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Impostor guests: our 3-night emergency guests weren't who they said they were

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Wineberrywine · 24/07/2025 22:30

Sorry this is so long. DH and I, late 50s, moved a couple of years ago, once the children had flown, to a coastal area popular with holidaymakers.

Last week DH had a call from someone who used to work in the same company as him ages ago. He left that company in 2009. He'd barely known this man when they worked together but they were part of a work fantasy football league and they occasionally went with a few other guys from work to watch the football in RL. So they had each other's numbers but hadn't had any contact for years.

Out of the blue the ex-colleague called saying he and his wife and son and son's girlfriend had been staying in a holiday chalet in our area, but the roof had started leaking badly in torrential rain, the beds and carpets were damp and the owner had been unable to organise alternative accommodation. Could DH help them?

I wasn't around when this guy called. I came home from work to find four strangers in my living room and DH looking anxious — I assumed because he thought I'd be furious, which I was, it was the last thing I needed to have to deal with. DH was like 'What was I supposed to say?' and got defensive when I said that what he should have said was 'No.'

I suggested I find them an AirBnB and they said they hadn't budgeted for that. DH kept saying we could all manage for one night, surely, and so they ended up having dinner with us and then staying. We have a spare double room that the parents slept in, and a single room/office that the girl slept in and the son slept on the sofa. I was working an early next day. According to DH they got up late and sat around watching Netflix and scrolling all day. They hadn't brought food with them (odd as they were supposed to be self-catering) so he fed them and texted me to do a shop on my way home because we were practically out of everything and he didn't want to leave them in the house alone. They said they were negotiating with the owner of the chalet and they hoped they'd have alternative accommodation by the end of the day but when I got back with a full load of shopping they said they'd heard nothing and could they stay another night.

There was something weird about them: they weren't friendly or helpful and they avoided giving any info about themselves. The son and girlfriend were almost mute and spent a lot of time up in the room she was using unless they were eating or watching TV. The wife was silent and sullen, even when I took her aside on my own and tried to talk to her one-to-one, and her husband was edgy. I asked where they were living, for example, and he said they lived in the Rugby area but they hadn't lived there long and weren't planning to stay there — and that was it. It was all strained and odd. DH was reminiscing about things that had happened when they worked together and the ex-colleague couldn't seem to remember much at all.

DH and I were terse with each other but he was 'Well, they'll be gone tomorrow'. Next day they had things packed and ready to go when I went off at 11.30am for a later shift, but when I got back that evening they were still there, finishing dinner and DH looking very stressed. I said this was getting ridiculous, they needed to be out by 10am the following morning and surely they'd be happier at home than hanging out here. They all disappeared to their rooms. DH took me aside and said I was embarrassing him. We had a horrible night not speaking to each other and not able to discuss what was going on in case they heard us.

Next day I was off work and they left after breakfast. Barely made eye contact, thanked DH, got in their car and left. DH and I had a huge row. He said I was unreasonable and had been unwelcoming. He stormed off into town and left me to strip beds and sort stuff out.

Yesterday, five days after they left, DH said that he was beginning to wonder if the guy was who he said he was. He hadn't recognised him when he turned up on the doorstep with his family, but as they'd both gone grey and the other guy had lost a lot of hair and grown a beard, it was difficult to say for sure. They'd barely known each other when they worked together, maybe he'd muddled him up with another colleague. He'd grown suspicious when the man has said he worked for a different department to the one DH remembered he was in and couldn't remember one of the managers who had been very prominent during their time there and is now quite well-known.

Both DH and I have tried phoning the number they used to contact DH but the phone hasn't been answered. DH has tried contacting the old number he had for his colleague back in the noughties but it doesn't appear to be in use.

I have the registration number of their car and I took some sneaky photos of them when they were here because I'd felt something wasn't right. They're also on our doorcam.

There must be some connection somwhere. This guy knew DH's number and where he'd worked and the name of another colleague, but not much more than that. I can't make up my mind whether to follow this up and try and trace him and find out what was going on or whether to let it go. What would you do? DH is now thinking we need to replace the door locks.

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ForJollyLemonZebra · 25/07/2025 10:32

Caravan park would have been obligated to put them somewhere...very strange !
Think everything is not as it seems

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 25/07/2025 10:34

@AlecTrevelyan006 👏 👏

Let me on know when it's on — I want to set it to record (old school here!).

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 25/07/2025 10:36

BufferingAgain · 25/07/2025 10:28

I use em dashes a lot too at work. However, I’ve noticed Chat GPT puts them in much more frequently than your average person - and in unnatural places. (I use normal hyphens on phone as can’t be bothered to work out how to turn into em dashes.) So when I see Facebook posts etc with em dashes, as well as bullet points and style more formal than that person normally uses, it’s just another clue that it could be AI. Though not conclusive!

Thanks to this thread I found the actual em dash on my phone (hold hyphen for options).
I was being lazy before and just used hyphen.

ChompandaGrazia · 25/07/2025 10:41

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 09:59

It would definitely be a channel 5 drama starring Jill halfpenny or Sheridan smith and set in Ireland pretending to be London. Would involve a house with a curtain pulled back to reveal a character who is in hiding ( reference to an old drama involving a curtain reveal of Pauline from ‘ the teacher ‘drama)
It’s good that they didn’t try anything too sinister though. They sound really strange.

And it wouldn’t be an ordinary 3 bed semi — it would be a large modern house like you get on grand designs with a huge front door and open plan living.

RedRoss86 · 25/07/2025 10:42

So they were on holidays but did nothing but sit around on Netflix & scroll?

I'd be searching the man's name on FB & LinkedIn ...

Whole bloody thing is bizzare.

RedRoss86 · 25/07/2025 10:42

So they were on holidays but did nothing but sit around on Netflix & scroll?

I'd be searching the man's name on FB & LinkedIn ...

Whole bloody thing is bizzare.

Fcs1985 · 25/07/2025 10:47

Wow, I would fully change locks, check for anything off, make sure all valued property is still there. Google reverse search images see if it comes up with any details for them. I'd of probably fed them n sent them on there way while investigating. But I want h too much crime drama xx

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 10:56

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 07:03

Weird! If true I would take the photos to the holiday park and see if they stayed there. Show the photo to colleagues. Then if they are fakers phone the police!!! Let banks etc know immediately.

Yes, and the owners of the holiday park will happily give out guest information to any old nobody who walks in off the street! Why wouldn’t they?

Are you one of those posters who suggests people who think their partners are having an affair go to the hotel and ask to see the CCTV?

namechangedforvalidreasons · 25/07/2025 10:57

Happyhandbag56 · 24/07/2025 23:13

OP, you have not written this post then in only 19 minutes decided you aren’t going to dig for more info?!

Where’s the poster who got all those cryptic messages about her DH having an affair a few weeks back? The one that turned out to be her DH’s ex gf from way back? She will definitely help you solve this!

Anyone got a link to the ex-GF thread mentioned by @Happyhandbag56 - interest officially piqued!

I have a certain degree of sympathy for OP’s DH, I imagine it spiralled…

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 10:59

LittleCosette · 25/07/2025 07:29

This person’s reaction to someone being called a “bungalow” is by far the weirdest post on this thread- so hyperbolic!

Wasn’t one of Joan Collins’s husbands nicknamed “Bungalow Bill” - because he had nothing upstairs, but plenty downstairs?

Widower2014 · 25/07/2025 11:05

If you are that concerned, go to police. You have photos, phone numbers and car details. Hopefully they won't laugh at your husband for being so stupid and letting four complete strangers into your house and you didn't get robbed/worse

Rinks80 · 25/07/2025 11:06

Should have easily avoided the situation by not giving them your address. It happened so deal with the situation together instead of making it worse for each other.

gotmyknickersinatwist · 25/07/2025 11:09

Wineberrywine · 25/07/2025 09:27

Glad to have provided so many people so much entertainment. No idea where to start answering all the questions and I'm working today.

My dad was a typesetter. Started on Fleet Street and had an old Linotype machine in the garage at home which he used sometimes to typeset novels for a couple of small publishers. I briefly contemplated following him into typesetting and learned to use en and em dashes from him. That would have been a short career. Fascinated to know than em dashes now 'proves' I'm using AI.

How bizarre. I use those dashes all the time! I didn't know what they were called, or that they were an indicator of AI.
People love to play sleuth & get a 'gotcha'.

VintedoreBay · 25/07/2025 11:12

@Wineberrywine but have you called a locksmith out yet?!!!!

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 11:15

Widower2014 · 25/07/2025 11:05

If you are that concerned, go to police. You have photos, phone numbers and car details. Hopefully they won't laugh at your husband for being so stupid and letting four complete strangers into your house and you didn't get robbed/worse

What would the police do? Being given permission to stay in someone's home isn't a crime.

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 11:19

The police wouldn’t be interested. Her Dh let them in the house. They might log it or something, but I doubt they would do a lot to be honest.

SweetnsourNZ · 25/07/2025 11:20

ChompandaGrazia · 25/07/2025 10:41

And it wouldn’t be an ordinary 3 bed semi — it would be a large modern house like you get on grand designs with a huge front door and open plan living.

And high ceilings with huge tall windows.

Vodkamummy · 25/07/2025 11:29

Change the locks and move on. You let them stay in your home, don't let them stay in your head.

BeagleHound1 · 25/07/2025 11:47

I think the most likely thing is they’re homeless and doing this scam to get accommodation and food as a group- scarey though . Could you report to police via 101. It’s not exactly a crime at this point but if others not similar odd occurrences.. …

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 11:48

BeagleHound1 · 25/07/2025 11:47

I think the most likely thing is they’re homeless and doing this scam to get accommodation and food as a group- scarey though . Could you report to police via 101. It’s not exactly a crime at this point but if others not similar odd occurrences.. …

Are you actually serious? How on earth is this story a police matter?

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 25/07/2025 11:48

SmurfnoffIce · 25/07/2025 10:59

Wasn’t one of Joan Collins’s husbands nicknamed “Bungalow Bill” - because he had nothing upstairs, but plenty downstairs?

because he had nothing upstairs, but plenty downstairs

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Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 11:53

OP - are you going to do any sleuthing?

Sandyoldelbows · 25/07/2025 11:55

I apologise for jumping on your em dashes- they have been a very useful way of spotting AI students’ work recently. Especially when you ask them to show you how they made the mark and they can’t!

FleurDeFleur · 25/07/2025 11:57

SweetnsourNZ · 25/07/2025 11:20

And high ceilings with huge tall windows.

Every bedroom with an en suite and a beautiful kitchen with a huge, shiny island.

the80sweregreat · 25/07/2025 12:01

At least with the neighbour drama on ch 5 recently the houses were fairly normal ones.
Usually they are huge with lots of space and very grand.