How do you know if you're a good person

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I'm worried I'm not. Does anyone else worry about this and how do you think we can do better?

I am mostly nice to people and will applogise and own up when I'm not (we all get grumpy), and not just because I think I'll go to hell if I'm not (atheiest). I think that makes me pretty good!

There no such thing as a totally good or bad person like Hollywood films

there is a spectrum- a person can have some good and bad traits…some more of one then the other or some equally. Some just neutral not good or bad.

As long as you're not going around hurting people and are helping when possible then you're good. Why don't you think you are?

I would never intentionally hurt anyone & I will stick up for someone if I feel they’re being treated unfairly even if I don’t like that person.

If a person is willing to give up something they need themselves, because somebody else needs it more. They are a good person.

I also love it when a person is modest or humble. Those are usually good people.

Interesting absent not sure if I've been tested on that. I think I can be quite judgemental, though it's mostly inside my own head.

Do you behave fairly and kindly when you have all the power and whoever you’re dealing with has none? And when nobody’s watching? Do you join in when your entire group is bitching about someone? Do you challenge prejudice when you hear or see it? Do you give back to your society? Do you care about the workd you live in?

Just make an effort, that's all you can do. Try and be kind. If an apology is needed then make one. That's all really no?

I would say no one is all good and very few people are all bad. Most people have a mix of good and bad traits. Yes, I do think about these types of questions. In terms of what more we could do, for those of us who are lucky enough to have some savings, there is the question of how much you hang on to and how much you give away to organisations that help others.

A devoutly muslim man I employ told me I am an inherently good person, because I do all I can to help people without expecting any reward in heaven. I had never thought about it that way and it did make me feel good! 😂

I've been struggling with this for a long time — it can be overwhelming and sometimes quite depressing. I often have obsessive thoughts about being a bad person, or even a covert narcissist. But what I've come to realize is this: I have a deep fear of being a bad person. These thoughts aren't necessarily true; they're a reflection of that fear, not evidence that I actually am bad. Do you suffer with anxiety at all?

I don’t think I’m a bad person but I could definitely be a lot better. I’m lazy and not very proactive. I get overwhelmed and have weird little ways that hinder me and if I’m honest, hinder my children too.

I never wish ill on anyone but often feel envious of others if they seem to be doing better than me.

But I’m kind and I’m not needlessly bitchy. I don’t like injustice and believe everyone should be treated with respect.

Actually I don't think that's true. You're neither good nor bad in that situation.
Good people make the world a bit better for them being in it. That might mean smiling at neighbours, doing a job that improves the world in some way, volunteering, being decent to your kids so they are good people, helping someone however small or big, saying something encouraging, giving loads of your money away to a decent cause, campaigning to stop something bad or make something better. If unable to do things due to disability or ill health or circumstance just being decent in every day interactions can bring joy to others.

There are lots of people who aren't good, but they are equally not bad. They go through life doing stuff that is essentially just to benefit themselves and/or their family. Have a job that doesn't improve the world but doesn't harm it. Are superficially nice but don't do any thing to improve others lives if they have the ability.
They aren't evil but just there.

I don’t have my phone volume on in public places without using headphones.

I really appreciate you for that.

This sounds like something Trump would say about himself 😂

I think I am a good person, but I have certainly done some bad things that I am sorry about.

I try to be patient and kind and to do good things. Don't always manage!

I like to think I'm a good person. The world would cope if there were more of me around

I'm trying to raise my children to have the skills to be pleasant, productive adults that care about and contribute to the world around them.
I do voluntary work supporting my community.
My career has been about enhancing people.

I try not to be gratuitously rude, destructive or wasteful.
I try to be concious of others and the world around me.

I think I'm pretty decent.

I dunno?

I.mean most of what people consider makes a " good person" seems to be what should imo be regular behaviour.

Although if you find yourself being taken for granted, treated like crap/taken for a.mug and generally just being used on a regular basis its probably a sign that maybe you are too good a person or at least less combative, more forgiving, more stupid and try to hard to see the good that doesn't exist in others at least.

Don’t be a snake. Don’t stitch anyone up. Be as kind as possible.

I think it's an ongoing process rather than a fixed state. So instead of abstractly being a good person, we've got to keep doing good things.

This might feel tiring but it's also hopeful. We can all try to do something good today, even if we didn't manage it yesterday. Where there's life, there's hope.

I think because you are pondering the question and worry that you may not be answers your own question.

Anyone who styles themselves as nice or does things to attract attention to their alleged good works can be viewed with suspicion. It’s like any current cause at any given period when fashionable attracts people that are absolutely not nice, it’s easy to hide in plain site. Of course the genuine ones get lost in the mire.

I like that sellenis, yes we keep trying.

Well, I don't think I am, really. I strongly suspect I have a personality disorder of some sort because I struggle with empathy and I have to think about how I might be expected to react to something and do that, whereas if I'm left to my own devices I probably wouldn't have a reaction at all. I do what's expected of me and I don't think I hurt people, but that's pretty bare minimum stuff. I think people who are good go beyond the bare minimum.