I think I’ve just had bit of a eureka moment on something I haven’t been able to put my finger on.
I really like just pottering around. Not in a hurry, not having a plan, feeling a bit productive but not exhausting yourself. Just going with the flow and enjoying the day. Might dead head the flowers, tidy up the dumping chair, reorganise a cupboard.. As I’m in no rush, I’ll get started whenever I fancy it, put on comfy clothes, have a few tea breaks and at the end of the day the house will be more presentable and I usually feel the sense of achievement.
However DH is the complete opposite, he wants the jobs done as quickly as possible for us to ‘relax’. It’s the same in the evenings and especially at the weekends. He’s always asking me what he can do to ‘help’ and how much longer I’ll be etc. These are days we’ve got no zero plans/planned to ‘relax’.
It’s bloody obvious now I think about it. It makes me feel tense that I’m on some sort of clock and being asked to what I’m doing. I can be happily repotting some plants outside and DH will come out and remind me that we ‘planned to relax’. DH says he can’t relax whilst I’m doing jobs.
We spend a lot of time together, we’ll do ‘fun’ things at the weekend too. It’s just when we’re having ‘lazy days’.
Anyone else a potter?