Millionaire£ at 23, self made. Feel lost.

[Jonesqua]

I became a millionaire£ at 23.

All happened between 20-23.

Self made, have 3 buy to let houses with 300k£ equity in them rented out. With 750k£ liquid money.

The change happened so fast. All of my friends have regular income , it’s sometimes hard to do things I want to do as income difference.

I am use to making money so quickly that essentially I feel as if I’ve lost touch over it. As no one around me friend wise can relate or I speak with about it. Does anyone else feel like this in a similar situation?

I’ve lost motivation. Feel disconnected from the people around me who I grew up with.

So you googled about feeling disconnected and MN came up and you thought, ah that sounds exactly the sort of place I’ll use to post my existential crisis question.

Dying to know what thread it was that came up - I’m guessing not a parking thread as you’d have solved all your issues immediately getting all irate on behalf of the OP and instantly forgetting all your problems.

And @Jonesqua - there’s a lot of chaff on this thread - hope you’re ok
Hope you can read my earlier post.
i have worked at a high level in film and I understand a little of the disconnection if your background is different.

Working on your beliefs and value systems and what you want to achieve for you is more important than ever x

I agree - very poor comments on this thread.

i Would happily let you clear my mortgage if you are struggling!

Actually some people do give a shit.

But OPs fears are being played out on this thread.

It’s because you can’t reveal your true self to your friends and even if you could, they can’t keep up with you financially. What you need to do, and this is where you are struggling, is to create a new reality for yourself too.
That doesn’t mean you forget your old friends, but you need to expand your life to create a new reality for the financial situation you are now in. This is going to be harder if you are in a small suburban environment, especially if you are still living at home.

You want more from life understandably. But you might have to get out of your comfort zone. Move to London or another big city, start mixing in more well off circles. Presumably you have the contacts for this through work? Move out of home and create independence for yourself.

Alternatively see a therapist to work through the dissonance between the life you could lead and the life you actually have and are reluctant to leave for whatever reason.

Can I have 1,000 please?

All jokes aside i would imagine that is difficult in its own way. You worked hard for your wealth and now can’t really enjoy it. I’m sure a lot of celebrities feel a similar way

i was being honest with my feelings not having to hide them.

There’s such a strong resentment to young people seen having “money. That’s why I haven’t upgraded the car incase it gets keyed.

the thread has more made me realise there’s a lot more jealousy than I originally thought.

not everyone young is an influencer or “of girl”

Tbh I understand it. This is everyone’s life dream. But I have seen it in many of my friends and it’s actually a fucking nightmare. There’s no way people will understand that if they haven’t seen what the removal of any drive to survive in a young person does.

Some get all existential. Some go to ‘find themselves’ and get entirely lost. So persue damaging activity to get the reward system to flicker mundanely. It’s actually really cruel.

So you thought MN was the place 😂😂

What a lot of nonsense

So, there's your problem. Forget about the money for now – if you lost it all tomorrow in some freak accident (think tornado hits the uninsured houses and your bank goes bust) – what would you do? Would you be determined to get back to where you are now or would you go in a different direction, knowing what you know now?

Why do you think the likes of Paul McCartney and the Rolling Stones keep performing? Doubt it's because they're hard up.

I honestly think you need to work on your spiritual side.

You don’t have the day-to-day issues of the commute, working all day, saving for your annual holiday, kids to take to school and clubs, etc, etc

The things everyone else worries about, and live towards every day, are not your concern. It’s no wonder you feel disconnected!

It might sound a bit daft, but perhaps do a course in Bhuddism. Take walks in nature. Swim in the sea. Learn to meditate. Draw and paint just for the sake of it.

These things will all help you reconnect with what is important and you’ll find your way from there. Good luck!

I didn’t know what this site was, I searched up regarding money and a thread came up.

Why would your car get keyed? People have nice cars all the time and they aren't routinely vandalised.

Simple solution: Treat your friends if you have the money and they don't, that way you can go on trips etc together.

Feeling disconnected from reality isn't normal though. You may need to look into that with a therapist.

I think it’s difficult coming into money so young. In my limited experience of people becoming wealthy fast, it’s never enough, particularly if they had very little when they were kids.

So you might feel that £1m isn’t enough to feel secure, and you will feel secure at £5m, yet when you get the £5m, you don’t feel secure and will need £10m then £100m.

This is normal, but I don’t know how you deal with it. Maybe just being aware that it’s a thing may help.

Congratulations on making the money from your talent.

I know you have said you don’t want to give any of it away, but you might consider establishing a free/subsidised service to teach youngsters how to do what you’re doing. Maybe give them a free laptop or other bit of kit up to £1,000 to help them get established in the music industry. If you are involved with the scheme at the beginning, you might get a sense of well-being from helping them.

You’ve reached out for support and I wish you well.

If I had an obnoxious car such as a G wagon and people see a young looking guy getting out.

jealously is mental

Come on MNHQ, bullshit like this is running your site. It puts genuine posters off. I don’t even need to look to know this will be on the reddit sub that talks about mumsnet fantasists.

The clue is in the name.

What you said exactly is correct

i always said when I hit 500k I was set.

then I thought the same when 1m came.

it always is another and never enough

People’s jealousy is really showing in this thread.

Well yes, exactly. But Google is apparently the answer. Ok then 🤔😂

Perhaps moving out of your childhood bedroom would put some distance between you and the immature people? There's plenty of young people driving obnoxious cars about.
But given that supposedly nobody knows you are rich, perhaps you are inflating how much anyone will actually care.

This is why I admire the refugees they have nothing but a zest for life and surviving. Something I’ve never had and I’m not rich.

I remember a post ages ago about a trust fund rich person (50 million) who was a teacher in a local secondary school.

You have to find a purpose in life other than making money because you’ve already done that or you’ll always feel disassociated.

Are you ignoring my question about you ever having a meaningful relationship?