What 2 things are worrying you at the moment?

[ThomasShelbysfagend]

Write your worries here, someone might have words of wisdom or an encouraging virtual arm around the shoulders.

Mine are:

1. Going NC with my mother, wasn’t sure so met up with her for around 45 minutes and I’m now sure. I am going NC.

2. Colleague at work is extremely hard work, challenging my patience so I need a new mask to get through with professionalism. I am convinced they are ND so trying super hard to be accepting, kind and understanding but it’s pushing me over the edge.

pfffft can’t see any solutions to these.

Has changed through the day but right now

1. the ‘friend’ who I talk to but doesn’t seem interested in meeting or in me really. It seems it’s a numbers thing for her where she tries to maintain relationships even with people she dislikes. She rants and moans and gossips. She seemed kind and caring when we had family problems but other than that we have nothing.
2. the friend who I stopped talking to gradually over the years. I knew her since three years old and still miss her but she appears so different now than the person I felt close to. She’s glamorous! Travels a lot now, goes to expensive places. Lots of people around her… I don’t think we have anything much in common left. We used to have proper discussion about things/ events, not gossip about people. That’s what I miss… But she was flaky and a bit selfish throughout the years - why people like that always end up being popular…

1. That DS2 is unhappy and lonely. He doesn't go anywhere on evenings or weekends with friends etc. He does go out to run and swim but he does these alone. He says he "talks" to his friends online and I know that's a thing nowadays but it's not the same is it? His DB who is only 3 years older was out and about with friends all the time.

1. That DS1 is going to be led astray by his friends on their first lads holiday and do something silly either involving drink and drugs or something that will get back to his lovely girlfriend and jeopardize their relationship which I know will break his heart.

1. That my almost 3 year old still has zero words
2. That I need to find a flexible job to work around childcare after being out of work for years😬

I’m waiting for cervical biopsy results and I’m in the middle of having urgent tests on my heart.

Its a double whammy of worry.

1. Forgot to drain the lamb for my Shepard's pie so now it's going to be greasy/runny 😞

1. That Sunday night feeling you get before work Monday

1.My pip renewal
2.Iv just been diagnosed with a cavernoma in my brain

1. Big meeting thing with Director tomorrow, currently have a migraine

1. Big report deadline due this week and it's like herding cats in the team.

@frecklejuice. Had a hysterectomy last year. Life changing for the better. Had both vaginal and ovaries out through keyhole. Honestly, the worst bit is the shoulder pain you get from them filling you with air. Keep moving - it gets rid of it. Thought my bits would hurt but nothing. Just don’t do anything for weeks. You’ll feel fine after about week three or four - still don’t do anything. Week five was the worst - seems togo backwards.
this op is a bread and butter one for the surgeons. They do hundreds of them. Think of the lovely sleeeeeeeeep under anesthetic and then lean into the niceness of not doing anything because you can’t for a few weeks. Make the most of it.
it has been so good for me but I was already through menopause so appreciate it is harder if you have that too.

1. my teeth.
2. if this years smear test will be abnormal AGAIN

1. i have to go back to work because my husband left me, 8 years SAHM. Interview in the morning, terrified.
2. no idea if we'll be able to afford to stay in the house as ex won't agree to the finances I set out but won't give me any info/ideas on what he's thinking. Will never be able to have a holiday etc again that's for sure. He's a high earner due to be a super high earner in a couple of years. Going to be a very big contrast between the homes!

Money: husband is retiring due to ill health and it will bite
My job: doesn’t feel as secure as I would like and because of the above we need it to survive for now.

1. That we’ll never get an offer on our house and will miss out on the new build houses that we really like.
2. My impending fourth driving test.

1. Money. So I will be sending emails on Monday and tackling and dealing with it
2. My health so I will put together a food and exercise program to tackle that and deal with it.

1. My kids dad got arrested for some very serious offences. We haven't been together for 10 years, so not my circus. But I'm upset my kid won't have their dad around for their GCSE years. The positive is it kinda 'healed' a gap in our relationship because my kid now understands why they can't live at their dad's and why I chose to leave.
2. I'm being bullied at work and still have 3 months of notice to serve. I've been a high performer throughout my time and getting sad that I'm not leaving on a high.

White wine vinegar and bicarbonate are your friends.

1. money. Never seem to have enough and disposable income becomes less and less despite two full time parents in good jobs. Husband self employed and the constant ups and downs and money worries that come with that.
2. my parents who are in a nearby European country who have made no plans for illness etc

1. plucking up courage to tell DH who I have been with my entire adult life that I want to leave him.

2. I’m really really fat right now as I comfort eat, I’m telling myself I can rein it in but I’m not sure.

Funnily enough everything here is on an even keel at the moment…..

that’s not a to say I don’t worry about things outside my control….. for example I’ll read on here about a husband of 20 years that left a family out of the blue - and that scares me ( been with dh since 16 )
also I worry my 18 year old will become pregnant and not finish her education ( fairly unfairly of me as she has had a very good year and doesn’t have a boyfriend)

small worries include lack of savings and that I need to ring my mum - it’s hard work

Thankfully nothing big at the moment.

Dd was at the Dr today and has glandular fever, she has been pretty unwell for quite a while now so that's been playing on my mind.

Money is always something that's there at the back of everything.

Mine are quite trivial compared to some awful worries here 😥

Dd is currently on a month long interrail journey round Europe - she won it as an award from Uni. So I am worrying less or more everyday according to where she is / accommodation etc. She is 21 and quite sensible so I have to sit on my hands and not post any anxious shit. Worse was she sent me pics of a nasty rash and I told her to go get it checked in a pharmacy as first course of action - turned out to be most likely shingles! So I had tears on the phone, but luckily my home GP sent a prescription etc.

Work - this is a constant one - too much responsibility, not enough time to do everything. DH retired last year so I feel everything is on me for the first time in years. It's hard watching him chilling. Though he now does all the shopping etc.

Maybe the eating will sort itself out when you leave? I thought I had food issues due to my childhood. Left h, turns out it was probably due to being with him..

1. i am going to be made redundant in the next few months. There may be other options, other jobs, in the same company but I don’t know if I have the energy to fight for it
2. my son may fail his GCSEs- results due 21 August

1. That this persistent cough that I’ve now had for 6 weeks won’t ever go and I’m going to spend the rest of my life coughing.
2. That eldest DDs boyfriend is abusive when drunk. I worry she is going to end up like my mother living her life with an abusive alcoholic.

My number one worry is EXACTLY the same as yours but I would add 'New' colleague who is also my line manager. I am trying to be professional as well, but I'm afraid at my time of life my bucket of fucks is completely and utterly empty and I have genuine worries that I am just going to lose my shit one day, tell him to get to fuck and walk out. He keeps calling me 'kid' I am 55 years old and I'm probably older than he is. Would IBU to call him 'old man' or 'Dick'?

My 15.yr old neice having bone and lung cancer and the weather in Amsterdam for hoilday