When did you really feel like an adult?

[TheRedGoose]

For me it was when I learned as a teenager and young adult to stay away from people and situations that cause constant drama. I see it on here all the time with people talking about new partners or friends who bring a heap of trouble with them. It made me feel like I had truly grown up when I was able to identify this and just go no way do I want to be part of this.

What about you?

Since I was 18 years old, I have had to be the adult in the room.

I'll let you know if I ever get there.

55, now oldest generation as parents both dead, 4 kids and still feel like I'm winging it.

Age 31

I think I felt like both like an adult and not at all adult after I was in a situation at work where I was making decisions that would cost millions of pounds, on a tight time frame, with lives and jobs on the line. I looked round to find the grown up and then discovered that I was the grown up. I was best placed to make that decision. I didn't feel adult at all but I did afterwards.

Now I make multimillion pound decisions regularly and don't blink twice about it. I still get nervous once they're in the hundreds of millions.

In terms of home stuff, I still end up ringing my mum and dad for house advice. Then I do not feel like an adult!

What the fuck does 'cutesy girly thing' even mean? Sounds like some misogynistic bullshit. We are all adult women dealing with all the shite life throws at us and yet some us just don't feel like an adult. We still feel like a child trying to make sense of things. Responsibility feels overwhelming. We muddle through because we have to.

When you have a really big bunch of keys.

House keys, car keys, neighbours trust you with their key. Keys to your parent’s home in case they have a fall. Work place keys as you are seen as responsible. Proper adults have lots of keys.

More light hearted than many of these, but the first year I bought a beautiful fresh wreath to hang outside my door at Christmas. I was 42 (and had owned my own houses from being 26 but never had a wreath before 😂)

Exactly
when I was a teenager I thought being able to drive or drink I would feel like an adult, then it was when I got a mortgage etc
Currently I have in my head I don’t feel like a proper adult because I have a flat not a house (don’t ask!) and I can’t have children

I always wanted to be a sophisticated laydee.
Like Princess Diana. Or, Jennifer Hart.
Aged 50, I’m still not one. Never will be!
So, I guess this is my version of being a grown-up.

@HappierTimesAhead I am talking about women who think pretending to be a girl and a bit useless, is somehow cute.

52 and not there yet!

What does it feel like to be an adult?
Its up there with what does it feel like to be a woman.

I do adult things, have a big bunch of keys, and an ironing board but I don't feel my age!

The first time I possessed more alcohol in my house than I intended to drink that evening. That was proper adulting.

When I went to pay my first mortgage payment at 19

Still waiting

Ditto

When I could afford to totally fill up my car with petrol 😂😂😂

I grew up on a farm, I think I was born an adult!
I remember my grandmother telling me someone at a party told her talking to me was like talking to a miniature old lady!
My son is the same, it's like he has an 80 year old brain in an an 18 year old body😂

Age 30 :)

I am.not aware of ever feeling like I was "now" an adult it just happened at some point.

I stood in my own 2 feet from my teens I was 16 when I left my mothers house and never returned.

What I can say is I am now in my mid 50s and I nolonger look for a "more adult adult" in situations I know I am the adult adult..

When my eldest child got to secondary school and I could really clearly remember being that age myself.

Obviously I have some memories of being younger than that, but DD reaching that age was what really drove it home that I was by contrast nowhere near childhood any more.

Nearly 50… still waiting ☺️

Mine was a moment at nursery settling in sessions with my oldest DC. It was a general question, something like 'mum, can DC have xyz today at nursery?' And I stood there looking at a women, 15 years my senior who was asking MY permission. I felt very adult and responsible.

This 100%
When I realised I actually know more than my parents in many respects, that they are flawed and haven’t made the best life choices, didn’t get any help from their advice and that I was living a far more balanced life than them!

No - for me it’s a reflection of the fact I don’t feel any different now to when I wasn’t an adult. (40 with 2 kids)