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5, almost 6yr old watched something horrible on a playdate

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Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · 08/06/2025 19:59

I'm really upset about it. My son told me to look up "have a sandwich" on YouTube (adults YouTube not kids YouTube). We don't let him watched the non kids YouTube at all Obviously! But this is what he was shown and I feel sick! Do I let the mum know or do I just keep quiet? This was my 5yr olds first playdate without me so now I am angry with myself for letting it happen.

Just type in have a sandwich meme and it's an old old man shouting at his wife but as you will see, it's vile.

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 08/06/2025 20:04

Did he watch the whole film? I just did and it was not great for a five year old but I think they do watch weird stuff. I’d probably just let the mum know as a heads up as her son must have got it from somewhere?

BodenCardiganNot · 08/06/2025 20:09

Do I let the mum know or do I just keep quiet?

Of course you tell her. And say to her that you don't want your child watching YouTube unsupervised. That may mean the end of playdates in that house but that may be no bad thing.

JustAnInchident · 08/06/2025 20:12

Yea, I’m not going to look up a video but if it was inappropriate, I’d definitely mention it to the mum in a ‘oh they’ve managed to watch xyz’ casual, non-accusatory sort of way and try and gauge her response from that. If she is horrified or upset by it too, then that’s fine and I expect she’ll be more vigilant in the future but if not and she doesn’t take it overly seriously, I’d call time on play dates at that particular friends house.

Does Your son seem upset by it? I suspect he might be as he told you to look it up?

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Busylikeabee · 08/06/2025 20:21

If I found the right one, I wouldn't be happy if my five year old had seen it. Unfortunately, not all parents are aware of the kinds of things their children might look at. I would say something, going first on the presumption she doesn't realise what he has been watching.

flufffyyydog · 08/06/2025 20:48

My child was shown a horrible YouTube meme at that age and it really scared them. But it hasn’t scarred them for life, so don’t worry OP. It’s not your fault. Definitely tell the mum - it’s not ok to let children loose on YouTube (even kids’ YouTube because there’s weird stuff on that too).

Because of the world we live in, it would be impossible to shield them from this trash forever, so it’s really important to teach them digital literacy and healthy skepticism about things they see.

Absolutenonsense · 08/06/2025 21:01

I would be furious if my 5 year old was allowed unsupervised access to YouTube on a play date. Best to check what access the children will have to any internet stuff going forward with any new child they’ve not had a play date with before

Istheremore · 08/06/2025 21:21

I watched it and it made me feel sick. Id Definitely send a messaging warning her what her unsupervised child is watching.

carly2803 · 08/06/2025 21:29

yeah i would not be amused - the mum needs to know
Youtube is banned in our house completely - even the kids one, cannot control what the watch unlike films that stay on and are child locked etc

LegoAirlines · 08/06/2025 21:32

I just did and it was not great for a five year old but I think they do watch weird stuff.

Erm…Only if people let them roam YouTube unsupervised.

vincettenoir · 08/06/2025 21:34

I don’t know the video but I would mention it, yes. I would keep the message fairly brief and not lay it on too thick but just mention that your dc had seen it at their house and you wanted to let her know her dc had also seen it. I would maybe facilitate all playdates with that particular kid at your own house at least in the short term future.

LostArrows · 08/06/2025 21:41

"Make me a sandwich" came up when I searched it, if that's what he watched then thats horrifically inappropriate. I was expecting you to be overreacting but I would be upset even if a 10 year old watched that nevermind a 5 year old.

Yourethebeerthief · 08/06/2025 21:43

I searched it and the still images and synopsis were enough to make me feel ill and upset. I would be hitting the fucking roof over this. He’d never go back there.

Pricelessadvice · 08/06/2025 21:49

It’s actually a very good little short horror film!
But yeh, not appropriate for kids.

feelingbleh · 08/06/2025 21:55

I was already rolling my eyes thinking you was being a dramatic pfb mum but iv just googled it, that is absolutely not ok I would definitely say something as it might make the other mum think a little bit more about unsupervised Internet access and dependent on her response would be whether I let my kid go round their again

Sprookjesbos · 08/06/2025 22:04

Just watched it. God, my 9 and 7 year olds would both be disturbed by that. Absolutely tell the parents. This is why we don't allow unsupervised access to adult YouTube (we only allow kids YouTube supervised!) What was the mum thinking. I'd be furious actually.

Strawberrylemonades · 08/06/2025 22:19

That is completely inappropriate for kids, even I felt a bit sick watching it and didn't want to finish watching that short film.

We had to have a chat with an extended family member for allowing their 7 year old child unsupervised access to adult YouTube. Not sure how long that was going on. A few family members couldn't see what the fuss was about that I was kicking up there. Took an unreasonable amount of convincing to get through that this wasn't appropriate for such a young child.

Some people don't seem to think there is any harm with YouTube. It's just videos. This mum may not also not realise and has a similar attitude, however odd it may seem to think YouTube is "innocent"/appropriate for little kids or whatever.

NotReallyJustAtTheMoment · 08/06/2025 22:22

Definitely raise this with the Mum. My son has been out of school for 18 months with MH problems and a lot of it is due to stuff he's seen on internet videos and video games. It does scar kids, no matter how much they may have said it was fine at the time.

MelaniesLaugh · 08/06/2025 22:24

I don’t know if I’ve watched the wrong one, but was it the one where she puts washing up liquid and other things as extra fillings? I don’t quite understand the horror, but definitely let the mum know

Strawberrylemonades · 08/06/2025 22:46

MelaniesLaugh · 08/06/2025 22:24

I don’t know if I’ve watched the wrong one, but was it the one where she puts washing up liquid and other things as extra fillings? I don’t quite understand the horror, but definitely let the mum know

Did you also see that she put chunky broken glass as one of the things as extra fillings? I stopped watching when he was chewing through that.

WeCouldDoBetter · 08/06/2025 22:47

They weren't being properly supervised. No need to be on screendbdurinf a playdate at that age, they should he playing!

Yourethebeerthief · 08/06/2025 22:47

MelaniesLaugh · 08/06/2025 22:24

I don’t know if I’ve watched the wrong one, but was it the one where she puts washing up liquid and other things as extra fillings? I don’t quite understand the horror, but definitely let the mum know

Well, at the end he’s a dead corpse so…

ohfourfoxache · 08/06/2025 22:51

I’d be properly pissed off tbh - that’s completely inappropriate

Stripeyanddotty · 08/06/2025 22:51

I was already rolling my eyes thinking you was being a dramatic pfb mum

So your initial reaction is that unsupervised 5 year olds watching YouTube is no problem?

GoodOldTrayBake · 08/06/2025 22:52

Why can’t I find this?!?! Can someone share a link

LauraP32 · 08/06/2025 22:57

Oh hell no. That's horrendous. You need to tell her.

But also credit to you that your son told you what he watched. At least this meant you could talk to him about it. On the other hand, absolutely no idea how you go about explaining something like that to a 5yr old - but he told you and that really counts.