chats or webcam. The majority of the men I talk to don’t want to meet it’s just sex chat.
Calls cost around £1-2 per minute. Text chat is around £1.50. Photos and videos around £1-10. Check his phone see if he has any incoming calls from withheld numbers or any outgoing to 0208.
You could always join the site to try to catch him. You need to register with ID. I think you can still search for potential clients

Slightyamusedandsilly · 25/09/2025 10:49

EmSx1 · 30/07/2025 20:57

Yes I know that but could just be for photos. I don’t want my marriage to end. We have 2 kids and he is a good hubby and father

How is a man using hookers a good husband?

Does it matter if he knows you've seen his account?

SandStormNorm · 25/09/2025 11:23

When you get over the shock of your discovery, consider the following. He spends family income on sex workers, and is depriving your children and you of that income. If he meets sex workers, he puts you at risk of STI. While many sex workers are careful with their conduct, not all use condoms etc and some STI remain symptomless for a long time. Consider having a check up with your doctor. Many sex workers are exploited, abused and vulnerable, and some are linked to organised crime gangs or have pimps who take a big cut of their income. They may have drug or alcohol dependency which clients are funding. If your husband was out robbing old ladies at the bus shelter, would he be a good hubby? Of course not. So why is exploiting a population of sex workers, many of whom have difficult and challenging backgrounds, any better? None of the above takes the sting out of what you must be feeling atm, and it must be very distressing. However, he is not a good father or husband if he conducts himself this way.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 25/09/2025 11:25

OP raise the bar.

Okrr · 25/09/2025 11:27

Whatever the least thing you could do on there like ‘just pictures’ would be a divorce from me. I would also try to ruin his life afterwards but that’s my character.

DiscoBob · 25/09/2025 11:31

I think he will minimise it if he can get away with it. Basically saying he's done the bare minimum.

But even if it's 'just' webcam/sex chat, do you really want to be with someone who wastes his family's money objectifying women who could well be vulnerable?

I'd take it that he's probably met up with a prossie at least once.

Men who do that stuff are low. I wouldn't date a man who shags hookers. But it's up to you I guess.

Would he be OK with you doing web chats with men? What about if the men wanted to pay you for sex?! Actually he'd probably think that was great and that he was the pimp of the century.

GreenFlag · 25/09/2025 11:45

I thought we were happily married.

No one who thinks they are happily married is looking through their husbands email account behind his back.

AshKeys1 · 25/09/2025 13:42

Why don't you log in and screenshot it without changing the password? Build up some evidence before the confrontation so he can't worm out of it.

Soundofthesea · 25/09/2025 15:08

If you can get his username I can see if I can find his profile. I would possibly be able to see from feedback what he’s been doing, they come under headings chat, web, escort. Some have feedback hidden but not all

nc808080 · 25/09/2025 15:57

When I was on Adultwork and an escort absolutely no one contacted me for photos. They wanted a booking. But than again I never did cam etc.

It was the worst time of my life and put me off men for life. If your H is willing to pay women for services or even just photos etc, he is willing to pay to use someone's body. In whatever way. However you put it, he is seeing women as something that can be bought for his own gratification. That is itself would make me run for the hills.

I'm so sorry.

Tb15887 · 25/09/2025 16:01

Soundofthesea · 25/09/2025 15:08

If you can get his username I can see if I can find his profile. I would possibly be able to see from feedback what he’s been doing, they come under headings chat, web, escort. Some have feedback hidden but not all

I think he has deleted it all now and closed the account unfortunately. I can't bare the unknown. Very confused right now. I appreciate your offer to help tho