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Is 28 and 35 a big age gap?

53 replies

LeftOutInTheRain · 26/06/2025 14:48

I met this man, and we were clearly interested in one another. He was reluctant to tell me how old he is, but I was glad to hear that he is 35, because I’ve always dated older. I asked him how old he thought I was, and he said “23.” He looked relieved when I told him I am 28.

Just wondering what people’s thoughts are on this age gap.

OP posts:
Destiny123 · 26/06/2025 15:50

About the same as we were 7.5y ago. I'm 34 he's 41 next week. Generally not noticeable

Sassybooklover · 26/06/2025 15:53

It's not much of an age gap. If you like each other, then go for it!!

Starlight1984 · 26/06/2025 15:54

Same age gap between me and DH. It's fine and not even something I've ever thought about!

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Pirating55 · 26/06/2025 16:33

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

ginasevern · 26/06/2025 16:36

It's only 7 years. It wouldn't even cross my mind to be honest, unless you were 14 and he was 21. Otherwise, it's a pretty average age gap.

mindutopia · 26/06/2025 17:59

It’s fine. I think it’s easier that way around. Dh and I have a 7 year age gap, but I’m older. Met when he was 21 and I was 28. We got married when he was 24 and had dd when he was 25.

I think there were a lot of quietly raised eyebrows. 😂 His family are very polite and do not make a fuss, but there must have been chatter behind the scenes. 17 years later, we are still very happy together and one of the relationships amongst his siblings and cousins that has stood the test of time. We were very much at similar life stages though, had similar values, similar long term goals, etc.

Askingforafriendtoday · 27/06/2025 18:00

Good grief, it's nothing! You're both well into adulthood!

DilemmaDelilah · 27/06/2025 18:11

There are 7 years between my DH and me. We are a lot older, I'm 64 and he is 71, so it's nothing really, but there are a lot of differences in our early lives.

I was just going to senior school when he was in an apprenticeship, earning money, and driving a car.

orsino · 27/06/2025 18:24

I sincerely hope you never encounter any real-life problems if a 7 year age difference worries you - why would you even give it a moment's thought?

LancashireButterPie · 27/06/2025 18:36

My DH is 10years older than me. Been together 31 years. Never been an issue except for his awful taste in music.

littlejlr · 27/06/2025 18:38

Tgere is almost 9 years between me and my husband, he is older than me, but I love the age gap and I love him. I think a 7 year age gap is fine.

ImFineItsAllFine · 27/06/2025 18:39

It's the same age gap that DH and I have, we've have always been very happy with it!

Not looking forward to him being able to retire before me though...

ObtuseMoose · 27/06/2025 18:47

MN usually goes ape shit about age gaps, colour me surprised at these replies 😲

GiveDogBone · 27/06/2025 18:49

For horses, yes; human beings, no.

JayJayj · 27/06/2025 19:07

At that age I think it’s fine. You’ll more than likely be in similar time in your life’s for wants and stuff. If it was 20 and 27 I’d say it was too big a gap.

MissyPants · 27/06/2025 19:09

11 years between me and my partner and I'm the older one

crumblingschools · 27/06/2025 19:11

@ObtuseMoose it depends on the ages and the age gap. This age gap isn’t too large and both parties are reasonably same place in life stages.

If OP was late teens/early twenties then would be different as at different life stage

SingleAHF · 27/06/2025 19:11

My bro married in 1971 at age 29, his bride was 20. They are still together. My dad married at 70, his wife was 42. Together till death.

Timeforyetanothernamechange · 27/06/2025 19:41

Exactly the ages husband and I were when we got together. I've always preferred someone a bit older and he had just about worked through a career change so we were both at about the same stage in life at that point.

karatemam · 27/06/2025 20:21

I’m 37 and my partner is 28, we’ve been together 5 years and are happily engaged, so I’d say yeah… it can work!

Tavimama · 27/06/2025 20:42

16 years between my sister and my lovely bil. 9 years between my youngest and her chap. As a family, we see no issue as long as everyone is happy. It only seems to be a problem for other people.

user1476613140 · 27/06/2025 20:47

9 and a bit years between DH and I. It's never been an issue. Been together for 21 years. Married 17 years.

Chinsupmeloves · 27/06/2025 22:12

Not at all.....

changeme4this · 28/06/2025 01:38

There’s 6 years between us and we have been together for over 30 years. Met when I was 29.

the only concern we worry about is still having a mortgage ‘late in life” and DH anticipating he will be working until he is 70. We spoke again this morning as we have options, but it’s not something we considered earlier on (with a view of dumping more money on the mortgage early).

we have different tastes in music but it’s not extreme, we have muscle ground and recently attended two concerts, had a great time.

mum and dad were 10 years apart and different with early life experiences. In their instance I think it was a too big of a gap.

LSTMS30555 · 28/06/2025 01:44

Perfectly fine. I was 34 & Dp was 24 when we got together still together now at 42 & 32

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