Prank called my boyfriend with an app and a woman answered… nearly 10pm. Feeling confused.

[PeaceOverChaos]

Okay, I feel a bit silly even writing this but I need to get it off my chest.

Earlier tonight, I used one of those prank call apps to call my boyfriend — just messing around, nothing serious. We’ve done dumb stuff like this before, but this time when the call went through… a woman answered. It was nearly 10pm.

He lives at home with his dad and little sister (who’s quite young), and I don’t live with him. So there shouldn’t be any other women around that I know of, especially not answering his phone late at night.

I didn’t say anything — I just hung up, completely thrown. And honestly, part of the reason I haven’t brought it up is because it’s kind of embarrassing to admit I prank called him in the first place 🙈 But now I’m stuck wondering what the hell that was about.

Could there be a normal explanation? Or is this a red flag I shouldn’t ignore? I really don’t want to jump to conclusions but it’s eating away at me a bit.

Anyone had something like this happen?

Obviously a completely different situation ffs 🙄 🙄

it’s weird to answer someone else’s mobile (unless it’s an emergency)

Well that's entirely different! 🙄🙄

Why??

the phone already has a message taking system. It doesn't need you sticking your beak in.

Poor op, what a derail 😭

OP, I think the oddest thing here is you doing the prank call, even odder than someone else answering the phone. But fwiw I don’t think there’s any reason to assume anything’s going on- the woman could have been anyone. Have you asked him what he was doing that evening?

Id also consider whether you misdialed or perhaps, if the call is made by third party system (I don’t know how prank calls work) something went wrong there so you got some random woman’s prank and someone else got to listen to your partner hearing a recorded prank.

Honestly, play stupid games…

How old are you?!

Well to be fair, I wouldn’t answer anyone’s landline either although the only person I know with one is my dad, I think, although I don’t even have that number.

Ooh I feel like 'the yoof' 🤣

I'm 55, My phone is personal/private & no. I don't leave it at home when I walk the dog. Why would I?

(mind you, that's more 'age' than 'yoof' . Safety, more than being contactable! Plus 'camera')

Why?

phones have all the technology built into them to take a message. You don't need to interfere in other people's business.

The OP posted at 1am, after worrying about it for 3 hours, probably posted as they couldn't sleep. You posted this angrily at 5am, is the OP supposed to stay up all night answering people?

My friendship group would all answer each others phone if it were left on the table and they went to the loo for example not weird for us.

It would seem strange to have a secret other woman in the house he shares with his dad and sister?

I would never answer someone else’s phone (re posters who think that’s normal). No one in our house answers each other's phone.

What a weird thing to do...........play with fire, get a bit singed.

In the days before mobile phones whoever was in the house would answer as you didn't know who was calling for whom.

There's no need to answer some one else's mobile phone as it's obviously not for you, it's easy to call back on , the caller can leave a voice mail or send a text or what's app

Cope with what?

If I answered my son’s phone his friends would think I was weird and probably over bearing.

I'm ancient and therefore not sure of the technology. CAN you answer someone else's phone, if it's locked?
For the record, I don't even answer my (adult) children's phones. If it rings when it's beside me and they are out of the room, I might glance at it to see who is ringing (name displayed on screen) and then tell them when they came back in 'James called you, you might want to call him back' or 'you just had a call from someone who's not in your list' and then leave it up to them to decide whether to return the call, check for messages etc. It might be someone they're trying to avoid.

But 'prank' anything just leaves me cold, I'm afraid.

I was going to ask the same thing, what a nonsense statement! 🤣

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

That’s exactly what I would do. My sons (young adult) would not like it if I answered their phones and rightly so. How would the ones on here who think it’s normal to answer people’s phones (without prior permission) feel if they phoned a new bf and his mum answered!

Yes ‘pranks’ are just too juvenile and a turn off.

That's pretty rude of your partner.

The woman answering, whoever she was, may well have mentioned it to the OP's boyfriend in passing, as in, he could have asked, "Who was that on the phone?" "Don't know, they just hung up". Boyfriend may then wonder if it was the OP, or not. That's assuming the woman has some kind of connection to the OP's boyfriend, she may not. Too many possibilities!

There would a thread on here saying, “ I’ve started seeing this guy, he seems really nice but when I called his mobile his mum answered! She said “Gregory’s in the toilet right now, can I give him a message?” Is this a red flag or is it ok for mums to answer their son’s phone and I’m just being unreasonable.

In the old days of landlines the phone was usually shared by many people. It was communal. A mobile phone is mostly used by just one person. I think of the contents of my phone as private. I don't like people handling my phone. It's like you usually don't go into someone's handbag or purse or read their diary. it's a bit like that. It isn't weird. Also, conventions change. And this is a new convention.

What good does it make to anyone?

The caller will learn that the person they are calling is not available now. Which is the same thing they would learn from the phone not being picked up.
And the person will learn from you that Bobby called, which is the same thing they would learn from the unanswered call log.

Noone want to know that the other person went to the loo.

I just don't see how it benefits anyone.

If the ringing is long, laud and obnoxious, I'd physically pick the phone up a put it back screen down (this silences the ringing in many models), but that's it.

Good answer. Yes, the person calling is calling for a specific person. We don't need to answer as they know to call back if they don't hear from them. And it is so easy for people to send a text if they don't get an answer so there is no need for us to pick up someone else's phone. Perhaps it's the people who don't understand this who are living in the dark ages.

What on earth is a prank call? If he’d answered himself, op, what would you have said?
What’s the actual joke?
You were checking up on him and it’s bitten you on the bum.