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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 25/07/2025 12:14

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 11:57

Every bedroom with an en suite and a beautiful kitchen with a huge, shiny island.

And a hallway the size of my sitting room. No falling over school bags, shoes, wet umbrellas...

Off topic, but it's why I like Outnumbered - the house is so real 😁

AllTheAll · 25/07/2025 12:41

I certainly missed the memo on en and em dashes.

Here's a laugh for the weekend

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ky0YOo7_Y0o

Before you continue to YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ky0YOo7_Y0o

CaptainMyCaptain · 25/07/2025 12:48

AussieManque · 25/07/2025 09:06

I've heard before they are connected to chatGPT but I always get long dashes in Word. If you type a word, then leave a space, then a dash, then another space, and keep typing a word then space, the dash lengthens. So OP might have typed this in word first.

I didn't know about the dashes but the whole thing seemed like AI to me.

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 12:56

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 10:21

No! You're already beaten on that by about 20 posters.

Well that’s 21 of us then. What’s your point?

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 12:58

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 12:56

Well that’s 21 of us then. What’s your point?

That loads of people keep their numbers for a long time. Longer than you'd think.
Surely that was obvious? People have been discussing this very thing.

MushMonster · 25/07/2025 13:04

Let's just say.... if I cannot recognise a former colleague and have not heard of them for years.... they are not coming anywhere near my family home!
I would send them the link to some local accomodation and write back " oh mate, how rotten for you, I hope you sort it soon and get on with your holiday!". Maximum I would do is meeting them up for coffee trying to find them a place or give them directions. But not my home! No way!

newhouseplans · 25/07/2025 13:10

My boss uses em dashes. Is she a bot too?!

whackamole666 · 25/07/2025 13:11

AlecTrevelyan006 · 25/07/2025 09:46

I asked Chat GTP to turn the OP into an outline script for three-part tv drama series of approximately 45minutes per episode. This is what it came up with.
Title: “The Guests"
Genre: Psychological Drama / Mystery
Format: 3 Episodes (45 minutes each)

Episode 1: "The Doorstep"
Act 1: The Arrival

  • The story begins with Helen (late 50s, sharp, emotionally guarded) returning home from work to find four strangers in her living room.
  • Her husband David (also late 50s, mild-mannered, people-pleaser) introduces the family: Graham (ex-colleague), his wife Rachel, their son Jamie, and Jamie’s girlfriend Maya.
  • Helen is visibly alarmed. The tension is palpable between her and David. He pleads, “It’s just for one night.”
Act 2: Strangers in the House
  • Dinner is awkward. The guests are evasive, giving vague responses about where they live and what they do.
  • Helen begins to notice their strange behavior — the son and girlfriend barely speak, Graham misremembers key facts from David’s past, and Rachel is withdrawn.
  • Flashbacks subtly show Graham and David at work in the early 2000s — but we start to suspect that David doesn't quite remember this man clearly either.
Act 3: Uneasy Shelter
  • Next morning, Helen leaves early for work. David texts asking her to bring groceries.
  • Helen starts feeling manipulated — her home is no longer her own.
  • That evening, the guests are still there. David seems more anxious.
  • Helen insists they leave tomorrow. Graham smiles weakly but offers no firm commitment.

Cliffhanger: That night, Helen checks the doorcam footage. She watches the footage from their arrival again — the way Graham looked around the house carefully. Not like an old friend. More like someone casing the place.

Love this! I'd watch it:-)

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 13:19

I’m sure I’ve read fictional stories with strangers rocking up and taking over. The Knock knock film with Ryan Reynolds has a similar theme and it turns very nasty there. I didn’t actually finish that film it was so horrible.
I don’t understand how people can be so manipulative or not think of an alternative way out of their situation though , most wouldn’t even dream of doing this unless it was relatives or someone they knew well. They would use credit cards and pay for a hotel or air b and b or whatever or just go home if they couldn’t find anything.

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 13:30

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

So hang on… your husband admits he barely knew this man at the time; to the point that, when he wasn’t sure he recognised him, he thought he could have mixed him up with someone else? Yet later on, his memory of this man and his time at the company was so good that he can be absolutely sure which team he worked in, and that he had interaction with a particular manager? That just doesn’t make sense.

One of my closest friends is a former colleague. She is still very friendly with someone else who worked for the same company after I left. Each and every time she meets up with this person it’s “You know Nikki, from K-PEX? You must remember Nikki!” And each and every time I remind her that Nikki started after I left and I’ve never clapped eyes on the woman. And that’s one of my best friends misremembering all of this, never mind someone I haven’t seen since 2009!

The simplest explanation is normally the correct one. What’s more likely - that someone your husband never knew somehow managed to get hold of his mobile number and pretended to be someone he slightly knew instead in an elaborate scam to get a bed for a few nights? Or that this man was exactly who he said he was, and your husband had indeed mixed Steve Smith up with Steve Jones; hence SS didn’t look like he remembered and had actually worked in Sales rather than Marketing?

Empress13 · 25/07/2025 13:32

I have one question how the hell did you sleep at night knowing there were 4 strangers in the rooms next to you ?? I’m sorry but your husband needs a bloody good shake WTF! He needs to man up. Surely the man’s voice , mannerisms anything would have triggered his memory? I would be livid that he could potentially have put your lives in danger

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 13:33

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 12:58

That loads of people keep their numbers for a long time. Longer than you'd think.
Surely that was obvious? People have been discussing this very thing.

Surely it should be obvious to you that, as I’d quoted the original post about it, I did so after reading it rather than thinking “Ooh, better just check the next ten pages in case someone else has said the same?”

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 13:39

Does it matter? @SmurfnoffIce Seriously.

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 14:01

It mattered enough for you to comment…

Redheadedstepchild · 25/07/2025 14:16

Empress13 · 25/07/2025 13:32

I have one question how the hell did you sleep at night knowing there were 4 strangers in the rooms next to you ?? I’m sorry but your husband needs a bloody good shake WTF! He needs to man up. Surely the man’s voice , mannerisms anything would have triggered his memory? I would be livid that he could potentially have put your lives in danger

Even if they didn't know each other that well at work, and even if it was a long time ago, it would be the only thing they had in common, so wouldn't some kind of old typesetting industry banter/exchange of anecdotes about an old boss or notable collegue take place?

Even if I was a foreign spy or alien shapeshifter, I would have some kind of convincing, "Remember the old days?" banter prepared by my handlers or commanders.

Even if it was all fake, it would serve to confuse the subject and make brainwashing easier in the future.

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 14:20

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 14:01

It mattered enough for you to comment…

Yes, indeed. How long have you had that particular number? I think the record on here is 30 years. Was it 1-2-1 or an early BT device? Mine was one of those Nokia bricks. A classic now.

MascaraGirl · 25/07/2025 14:43

MushMonster · 25/07/2025 13:04

Let's just say.... if I cannot recognise a former colleague and have not heard of them for years.... they are not coming anywhere near my family home!
I would send them the link to some local accomodation and write back " oh mate, how rotten for you, I hope you sort it soon and get on with your holiday!". Maximum I would do is meeting them up for coffee trying to find them a place or give them directions. But not my home! No way!

This! I just can't understand how the DH came to invite them over in the first place, why on earth did he get so involved?

LemonLass · 25/07/2025 14:53

Gabitule · 24/07/2025 23:56

This reminds me of what happened to me some years ago.

I was living with my boyfriend and my best friend in a 1 bedroom flat. From the bedroom you had to go through the living room to get to the kitchen, so not much privacy.

I was a student and also working in a bar doing shifts. One of my former work colleagues was a young girl of similar age. We’d only meet each-other when we changed shifts so I wouldn’t say that we were friends.

One year my best friend and I went back to our parents’ home for the summer holiday. My boyfriend remained at home. While we were gone, apparently my former work colleague turned up at the door saying that she had been kicked out by her boyfriend and could she stay the night? My boyfriend has a heart of gold so he agreed. Obviously the girl did not leave the following day as she had nowhere to go….As far as I remember, she was working part time at the time but didn’t earn enough to rent somewhere.
Over the following days her mother and dog kept visiting. It turns out the mother and dog also lived with the girl’s ex bf and had also been kicked out. They stayed with some acquaintance for a few nights but could not continue living there. My boyfriend also invited the unemployed mother and dog to stay.

Some days/ weeks later when my best friend and I returned home we found ourselves sharing our 1 bed flat with the girl, her mother and their dog. You can’t imagine how difficult it was to get rid of them… After trying all sort of things one night my boyfriend completely lost it and kicked them out. I have no idea where they slept that night and on subsequent and I do feel a bit sorry for them but omg, they were like leeches, constantly trying to take advantage, going through our things, lying. After they left we found multiple bottles of alcohol under their bed (where did they found the money for it?) and my best friend and I realised that the girl had given us lice, which explained why she was always scratching her head!
The moral of the story is that men are a bit idiotic :)

Hi @Gabitule
Now I am fascinated why someone you barely knew but only passed whilst changing work shifts knew your address?

diddl · 25/07/2025 15:10

I don't think we're particularly gullible.

😂😂😂

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 18:27

This reply has been withdrawn

Withdrawn at authors request

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 18:47

ButtCheeks · 25/07/2025 08:18

I’ve had the same number since the first laying of telecommunications cables under the Atlantic seabed several lifetimes ago.

Thread winner!!! 😂😂

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 19:07

AlecTrevelyan006 · 25/07/2025 09:46

I asked Chat GTP to turn the OP into an outline script for three-part tv drama series of approximately 45minutes per episode. This is what it came up with.
Title: “The Guests"
Genre: Psychological Drama / Mystery
Format: 3 Episodes (45 minutes each)

Episode 1: "The Doorstep"
Act 1: The Arrival

  • The story begins with Helen (late 50s, sharp, emotionally guarded) returning home from work to find four strangers in her living room.
  • Her husband David (also late 50s, mild-mannered, people-pleaser) introduces the family: Graham (ex-colleague), his wife Rachel, their son Jamie, and Jamie’s girlfriend Maya.
  • Helen is visibly alarmed. The tension is palpable between her and David. He pleads, “It’s just for one night.”
Act 2: Strangers in the House
  • Dinner is awkward. The guests are evasive, giving vague responses about where they live and what they do.
  • Helen begins to notice their strange behavior — the son and girlfriend barely speak, Graham misremembers key facts from David’s past, and Rachel is withdrawn.
  • Flashbacks subtly show Graham and David at work in the early 2000s — but we start to suspect that David doesn't quite remember this man clearly either.
Act 3: Uneasy Shelter
  • Next morning, Helen leaves early for work. David texts asking her to bring groceries.
  • Helen starts feeling manipulated — her home is no longer her own.
  • That evening, the guests are still there. David seems more anxious.
  • Helen insists they leave tomorrow. Graham smiles weakly but offers no firm commitment.

Cliffhanger: That night, Helen checks the doorcam footage. She watches the footage from their arrival again — the way Graham looked around the house carefully. Not like an old friend. More like someone casing the place.

No, the cliff-hanger is that after guests leave Helen and David check their doorcam footage and THERE IS NOBODY ON IT except Helen and David coming and going.....

SecondVerseSameAsThe1st · 25/07/2025 19:16

Richiewoo · 25/07/2025 06:02

This is a load of nonsense.

It has been from the start. 🙄

ChilliHeelerluckedout · 25/07/2025 19:18

doodleschnoodle · 24/07/2025 22:39

I am HERE for this thread.

🤣

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 25/07/2025 19:25

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 14:20

Yes, indeed. How long have you had that particular number? I think the record on here is 30 years. Was it 1-2-1 or an early BT device? Mine was one of those Nokia bricks. A classic now.

My first house telephone number was 2 digits so I win the thread. And the Internet.
🏆