Settle an argument..

[Theogpinkponyclub]

If your 16 year old daughter was going to an event with friends (3 teenage sisters) and to save money the dad of the girls who was taking you booked just one room for you all to sleep in at a hotel (to save money with the idea of him sleeping on the floor) would that be something you would be happy with)

Yes or no please to whether or not you find this appropriate.

No.

I think most men would not want to put themselves in this position with 16 year old girls. Sharing a room with your own kids, possibly still okay. Not with their friends.

I would agree!

No. But I wouldn’t assume he’s up to no good. It’s just not a great idea for either his sake or the girls’ sakes.

Goodness, what could possibly go wrong in this scenario...🤔

You mean 4 16 year olds in a bed and him on the floor?

No.

“Dear sisters Dad,

Ive booked a room for young Pony Club, so one of your girls can bunk in with her and everyone will be more comfortable all around”.

Hopefully he’s just an oblivious cheapskate not a perv but I wouldn’t be taking that chance. It’s wildly inappropriate for an adult man to share with a teen girl that isn’t his own daughter.

They are not all 16, ranging from 14 to 18 (but as said in OP 3 of which are ours.)

If this is the dad of the three sisters (friends) then i would not have a problem. He’s trying to help. Don’t assume all men are creeps. He’s just there looking after his daughters!

Got in one!

Er, no.

My dad would rather sleep in a ditch than do that. Really weird and inappropriate behaviour.

Just to clarify, I obviously don't think my DH is a creep, his naivety is a problem for me as I want to protect him more than anyone else.

No.

What is the hotel room occupancy legally? Im sure he is breaking most standard hotel occupancy rules.

So if one of the girls are 18 can't all the girls share and he gets his own room or one with his daughter.

It's not you that wants to save money so maybe just book separately. Might mean you or their dad joining them after the event if an adult is required in the room.

Ah just read your update

Is it your dh who is the dad in this scenario?

made me laugh but yes my DH would rather sleep outside on the lawn than share a room with his DDs and their mates !

Having seen the update even more perplexing.

There wouldn’t be an argument to settle with my husband as it would be two rooms minimum. Also why aren’t the parents of the “friend” offering to book a room/split costs?

So yes DH is the dad taking all girls in this scenario, 3 of which are ours, the friend was a late addition as we always had a spare ticket and it made sense to take this particular friend as she gets on with all our girls.

We do actually have two room booked mostly because of the above reasons and also because I decided to go and make more of a night of it. Girls to event, DH and I dinner drinks etc however we have just had a discussion about money and he is now saying that we have wasted money on the 2nd hotel room, when he could have just taken them bunked on the floor this thread is based on the fact that I told him regardless of me being there or not it wouldn’t be appropriate for him to have stayed in the same room as the girls.

Nope.

NO, it is not appropriate.
Dont, just dont.

What you have actually decided to do is great - win/win because you and your dh & the girls are all going to have a good night out.

Your dh is hopelessly naive to not realise how inappropriate it would have been if he had shared a room.

I suppose because he doesn't have any dodgy thoughts it just doesn't occur to him that it could be misinterpreted or that the girls (especially your dds' friend) might feel uncomfortable.

I think that’s it, because he’s such an amazing human being (most of the time! 😅) he just doesn’t see the safeguarding issues

Absolutely not