Was I selfish to have my DS?

[Devilsmommy]

My DS who is almost 3 is going to be seeing an audiologist soon to have his ears checked as he is still not talking at all. I was told that if it turns out that his ears are fine then I'd need to start the process of getting him assessed for possible autism as the not talking isn't the only issue he has. So it got me thinking, I was 36 when he was born and my DH was 53. I've heard that older parents children are more at risk for developing autism so I'm thinking, was I completely selfish when I decided to have him? If he does have something wrong then that's my fault isn't it? My DS is such a happy little boy and I don't want him to have a harder life than he needs to. Obviously if he was autistic that wouldn't change the way I feel about him in the slightest but I just feel so guilty that I put him in that position. Has anyone had anything similar and how did you deal with it. TIA

I was 26 and my husband was in his 30s when we had our son and he is moderately deaf across all levels and autistic , it isn’t you , it is just life .

@Mumof2amazingasdkiddos your post made me laugh, sorry😂 I do already narrate everything to him, I always did, have got many strange looks when out and about 😂 I'll try the ten seconds thing and see what happens. Thank you for your lovely post😊

Honestly there's times I genuinely look back on the many phones calls to my mam where I'm crying and despairing I'll never have a conversation with my DD (eldest, I was way more relaxed with DS as I knew it would click one day and he would talk) and think "you had no idea how good you had it" 😂 I'm obviously not making light of it as i do understand the genuine feelings of sadness and worry and all the emotions 🥰

Neither me or DH is autistic though a couple of my nieces are on the pathway for assessment