Lost my shit

[blandana]

This is just a thread for venting when your precious darlings press your buttons and make you (temporarily) lose your shit.

I’ve just lost it because:

no one cleaned the table before we sat down to dinner and it was covered in crap from last night

their table manners were so bad, shovelling food in like feral animals

they started clearing plates up and got up without asking while I was still eating

they have tried to go back to screens instead of helping with washing up and clearing away

I’ve switched off the WiFi and they are not getting it back

Fuck screens and screen addiction (yes I’m aware I’m on one now)

HOW do they make a person so damn angry?!!

how old we talking here Op?

Tweens and teens

My kids do this and I just internally complain. But then they're 4 & 6 so I can't really expect them to behave constantly, especially after a busy Monday.

If you admit your children have screen addictions, how old are they and how much screen time do they get?

That wouldn't bother me because we don't have a table, eat at seperate times and have different meals.

i had a moment because my youngest blocked both bogs again. To be fair to him he unblocks them himself but when you're dying for a pee you're not at your most patient.

Because my dd15 just snatched something from me at the table, then screamed at me because I corrected her. I told her to get out, largely because this is the third such run in we've had today and after weeks of exams (supporting a non- independant learner) I'm exhausted! She refused to budge so I came upstairs - so she then followed me and continued to scream at me. (And that was after I cleared all the washing from the table and made the dinner, whilst they all sat on screens)

I know, she's in a scary place (post exams whats next?) and emotions are all over the show... I know she screams at me as I am her safe place.... but sometimes....

I lost my shit at my four year old for being foul. I know he’s tired and grouchy but there’s a limit to how much I can take!

I get you!

I haven't lost my shit but ive been annoyed

Dd, 6 with autism, loves cracking eggs and has gone through 3 packs of eggs that id bought for the month

She just likes cracking them into things

I've bought door locks and now a fridge lock but I'm just pissed off as its whenever my back is turned she does it

Solidarity mums - especially with the 6 weeks holidays coming up

I'd scream back! Not recommended I suppose but it would give the DC a shock and maybe make them think again next time.

Then yes op you are well within your right to get that WIFI OFF!

sorry you’ve had enough today. Relax now, recharge and don’t feel guilty

I knew it. Ah, the memories …

Thank you @hellopeople123456

sometimes you just snap, especially after the 11th time asking for a thing (we do every.single.day) to be done.

i know they are just kids. And I know I’m just a human and there is only so much I can take some days

I know they are for tinies, but she if she's egg-obsessed, she might like a toy by Tomy called Toomies Hide & Squeak Eggs. I think Montessori have some sort of egg sorting game thing too.

There has to be a sensory toy out there that gives the same experience.

Does it count if I lost my shit at my dog (dc are all adults)?
Dumb dog ate my book. I was really enjoying it.

One of my (adult) dc is autistic and loved smashing eggs! 😂 He would do a demonic laugh as he did it!

Can you blow some eggs (keeping the contents obvs) and let her smash the shells? Maybe fill them with something like a cornflour mixture (you could even colour it)?

Would she like smashing ice instead?

@mumofoneAlonebutokay
Not the point sorry, but just letting you know you can freeze eggs so they don't have to be wasted. Mix them up and pour into ice cube trays x

@mumofoneAlonebutokayOmg I would’ve absolutely lost my shit at the egg cracking also, you’re not alone there! DD is Autistic but she wouldn’t dare try that nonsense. Not a hope, I’d have nipped that in the bud straightaway. Redirection is the key!

Ds1 turned on the hosepipe again, having been told many times to turn it off and leave it. Garden will turn into a tropical rainforest and I'll have a water bill bigger than the local swimming pool.

He also deliberately, poured water from his bottle on to the carpet because he didn't like what I was saying (he needs to go to breakfast club on Wednesday). T'other child somehow smashed the peppercorn mill (just a cheapo one) leaving glass everywhere, and then created waves so big in the bath that it ended up splashing all over the bathroom floor. I mean they're old enough to know better but zero common sense.

They have to ask to leave the table? Your dinner sounds like a military operation no wonder they are uninterested.

It’s good manners to wait for everyone to finish eating before they run off, and yes, I expect them to ask but they rarely do. That’s how I was brought up, too.
On a good day, we’ll sit and eat, chat about our day and dinner ends naturally without strict rules, but today they were just plain rude!

@Floridamuma@blandanaI run a house of teenage ND boys, and a ND Husband. And a ND me ;) It’s good to teach everyone that we don’t just leave the table when we’ve finished. We communicate. We help each other. Dinner is a family activity. As is the dishwasher!

And yes, I chose the word “run” purposefully!!

Cross post @blandana!!!

Lost it with DH this afternoon! He went off on an over the top tangent on how I filled the fridge water dispenser too far up. Didn’t just mention it… instead tried to give me a big lecture and telling off. It had leaked onto the shelf below. The fill level is not very obvious, and the dispenser is not see through. I gave him both barrels, with the understanding that I would never be replenishing that thing ever again. It is now his whole and complete responsibility! I have bottled water. He can shove his. 🙄

Exactly @ChristmasLightsLover, dinner time is a time I usually look forward to and it’s a joint activity, everyone has a role.

anyhoo the WiFi has been off all night and my kids have gone back to being nice and shock horror, we’ve all been talking to each other and playing games.