Do you judge people’s choice of books, music preference or tv show?

[ThisSillyFox]

Lighthearted thread. Music, books and film/tv shows are all personal preferences. Would you judge someone if you thought the music they listened was in your view shit? When I say judge someone, I don’t mean as a person but they might just have shit taste. For example I can’t stand Taylor Swift and none of my friends bar one like her too. Shows like the Kardashian’s, I feel are just trash. Books from Colleen Hoover, worst few hours of my life reading that rubbish. It could even extend to food and drink. Example Matcha lattes… anyone that drinks these are a basic bitch in my opinion. Caviar- wannabe rich people food, it’s literally fish eggs, harvested in a very inhumane way.

Anyone else feel similar and like to share?

Any Marvel film apart from Blade- lots of money, not very good acting.

Beyoncé - went to see in concert, but overrated

50 shades of grey/twilight - crap, where do I even start?

Games of thrones - didn’t understand the hype

True Detective - amazing

Downton Abbey - boring

Kind of? I judge anyone who watches Love Island or MAFS. You have one life., what are you doing??

But I also judge those who judge. And I know plenty would judge me.

I used to, but I kind of grew out of it. That sounds like I'm being snotty, but that's not really what I'm going for. I noticed it was a trait I really didn't like in other people, so I decided not to be like that myself. It was a conscious decision to stop though and I had to remind myself not to slip into it for quite a while.

It's great actually because it means I have discovered I really do like some things I once would have turned my nose up at (like Taylor Swift 😂and unexpectedly some country music). Life's just too short for making these kinds of assumptions about other people imo.

Depends how you are using the word 'judge'.

If someone has completely different tastes in things like music, or films, then I would make a judgement from that, that we wouldn't enjoy hanging out that much, because we'd either both be compromising all the time or one of us would go along with the other and really not enjoy it.

But I presume you are asking if I 'look down on' someone who likes things I don't ? In which case, no, I don't. I'd just be aware we enjoy different things.
If that's the odd thing - no biggie. If it is loads of things, then it would make it difficult to find things to do together.

I really don’t care as long as I’m not subjected to it.

The only time I cared a bit was when I was a teenager and my frontal lobe wasn’t fully developed and I was grasping around finding my feet in the world so liked having something in common with others as I had not found my feet.

Good question....strangely enough not music or books as there's such a variety and I think there's value in most reading and music.

TV programmes, yes - cannot understand a love of soaps - it's the same stories on repeat, recycled scripts year after year.

That said, I think Love Island is rubbish and can't watch it but will watch MAFS despite knowing it's also rubbish!! It's one of my few "junk food tv" programmes - zero effort. Generally watch crime, true stories or frana series.

I'd probably judge someone for watching GB News.

Other than that if it's just guilty pleasure trashy stuff then it doesn't really bother me. As long as they weren't watching it thinking they were idolising the people on there.

Like if you watched Love Island to take the piss, just about excusable. If you watch it for relationship guidance and fashion/beauty tips then not so much!

I used to love watching Jeremy Kyle, Judge Rinder, Lizard Lick Towing, Below Deck Med...all crap! I wouldn't make anyone else watch them though.

I watched Hollyoaks a few times and it's weird that nothing ever seems to actually happen. They just talk about what will or has already happened. And all the families seem to be a gay couple in their thirties with several late teen children they aren't related to?!

I used to think everyone that like country music were a bunch of thick bastards. Then saw Kenny Rogers and Dolly Parton and changed my mind.

I do judge people that give a fuck about reality TV and watch daytime telly. I can't help but thing they are abit stupid and are vulnerable to being sucked into Reform. But I might be wrong.

I am an absolute sucker for a teen drama so equally know I am low hanging fruit.

Yeah, I get the Love Island thing. My friends actually judged me for not watching it 🤣 this is lighthearted after all, and I totally understand people want something crap to watch after a hard day at work or a distraction from whatever is going on in their life.

That’s great for you but I’m really wanting examples from people who judge those for watching or listening to those things so then I can judge them. It really isn’t that deep. Just a moan about shit (in our opinion) popular cultural films/singers/tv shows.

Not look down, but you would question their taste. For example they loved films by Roman Polanski and didn’t understand the problematic of it. Of course everyone has their own personal views on things but I would definitely be judging a person who was listening to Piers Morgan or listening to incel podcasts.

Country music is great! This is your opinion though, nothing is wrong with having one. That’s how you feel. What teen dramas do you like?

I used to love Jeremy Kyle, I like watching Piers Morgan, love Clarkson's Farm.
I would rather flick my eyes out with spoons than watch Love Island, MAFS, Loose Women etc.
Judge away!!

I do judge people who watch reality shows, soaps and daytime TV . It's the most dull fom of entertainment!

On the MN book recommendation threds I look at everyone with despair that recommend The Midnight Library and Song of Achilles. They are, by far, the most boring books ever written!

Strangely enough I'm not that bothered by people's music choices unless it's the racket my own teenage DC listen to . That's just vile noise that calls itself music!

No, not really. I'm more inclined to think the opposite. Those that go out their way to exclaim how much they don't like things and only like things that are highbrow, therefore " acceptable" are just pretentious.

I like listening to podcasts/watch people I totally disagree with. I like to hear opposing views and see how others think. I dont think its healthy to live in an echo chamber, whatever your views are. It can be really eye opening seeing how differently people think and process information.

I don't judge people for their personal tastes but I do use it as a sort of shorthand for wether they are 'my people' or not.

I couldn't care less unless I'm being forcibly subjected to it for an extended period of time. Even then, it only bothers me if it's repetitive. For example, management's choice of music at work which consists of the same 20 or so crap songs on repeat. I don't watch television and only watch films when searching up something in particular.

As a passing thought yes I do, There’s a woman I work with who told me her role model is Khloe Kardashian (because she’s proven if you work hard enough you can have it all apparently)
She has also for the entire of this year read her way through a series of books called something like..
The Valentine Bakery
The Easter cookie Cafe
The cafe in Summer
The Pumpkin Spice Lovers Cafe
The Christmas Cafe (you get my point!)
I suggested We Need to Talk About Kevin, I should imagine she judges me for this!

I never understand what people mean by “judge”. Is it about thinking you’re better than someone (no) or just forming views based on available information (obviously yes)?

Or they just think Henry James wrote better novels than Dan Brown?

with regards to people who watch love island type of shows.

i’m pretty sure i couldn’t be friends with someone that watches them and aspires to be like those people.

but i have a cousin with a high pressured job who gets home and wants to watch the least mentally demanding or challenging tv and this type of shows allows her to relax and unwind.

If people make a big thing of telling everyone they enjoy 'highbrow' entertainment, especially if you catch them out that they haven't actually read/seen it are pretentious.

People (like me 😊) who just genuinely prefer art films, classical music, Literature (capital L) are obviously not!

Yes, definitely. To quote Nick Hornby in High Fidelity: What really matters is what you like, not what you are like.

Pretty much this for me too.

I don’t really care what other people’s personal tastes in entertainment are - as long as they’re not trying to impose them on me - but I’m more likely to get along with people whose tastes and interests “match” mine.