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Anyone else following the Bryan Kohberger case?

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KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 25/07/2025 18:06

Is anyone else following this?

I just caught up on the sentencing - 4 life sentencing. BK is sitting there unmoved and with no reaction whilst the judge have his well thought out and moving judgment.

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AngularMerkin · 25/07/2025 18:17

Yes I have been following, horrifying crime and very chilling to see him sitting there looking so calm and unaffected. He seems to be very much a psychopath. I’m glad the families didn’t have to go through the whole trial and appeal process, though I’m sure some were disappointed to miss the chance of the death penalty for him.

I also feel really sorry for his family, what a terrible thing to live with, having created a child who ended up doing that.

timetochangemename · 25/07/2025 18:24

Yes I have been following the whole story. There’s a 4 part documentary on Prime called ‘One night in Idaho’.

It’s such an awful case but there’s also so many unanswered questions.

KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 25/07/2025 18:37

I'll watch the documentary.

It really is unthinkable what he did to these young people and their families. He does seem psychopathic. No remorse when he gave his plea, which the judge also commented on. There has been mention he's autistic but I don't think that accounts for his demeanor.

I was just watching some do the victim statements. Kaylee's sister laid into him. She said she could sense he was went human. He's clearly evil.

I liked that the judge said he shouldn't be kept relevant and hopefully people won't pay for his story but I'm sure they will.

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SchoolDilemma17 · 25/07/2025 18:38

I read he stabbed one victim 63 times. Clearly a very deranged and disturbed person. Feel so so sorry for the families and victims. Just horrific

timetochangemename · 25/07/2025 20:22

There’s a lot of speculation as to why he did it but unless he authorises a book to be written about it, we’ll never know. They do know that he followed some of the girls on social media and had liked their posts. He was apparently bullied as a kid too so could it be that he targeted kids he considered to be cool and popular, everything he was not when he was at school?

I imagine he had psych evaluation and so must have been fit to stand trial. During the family impact statements, he just looked like he was enjoying it. There were teeny little facial expressions where it seemed almost like he was smirking.

KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 25/07/2025 20:27

timetochangemename · 25/07/2025 20:22

There’s a lot of speculation as to why he did it but unless he authorises a book to be written about it, we’ll never know. They do know that he followed some of the girls on social media and had liked their posts. He was apparently bullied as a kid too so could it be that he targeted kids he considered to be cool and popular, everything he was not when he was at school?

I imagine he had psych evaluation and so must have been fit to stand trial. During the family impact statements, he just looked like he was enjoying it. There were teeny little facial expressions where it seemed almost like he was smirking.

I didn't notice that but it wouldn't surprise me. I think you're right that we'll never know and the judge was urging people not to waste their time thinking about it because it doesn't matter and he may not even tell the truth anyway. People are curious about this sort of thing clearly but I also see why he shouldn't get the attention he probably wants. Even if he seemed like he was enjoying it, he must be devastated to have been caught.

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Nopenousername · 25/07/2025 21:19

Following this case made me realise that there are benefits of living in a world with constant surveillance and data collection

youalright · 25/07/2025 21:23

Kaylee sisters family impact statement in court was amazing. The documentary on prime is definitely worth a watch

50scontentment · 25/07/2025 21:26

timetochangemename · 25/07/2025 20:22

There’s a lot of speculation as to why he did it but unless he authorises a book to be written about it, we’ll never know. They do know that he followed some of the girls on social media and had liked their posts. He was apparently bullied as a kid too so could it be that he targeted kids he considered to be cool and popular, everything he was not when he was at school?

I imagine he had psych evaluation and so must have been fit to stand trial. During the family impact statements, he just looked like he was enjoying it. There were teeny little facial expressions where it seemed almost like he was smirking.

No that's not true he followed them on social media. They didn't actually find any connection between the victims and BK.
The only thing that did happen like that was after he was arrested weirdos made social media profiles in his name and followed the girls.

timetochangemename · 26/07/2025 08:48

50scontentment · 25/07/2025 21:26

No that's not true he followed them on social media. They didn't actually find any connection between the victims and BK.
The only thing that did happen like that was after he was arrested weirdos made social media profiles in his name and followed the girls.

There’s credible reporting that his Insta account followed one of the victims and sent a couple of DM messages which she didn’t see. The family of Kaylee Goncalves also said they have proof of this. There was otherwise no personal connection though. Investigators weren’t able to do much with it as BK’s instagram account was deleted shortly after the murders.

I don’t want to go down a rabbit hole but to me it seems likely he must have looked them up in order to plan it. It seems unlikely that someone as methodical as him would have randomly walked into a frat house. All the details were planned and had it not been for leaving his dna behind, I reckon he would have done it again. Thank goodness he was caught.

KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 26/07/2025 08:58

Following this case made me realise that there are benefits of living in a world with constant surveillance and data collection

Yes! One good thing is that he got caught.

Kaylee sisters family impact statement in court was amazing.

Yes it was and I hope it brought her some closure to tell him those things.

No that's not true he followed them on social media.

I thought he followed them as well.

@timetochangemename I agree. Especially as there's no clear connection with the victims, what's to say he wouldn't have been a serial killer.

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LorettaYoung · 26/07/2025 17:26

I've followed since the beginning when the report came out the next morning of the murder. I thought who the hell did this and kept checking back, unable to believe they hadn't caught anyone yet. But they actually clearly knew it was him quite soon and were building their case etc.

I watched the whole trial and cried during Dylan's statement. It really affected me - I think because my mother survived a similar attack as a young woman before I was born. I felt some anger that he showed no remorse or apology given.

I truly hope the survivors can go on to live as happy a life as possible.

LorettaYoung · 26/07/2025 17:28

Question - is it possible that the Goncalves family identified that he actually was following them before the police could?

Police stated after the trial they'd found no link. But the Goncalves family have stated they went straight on social media to check, whereas the police may still have been crossing their Ts and dotting their Is or whatever the process is?

I wondered about that. People have criticised them for sleuthing or knowing better but I wonder if actually they did some investigate stuff that was true. Maybe not, I'm just curious.

LaLaLandDreams · 26/07/2025 17:30

I suspect he was enjoying himself unfortunately.

timetochangemename · 26/07/2025 19:31

LaLaLandDreams · 26/07/2025 17:30

I suspect he was enjoying himself unfortunately.

I watched some of the impact statements and there was one chap (forgot who he was) who started off by addressing the court and said ‘I’m talking to everyone here…except you (pointing at BK) and he then turned his back on him and started telling nice stories about the victim he was representing.

I just got the feeling BK did NOT like that - he was treated in that moment as a nobody, not important or relevant in any way.

Whoever that guy was, that was a really good shout. I think he could see BK was loving it all and that was the best thing he could have done.

KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 26/07/2025 20:39

LorettaYoung · 26/07/2025 17:28

Question - is it possible that the Goncalves family identified that he actually was following them before the police could?

Police stated after the trial they'd found no link. But the Goncalves family have stated they went straight on social media to check, whereas the police may still have been crossing their Ts and dotting their Is or whatever the process is?

I wondered about that. People have criticised them for sleuthing or knowing better but I wonder if actually they did some investigate stuff that was true. Maybe not, I'm just curious.

I'm not sure I follow. Are you saying that after the police named him as a subject, the family may have done some investigations and seen that BK followed them, but the police did not check until later?

by the time they'd named him you'd think they'd have checked that but I don't know

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youalright · 26/07/2025 22:07

timetochangemename · 26/07/2025 19:31

I watched some of the impact statements and there was one chap (forgot who he was) who started off by addressing the court and said ‘I’m talking to everyone here…except you (pointing at BK) and he then turned his back on him and started telling nice stories about the victim he was representing.

I just got the feeling BK did NOT like that - he was treated in that moment as a nobody, not important or relevant in any way.

Whoever that guy was, that was a really good shout. I think he could see BK was loving it all and that was the best thing he could have done.

I think he hates women so doesn't care about their opinion but he does care what men have to say and do

AngularMerkin · 26/07/2025 23:12

I watched an interesting YouTube video with a body language expert discussing his reactions during the impact statements. He felt that BK enjoyed seeing the women suffering and was very engaged by those statements, but seemed more intimidated when the men spoke. He also appeared to nod in agreement a couple of times when people called him evil.

Spinachpastapicker · 27/07/2025 00:06

There’s a long thread about this in AIBU called something like can’t stop thinking about Idaho murder case. It goes way back with a lot of info/updates as things happened

KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 27/07/2025 10:07

youalright · 26/07/2025 22:07

I think he hates women so doesn't care about their opinion but he does care what men have to say and do

I didn't pick up on that but did think he'd hate what they were saying to him

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KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 27/07/2025 10:07

AngularMerkin · 26/07/2025 23:12

I watched an interesting YouTube video with a body language expert discussing his reactions during the impact statements. He felt that BK enjoyed seeing the women suffering and was very engaged by those statements, but seemed more intimidated when the men spoke. He also appeared to nod in agreement a couple of times when people called him evil.

That's interesting I'll have a look

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IShouldNotCoco · 30/07/2025 12:02

I don’t think the motive is worth considering. Psychopathic murderers kill for the power and control. BK has a very evil look about him.

The more people like him get the attention of everyone holding their breath to find out why he did it, the more power and satisfaction they feel.

KeepcalmandtellthemtoFoff · 30/07/2025 12:53

IShouldNotCoco · 30/07/2025 12:02

I don’t think the motive is worth considering. Psychopathic murderers kill for the power and control. BK has a very evil look about him.

The more people like him get the attention of everyone holding their breath to find out why he did it, the more power and satisfaction they feel.

I think you're right but I think people are also curious as to why he targeted those individuals. I imagine the parents and families want to know but again agree they shouldn't give him the attention.

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Tia247 · 30/07/2025 13:06

I think he's an incel and a psychopath. He killed those kids because they were beautiful, popular and charismatic - none of the things he was. I expect he found them on SM, they had public profiles full of gorgeous photos and he resented the 'perfect', 'easy' lives they were living.