School faux pas

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I'm mortified and I need help coming off the ledge as I have to take my dd into school today.

I've been taking a classmate of my dd home a couple of days a week as a favour as the mum has just had a baby and doesn't drive.

Yesterday, I collected the boy as usual and was just loading him and my dc in the car when the dad comes running up to the car. No one mentioned I didn't need to take him home but my husband says I should have checked every day to see if he still needed a lift. I just feel really embarrassed thinking everyone who saw thinks I'm a child kidnapper or something and I have another 10 years left at this school!

Was it so bad? Is it not on them to tell me they didn't need me to pick him up or am I just really irresponsible?

I think going forward you just need to text the mum and say you don’t mind helping out but due to the mix up yesterday, you’ll only collect on the days she specifically asks for help. Otherwise you will assume DC is being taken care of.

There is a safeguarding aspect to this too. The school should not be handing a child over to anyone they didn’t think was specifically collecting that child on that day. The school had therefore been informed that you were collecting, hence the child was released to you. Very poor on the other child’s parents to not update you or the school. You have done nothing wrong.

Nope , not embarrassing at all .
You’ve been helping them / doing them a favour and it wasn’t your fault you weren’t told that you didn’t need to pick up the child that day

It’s their fault not yours. If they did not inform you of a change of plan then how would you possibly know?

Embarrasing is when you are supposed to be collecting another child with yours and you forget - ask me how I know
What you did was nothing OP, chill out