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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

OP posts:
IGuessIllbetheFirst · 25/07/2025 09:54

So would I! And then not sleep very well and get up several times during the night to make sure everything was locked!

cosimarama · 25/07/2025 09:55

FleurDeFleur · 24/07/2025 23:49

What's the point of showing the pictures then?

Because if it’s real, photos of people’s faces will get the thread pulled. If we could see the gang in action it would lend some credibility to this wild tale. Not sure chatgpt can generate a convincing image of this sullen family and their strawberry punnet.

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 09:56

R0ckandHardPlace · 25/07/2025 09:26

I think that CF Dad has shit on your DH. Maybe he knows that he was embezzling millions from the mutual company before you upped sticks and relocated to start a new life. He’s back and wants a piece of the pie, so he’s hatched this plan to make DH sweat and eventually hand over a chunk of his ill gotten gains.

Then in episode 6 we’ll discover that the entire CF family were killed in an RTA six months previously and you’ve been blackmailed by ghosts.

That's a very good call. Remember to include the Aldi chocolate.

Womblingmerrily · 25/07/2025 09:57

So your husband let them in, said you were embarrassing him because you quite rightly questioned this,then texted you to bring more food - making you go shopping after your work for them and then finally stropped off leaving you to change beds and clear up.

Your husband is a bigger fool than a bungalow, more like a tower block level of fool - how could you tolerate this?

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 09:58

cosimarama · 25/07/2025 09:55

Because if it’s real, photos of people’s faces will get the thread pulled. If we could see the gang in action it would lend some credibility to this wild tale. Not sure chatgpt can generate a convincing image of this sullen family and their strawberry punnet.

Perhaps that would be the clincher. A blurry image of 4 Alien shapeshifters innocent visitors clutching half a punnet of strawberries.

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 09:59

It would definitely be a channel 5 drama starring Jill halfpenny or Sheridan smith and set in Ireland pretending to be London. Would involve a house with a curtain pulled back to reveal a character who is in hiding ( reference to an old drama involving a curtain reveal of Pauline from ‘ the teacher ‘drama)
It’s good that they didn’t try anything too sinister though. They sound really strange.

Wineberrywine · 25/07/2025 10:00

Lifelifelife21 · 25/07/2025 09:30

Would love for this to turn out to be something bizarre but if I had to guess what had actually happened it would be…

Guy who worked very briefly at your DH’s old work (maybe not even at the same time!) posts on Facebook asking if anyone knows anyone in your area as they have accommodation problem and your DH’s name and number comes up from another colleague. He calls your DH and says they used to work together (maybe a white lie!) and your DH wrongly assumes he’s someone else.

Oh and they just happen to be weird CFs!

I think it's probably something along those lines.

I see a number of people had the homelessness response too. That's reminded me that we have a neighbour down the road who lets her house to holidaymakers during the summer and stays on a campsite in a tent while people pay to sleep in her home. I wondered whether they were locals who'd let their place out and had been rained out of wherever it was they were staying. We're out west and have had torrential showers and localised flooding in the last couple of weeks.

There will turn out to be some connection between the impostors and someone DH worked with. I have to get ready for work now and do some clearing up.

Oh, whoops — I nearly forgot to include an em dash in order to confirm that this was written with AI.

OP posts:
MrMucker · 25/07/2025 10:03

The three parter through chatgp is outstanding!

I believe what actually happened was op had to tolerate a 3 hour visit from her in-laws family, made excuses, and hid in the bedroom to convert her grievances into a Tales of The Unexpected episode.
The final big reveal is... just that.

klallen · 25/07/2025 10:04

Let it be known I am here reading this before it got turned into a true crime Netflix special!

AlecTrevelyan006 · 25/07/2025 10:06

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 09:59

It would definitely be a channel 5 drama starring Jill halfpenny or Sheridan smith and set in Ireland pretending to be London. Would involve a house with a curtain pulled back to reveal a character who is in hiding ( reference to an old drama involving a curtain reveal of Pauline from ‘ the teacher ‘drama)
It’s good that they didn’t try anything too sinister though. They sound really strange.

Jason Watkins as the dad. Neil Morrissey as the dodgy friend and Amanda Abbington as his wife.

XiCi · 25/07/2025 10:08

If I was your DH I'd be contacting the colleagues I was still in touch with, see if they could shed any light on the situation

SecretCS · 25/07/2025 10:09

namechangedjustforthisthreadtoday · 25/07/2025 09:31

I feel your pain, OP. I have a background in typography and typesetting and do a fair bit of copyrighting in my current role, and can no longer use my beloved en and em dashes for this reason.

If you Google it you will find many designers and writers bemoaning the downfall of the em dash!

I'm a civil servant and everyone i know in our dept uses en and em dashes in our written documents and briefings. I didnt even realise there were AI issues with them!

Studyunder · 25/07/2025 10:09

Wineberrywine · 25/07/2025 09:37

I feel your pain, OP. I have a background in typography and typesetting and do a fair bit of copyrighting in my current role, and can no longer use my beloved en and em dashes for this reason.
If you Google it you will find many designers and writers bemoaning the downfall of the em dash!

I had no idea. After giving up on the idea of typesetting as a career I spent a few years as a secretary and worked for a solicitor who hated brackets and semi-colons and favoured dashes and colons, so that became my ingrained style. I don't intend to give it up.

I’ve been taught but can never remember all the correct grammar rules. I get by adequately in life and have more important concerns so don’t worry to much about being 100% correct. I’m a fan of using a dash - but haven’t considered why exactly.
There are several things about AI which annoy me. I didn’t know a dash was a common feature of it - definitely won’t stop me using it - wonder if I’ll subconsciously use it more or less in future because of this post?—🤔-

WitchesofPainswick · 25/07/2025 10:09

This is so bizarre. I can't believe your DH got mad, even though he actually fessed up that he wasn't sure he knew the guy!!!

I'd change all your internet passwords, including your router, as a bare minimum, and keep a very close eye on all your bank transactions.

Ava40 · 25/07/2025 10:10

Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

Sounds like a film I've watched

MascaraGirl · 25/07/2025 10:13

I'm incredulous that the DH didn't direct them to the nearest Travelodge!

Londonmummy66 · 25/07/2025 10:13

Not read the whole thread - just OPs posts - so apols if already mentioned but I'd keep a very close eye on your bank accounts and credit card statements and your credit score just in case they have copied anything in order to commit identity fraud.

AussieManque · 25/07/2025 10:15

Londonmummy66 · 25/07/2025 10:13

Not read the whole thread - just OPs posts - so apols if already mentioned but I'd keep a very close eye on your bank accounts and credit card statements and your credit score just in case they have copied anything in order to commit identity fraud.

Yes and probably worth registering to that system that requires extra checks for financial transactions, it costs something like 40 GBP a year. My bank signed me up once when they lost some of my documents, I can't remember what the system is called.

TonTonMacoute · 25/07/2025 10:16

Strong Raynor Winn vibes from this story!

I have to say I use dashes at lot, but I always use the hyphen. In fact I've only discovered the em dash on my iPad following this thread (also ex publishing/book production).

whitewineandsun · 25/07/2025 10:18

Womblingmerrily · 25/07/2025 09:57

So your husband let them in, said you were embarrassing him because you quite rightly questioned this,then texted you to bring more food - making you go shopping after your work for them and then finally stropped off leaving you to change beds and clear up.

Your husband is a bigger fool than a bungalow, more like a tower block level of fool - how could you tolerate this?

The level of ick I would have!

AlecTrevelyan006 👏

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 10:19

Internaut · 24/07/2025 23:44

Has your husband kept the same phone number for 16 years? That's moderately unusual.

Is it? I’ve had mine for about 20 years.

IleftmybaginNewportPagnell · 25/07/2025 10:19

klallen · 25/07/2025 10:04

Let it be known I am here reading this before it got turned into a true crime Netflix special!

It’s like seeing a band before they made it big.

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 10:21

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 10:19

Is it? I’ve had mine for about 20 years.

No! You're already beaten on that by about 20 posters.

Itiswhysofew · 25/07/2025 10:22

There's no way I'd let an ex colleague from way back, who I barely knew, stay in my home. What an absolute cheek to even phone you to ask. They should've gone straight back home, slept in their car or found a hotel for the night, which is exactly what I'd do in that situation.

CFs of the highest order. You're right to be livid.

BufferingAgain · 25/07/2025 10:28

I use em dashes a lot too at work. However, I’ve noticed Chat GPT puts them in much more frequently than your average person - and in unnatural places. (I use normal hyphens on phone as can’t be bothered to work out how to turn into em dashes.) So when I see Facebook posts etc with em dashes, as well as bullet points and style more formal than that person normally uses, it’s just another clue that it could be AI. Though not conclusive!