What 2 things are worrying you at the moment?

[ThomasShelbysfagend]

Write your worries here, someone might have words of wisdom or an encouraging virtual arm around the shoulders.

Mine are:

1. Going NC with my mother, wasn’t sure so met up with her for around 45 minutes and I’m now sure. I am going NC.

2. Colleague at work is extremely hard work, challenging my patience so I need a new mask to get through with professionalism. I am convinced they are ND so trying super hard to be accepting, kind and understanding but it’s pushing me over the edge.

pfffft can’t see any solutions to these.

Good decision to go NC - I did it 15 years ago, never regretted it

1. That I’m having a hysterectomy next Monday and I have terrible health anxiety so I’m terrified of something going wrong.
2. That my school hating dd is starting secondary school in September and I’m scared she is going to hate it as much as she has hated primary!

I went nc with my dad years and years ago, never regretted it even when he passed away.

1. My bath drain is running really slowly despite me dragging a lot of hair out. Gross

1. Literally 101 admin jobs I need to do for home stuff. I have no time. I'm then stressed as just need to get it done

1. That my ds won't get the grades he needs to go to his firm, and I can't get him to look at clearing options, so now it is my job
2. My recent graduate son is about to start teacher training, and hasn't sorted out anything but is "relaxing" and has left everything in boxes ready to transport to his new Accomodation,

All my time is going into pushing them to get organised, it's worse than toddlers

1. I need to start driving again but it's been 6 years. Just being a passenger makes me want to puke, the though of sitting in the driving seat make me numb.

1. How long can I keep quashing my emotions over my husband of 20+ years affair. Some weeks I'm ok, other weeks I want to walk out the door leaving him him & the kids and start a new life

1. that my slow but sure weight loss (1 lb a week) since I started mounjaro will stop working and I’ll have no more solutions
2. that I’ll become addicted to nicotine gums again after kicking the habit

1. My glass is empty and don't know where dh is to refill
2. Got to tell someone their contract is due to expire and won't be renewed.

1. hoping that I’m filling in my first new job application in 20 years correctly ( been in the same job 20 years and didn’t think I’d ever think of leaving).
2. peri-menopausal and am a week late for my period and if I don’t come on soon think I’ll kill someone 🤣😜lol

-water has been coming out of my overflow pipe for a month now, two plumbers have not been able to sort it and it's getting worse
-money. Car tax and insurance due, paying for holiday childcare and our own holiday plus an unexpected additional bill. I'm a lone parent so all falls to me.

1 Need to find a school for DC while 2 needing to move house. It’s like which comes first the chicken or the egg. Good houses near crap schools, crap areas near good schools, can’t get off the roundabout!

1. How am I going to get a job when I've not worked in 24 years and can't leave my dog more than four hours three times a week?
2. What is stopping me from sorting out my eating?

Don't quash them. I was in shock for five years. Stayed another two and felt like we were going to be okay, what with all the work I'd done. Happily divorced from him now for another reason but realised I couldn't really have left any sooner anyway because of the kids.

1. DH or one of the DC becoming terribly ill/dropping dead - I think about and plan for this daily but tell myself that i must have an epic life if I have to make up problems! (I do, just also have GAD)

2. the house being a total shit tip. Worry that my kids won’t want their friends over like I didn’t when I was a kid. But it’s mainly their mess!!!!

• I can’t keep my house tidy for more than 5 minutes no matter how hard I try.
• I realised on Friday that my line manager, who is always very nice to my face, is undermining to other people. She avoids 1-1 meetings, has a ‘private’ calendar so we have no idea what she’s doing, and provides no direction/lacks a strategy. She is much less strategic that my previous manager and is very inauthentic. She’s also quite vicious and has cause two other people to leave. I’m not sure what to do about her.

1. what to do with the extra tickets I bought for friends to go to the cricket next week. They’ve changed their minds/ can’t get time off. I’m hoping I can return them but can’t find out until tomorrow
2. tooth extraction on Tuesday. A big one. I have to go to a specialist as my usual dentist can’t do it 😰

1. I'm waiting for biopsy results to see if I have breast cancer.

1. I'm having work done in the house tomorrow and know it's going to be a pita.

1.) landlady is selling and we’re having to move this summer, which is also the summer before my son moves up to middle school. My house is a tip as I’m a single mum with adhd and the thought of packing is overwhelming!
2) my job having a complete lack of structure or supervision

My wife's in hospital with probably life changing injuries. Will she be ok? how the fuck are we going to cope, pay the bills and the rent? ( thank God only independent adult children )

Im really not going to cope going back to work after next week after 2 months off, but l have to work, or should l just not work...then what will happen, see number one worry, about how will we live...and if im working who's going to be advocating for her in hospital.

How to resolve some really difficult family dynamics.

really stressed to see if travel insurance are going to pay up for a cancelled holiday. They are trying to g to find any reason they can not to.

I was going to say money but I've been worried about money for so long that it actually hardly matters any more. So:

Skin fissures on my heels, which keep getting infected and nothing is working. I walk ten miles a day at least so they're always a mess but now they're an unusually bad mess.
The total lack of storage space in my flat.

1. Worried that my son is about to be made redundant. He is not NT and refuses to start looking for another job until he hears about the outcome of this. At which point he will be competing against 1000+ extra people. He has a mortgage to pay. He also refuses to consider looking in other areas.
2. I’ve not worked for many years (carer for family members) but now need to find something because of son situation and no idea where to look. Completely out of date with office stuff nowadays. Everything has moved on so fast. Plus no references at all as not been working.

Erm, some really quite trivial things compared to some on here so I’ll keep quiet and wish everyone going through crap and hard things the best of luck. So much is temporary and so much will pass with time. 💐

@Teenagerantruns that must be so so stressful. Best wishes to you both.

1. DS1 and his impending a level results
2. if I'm going to have a breakdown

1.My almost 5 month old DD is having surgery on Tuesday. I’m in such a state, but keep reminding myself she is a big strong girl and the DRs do this surgery 10000s of times.

2.I’m a self employed artist, was going to be a sahm but now i’m thinking i want to go back to work and earn money. I want DD to be inspired by and look up to me, and I also want to be able to spoil her rotton with extra £££, but i also want to be with her every second of the day. hm.