Have you read a thread and knew the person in real life?

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Have you ever clicked on a post and realised you knew who the person was? Did you say anything to them about it? I have read some and thought I could know the person but there was never been anything definitive to say it was 🫣

Yes. I'm fairly sure a relative commented on DD's name on here. It wasn't a nice thing to say and I thought them a bit mean afterwards.

No, but I recognised someone I follow on Instagram on a thread. She used exactly the same wording on a thread post that she’d put on an Instagram post & her user name was outing

No, but I have seen posts that remind me of people in real life. The thing is everyone I know is tech savvy enough to change details as to not be identified

Yes, I have - and I don't even live in the UK.

This exact situation did happen to me. Went to a child’s party that turned a bit tricky. That afternoon someone posted in lots of detail about it including very blunt descriptions of several of the children and their parents. I didn’t weigh in because honestly it was so identifiable and so very personal.

Yes recognised my SIL’s post. I didn’t post on the thread or say anything to her. It was 100% her and it came up in conversation once, talking about how horrible the internet can be sometimes. People were being pretty nasty! We didn’t particularly like her baby name either but the kid was cute so could carry the name!

Yes and no you don't say anything.

Yes and old school friend. They were posting a story about something that happened in a ‘xyz happened to my friend’ style and I realised that it was me. Embellished a little, but definitely me.

i looked her up and read a few other things which seem to check out. Unfortunately one of her DCs had some health issues that I didn’t know about, and it felt intrusive to keep reading so I stopped looking her up.

I always change details of ages, genders, variations to a story before I post.

I'm very thinly disguised on here and often talk about Mumsnet, so I'd guess a few people know who I am. Luckily I've no exciting secrets 😂

I rather miss the Good/Bad Old Days when MN was small enough that many of us did meet in real life or knew each other on other channels (mainly Facebook). It had definite down sides, like any social group, but it was nice to 'know' the other posters and their backstories.

Intimate forums always have to grow or fizzle out, it seems. People change, some drop out, you need new members and they alter the dynamic. I do think MN handles this well, tricky as it can be.

Yes. Our boss. Moaning about her job and wanting to give it up. Lots of specific details.

There's one person around I do recognise from years back. I haven't said anything to them but thought about it. They've made themselves recognisable, so I doubt they care. We both have very different lives now. So much so, I don't think they'd recognise me.

Did he post recently by any chance?

Yes he certainly did

I saw a friend on here. She'd written about a situation that I thought I knew about from being part of her life, it transpired that it was far harder for her than I realised. I didn't believe what she wrote and it turned out to be true.

I was a rubbish friend at that point and I feel so guilty.

Yes. One person I know irl and I have seen 2 or 3 posts and instantly known it was them (despite them name changing) as they’ll talk about something all over Facebook and then talk about it here 🙈

I once read a thread that was something that was so close to something that had happened to me I think there are probably acquaintances that think it was me under another name. I’m very open as to who I am under this name so I think it would be expected that for personal stuff I would NC, but I haven’t done that in years.

Yeah I know who one poster is. TBF I knew her from a previous law related forum under a different username but she's quite identifiable. And yes she does have an island 🤣

I have personally been identified by my husband's ex who then forwarded him screen shots of my posts when we were going through a tricky patch and I posted in relationships. Utter cow 😳

My sister found me on here years ago because I’d replied on a specific thread about an issue I’d had myself and I’d stated what she knew when I went through it. I’ve been careful not to do so again. I like to have privacy commenting. Name change all the time.

@Andoutcomethewolves you know Xenia? I'm strangely impressed!

It's really bonkers when people share your forum posts in an effort to undermine or shame you. A colleague did it to me long, long ago. I just thought it showed her up more than me - I was upset about an upsetting thing, no great shock there, but she'd weirdly gone to the trouble of checking that it was me and, for some reason, thought telling everyone I was upset made her look good.

is he the one with the trans child always popping up on YouTube etc?

Unfortunately yes. Think he has four kids his wife is called Anna

I did but i didnt say anything to her
Did not look up her username and infact, was very mindful not to look at the username at all

Oh god I've just thought of another. Same forum as I know Xenia from a decade ago. My line manager posted on it that 'my trainee is a fucking munter with a face like a slapped arse'. I knew who he was from previous posts

Well maybe if you'd asked me if I was ok I'd have shared with you that my dad had just gone in for emergency surgery so very sorry if I didn't look particularly happy. You were hardly an Adonis yourself Matt.

This was ages ago now and I can’t remember how I knew it was the person, but I once recognised a school mum on a thread. In real life she was very loud, brash, and confident. And quite annoying really! She had posted on here that she had lied about her qualifications to get the job she was in and was terrified of being found out. I never said a word to her or anyone about it. She’s still in the same job now so it either hasn’t held her back or she hasn’t been found out!

Yes and I didn't say anything.