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How do people with right-wing views still have loads of friends?

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AmusedTaupePlayer · 23/06/2025 13:56

Genuine question. There’s a guy at work who’s openly right-wing—thinks Brexit was great, doesn’t care about immigrants, women’s rights, gay or disabled people, constantly posts pro-Trump, Reform UK, and even likes Andrew and Tristan Tate. His dad’s the same, his mum is obsessed with “Britishness”. Basically, the full red-flag package.
Yet... he’s well-liked at work, always invited to drinks and group holidays. People act like he’s totally harmless. How?! I don’t get how someone with views that are basically hostile to entire groups of people can still be so socially accepted. Why don’t people care? He isn't actually shy about them... he openly declares them.

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Badbadbunny · 18/02/2026 14:28

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/02/2026 14:22

If you’ve lived through two Labour governments you’ve lived through decades of Conservative and they haven’t either!

And the idea of women in right wing men often means being anti immigration while marrying nice compliant women from other countries.

Not saying leftie men are great but right wing men aren’t good for women either.

Neither extreme lefties nor extreme righties are good for women, in fact neither extremists are good for anyone nor anything really. That's why it's a good thing that the majority of people are moderate.

ContentedAlpaca · 18/02/2026 16:29

We were briefly introduced to someone like you describe in a pub. When we came to leave, our car wouldn't start and they offered us to take their car and bring it back the next day. People can have views we don't agree with but still be kind, generous and trusting of almost complete strangers..

MascaraGirl · 18/02/2026 17:50

ContentedAlpaca · 18/02/2026 16:29

We were briefly introduced to someone like you describe in a pub. When we came to leave, our car wouldn't start and they offered us to take their car and bring it back the next day. People can have views we don't agree with but still be kind, generous and trusting of almost complete strangers..

This! I wouldn’t let political views influence my friendships, any more than I would religion.

EvelynBeatrice · 18/02/2026 17:58

Did you never hear the saying ‘Judge by actions, not words ‘ or ‘Judge not, less you be judged’?!

I wouldn’t share some of the views you
mention, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that the person holding them is worthless or immoral or threatening. It’s perfectly possible for decent people to hold vastly different political, religious or even moral views from each other. Accepting that is what used to be called adulthood.

2dogsandabudgie · 18/02/2026 17:59

AmusedTaupePlayer · 24/06/2025 09:57

So why does a bigot have friends?

Well you're obviously a friend otherwise how else would you know what he's posting on social media.

Lifelover16 · 18/02/2026 18:05

Because some people are civilised and accept that people might hold a different point of view to them. People will never change unless they open their minds, listen to each other and debate.

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