Refusing to lie on dd's bedroom floor

[Givemestrength23]

Dd8 is likely neurodivergent and struggles a lot with anxiety. The new thing is for her to wake up in the night, panic that she won't be able to get back to sleep. It ends in meltdown and screaming every time. She's decided that the only thing that helps is gor me to lie on her bedroom floor until she falls asleep. I really don't want to and refuse. Inevitably she gets in such a state that I end up doing. Am I selfish for saying no? Any better ideas? At my wits end!

Totally agree with this, pretty much everything else in your day will be a little bit easier if you've both slept well. Only you can decide if you are happy to keep sleeping in her room ro not, but definitely get a mattress/futon/double bed to make it more confortable for you if you are going to continue.

Also maybe try magnesium gummies if you haven't already?

My post above was meant to quote this one

No, you've told her she can come in with you so it's not like she's stuck in her room by herself.

I would talk about coping strategies like a low light,a story to listen to ( this is a good one as they usually drift off back to sleep.) Tell her it's ok not to go back to sleep,tell her it doesn't matter ,take the pressure off.

Can you bring her mattress onto your bedroom floor?

YABU ! I had to lie on floor with my eldest dd for years as profoundly deaf and worried she couldn’t hear at night with her processor off. Get a small airbed or something- my daughter is 18 now and grew out of it before secondary school .. be patient and support her through it, hopefully it won’t be for too long x

What about trying some relaxing audio books with her? They could help with the anxiety and slowly become less reliant on you being in the room.