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Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 11:03

Dd said to me everything has been cleaned up. Its not perfect but its ok. Said my bed had been made i can just get into bed when I get home. Her tone was like she was proud so I thought oh that's kind.

I came back to 2 over flowing bins in the kitchen. Stinking of cigarettes. The kitchen stink of God knows what. The dish washer was full but no one bothered to actually turn it on the kitchen sink was full.

The cat litter was in a state.

Kids bedroom has been trashed trashed wee bedsheets everywhere not even brought down for washing.

There was chewed up nappys all over my bedroom floor. Because the stair gate wasn't put on properly.

Dd idea of making my bed was to put the white duvet bit on my bed no duvet cover. No pillow cases.

Woke up this morning to the garden flooded whilst I was away they decided to put the pool up. But it looks like they couldn't find the outlet cover thing instead of asking me what they could do they used loads of gorilla tape which has come away.

On a plus note the missing snake was found. All pets are alive. Another plus ds took one of the snakes to his girl friends house.

Also the house didn't burn down.

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ScottBakula · 17/06/2025 17:43

Good lord that must of been a shock!
I'd be insisting that DS actually cleans the house properly , presumably as he is old enough to be left alone he is old enough to clean

Stripeyanddotty · 17/06/2025 17:47

Who was left at home?

Crunchymum · 17/06/2025 17:51

Your life sounds so chaotic and exhausting.

Who pissed in the kids beds?

Stripeyanddotty · 17/06/2025 17:52

And where did the chewed up nappies come from?

Hatty65 · 17/06/2025 17:53

I'd have gone mental, told them to clean the house properly and taken myself off to a Premier Inn for the night until it was done. I'd be utterly furious to arrive home to a house like this and I'm not exactly noted for my housekeeping standards!

How old are they? Old enough to be left alone means they are old enough to ensure you return to a house that is as clean/tidy as you left it.

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 17/06/2025 17:56

Kids bedroom has been trashed trashed wee bedsheets everywhere…chewed up nappies all over my bedroom floor

Who weed on the kids bedsheets?

Whose nappies?

Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 17:59

Crunchymum · 17/06/2025 17:51

Your life sounds so chaotic and exhausting.

Who pissed in the kids beds?

It was GS which is not the problem it's the fact she just left it all in the bedroom

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Gazelda · 17/06/2025 18:04

Have you come home from holiday? Or a hospital stay? Who was at home while you were away? What ages?

it sounds as though you usually deal with all of the house keeping stuff, so it didn’t occur to them to do it. If that’s the case, then I guess it’s on you not to have instilled a level of responsibility in them while they were growing up. But more, they are irresponsible and selfish individuals who don’t seem to care for you very much. But I’ll caveat that I don’t know their ages or the full circumstances of your absence.

Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 18:04

Stripeyanddotty · 17/06/2025 17:52

And where did the chewed up nappies come from?

Youngest gs is 2 . Dd has been changing nappys in my room and putting g them in the bin in my room... I have a large gate at the top of my stairs to stop the dog getting up there. The gate got broken. Didn't tell me. So the dog gor in my room and ripped all the nappys up.

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ninjahamster · 17/06/2025 18:05

And what have you said to them all? I’d be fuming and insisting they sort things out. Tell dd to sort the bedroom with the wet bedding and to put a wash on.
Someone else to take down the pool, they are not responsible enough to have that up.
Kitchen needs tidying before they get any dinner.
Sort your bed yourself and take to it until it is done!!

Stripeyanddotty · 17/06/2025 18:05

Jesus.

hellopeople123456 · 17/06/2025 18:06

are your children also 2? My god I would be furious.

Stripeyanddotty · 17/06/2025 18:07

Who trashed the kids bedroom?
Surely not the 2 year old ?

Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 18:09

Hatty65 · 17/06/2025 17:53

I'd have gone mental, told them to clean the house properly and taken myself off to a Premier Inn for the night until it was done. I'd be utterly furious to arrive home to a house like this and I'm not exactly noted for my housekeeping standards!

How old are they? Old enough to be left alone means they are old enough to ensure you return to a house that is as clean/tidy as you left it.

I was expecting the house to be a mess to be honest. But not like it was. What pissed me of the most is dd rang me saying the house is not the best . But its ok. Your bed is all made so all you have to do is get into bed. If she said nothing i would have been less pissed off.

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Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 18:11

Stripeyanddotty · 17/06/2025 18:07

Who trashed the kids bedroom?
Surely not the 2 year old ?

7 year old gs. To be honest I don't care about that. I think its just the combination

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SoScarletItWas · 17/06/2025 18:17

Grrrrr I’m sorry your return from your holiday was so crap - but honestly OP I am chuckling at ‘the missing snake was found’

Like you had a MISSING SNAKE roaming round your house, just casual like 😆😆

Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 18:19

ninjahamster · 17/06/2025 18:05

And what have you said to them all? I’d be fuming and insisting they sort things out. Tell dd to sort the bedroom with the wet bedding and to put a wash on.
Someone else to take down the pool, they are not responsible enough to have that up.
Kitchen needs tidying before they get any dinner.
Sort your bed yourself and take to it until it is done!!

They don't live at home. Im not taking the pool down that's not fair on my other kids.

Its just annoying because had they communicated the pool could have been sorted properly from the start . And the gate could have been fixed to.

I have sorted everything now

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Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 18:22

SoScarletItWas · 17/06/2025 18:17

Grrrrr I’m sorry your return from your holiday was so crap - but honestly OP I am chuckling at ‘the missing snake was found’

Like you had a MISSING SNAKE roaming round your house, just casual like 😆😆

🤣fml I was shitting it thinking it could end up slithering down the road

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SoScarletItWas · 17/06/2025 18:24

Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 18:22

🤣fml I was shitting it thinking it could end up slithering down the road

Swimming in the pool 🤣🤣

Youagain2025 · 17/06/2025 18:25

SoScarletItWas · 17/06/2025 18:24

Swimming in the pool 🤣🤣

🤣 or that. Or the neighbours house 😳

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Livingthebestlife · 17/06/2025 18:46

Hope the flight back was ok and it's awful you had to come home to that, especially after you cleaning up for them to stay there. Are you glad to be home or are you all missing it.

MinistryofThyme · 17/06/2025 19:15

It’s pretty shocking that she’s raising two children and lets a home end up like that. I’m sorry you had to come back to it.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 17/06/2025 19:18

What is your DD’s house like if she’s left yours in that state?

doglover4ever · 17/06/2025 19:20

Cannot believe what I have just read! Your daughter should be thoroughly ashamed of herself and I hate to think what revolting state her own home is in. Doesn’t she have any self respect and respect for you and your home?

smallglassbottle · 17/06/2025 19:25

Your daughter sounds lazy and inadequate. I don't know how old she is, but I'd be so ashamed if I'd ever behaved like that when my dcs were young.