How many times a day do you tell your partner you love them?

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If you've been together a couple of years, ups and downs. How many times and in what situations ( for want of a better word ) do you tell your partner you love them?

Are you at "I love you" or ( like me ), " love you night night " type?

Together 20 years and we both always make sure we say "I love you" to each other every day.

Sometimes DH will message me and say "I love you, couldn't remember if I told you yet today 😍" and it's really sweet.

Probably a bit soppy for many people, but it's important to us.

11 years and and every morning when we're off to work, every night before bed, sometimes during the day, and we have a rule to always say it when one leaves the house so it's always the last thing we've said to each other if we get into a car crash! Mad but true.

I LOVE to hear it.

24 years together - we don't say it everyday, we might say it 4/5 times a week.

Myself and my kids all do this. Every call no matter how mundane, " ds 21, please can you bring fabs home? Love you" me - sure. Right bye, love you, and every time any of us leave the house.

I say it in my personal life in the same way. I wouldn't message my partner just to say it.

Every day and last thing at night, been happily married 46 years.

we are all very “I love you” people. DS even says it when he’s finished watching tv and goes upstairs (he’s 13, so long may that continue!) so definitely several times a day - it’s my natural goodbye comment on the phone too if that makes sense?!

Several times a day. The usual leaving the house and before bed. Sometimes randomly. When he’s working away we message instead . So at least two times a day , every day. 16 years together.

This is really interesting. I've been having therapy and I gre up in a very dysfunctional family. I also have cptsd and adhd. For me saying I love you feels like a lot.

The only people I say it to without thought ( ie replying ) is my children and I tell them all the time.

I wonder if it's something I'll ever feel comfortable with. 🤔

Feels like a lot in what way?

Every day before we part for work, sometimes throughout the day on text and if we talk on the phone and then before we go to sleep.

It varies.

I don’t really like the sort of automatic response “love you” or the going out the house “love you”s that are automatic rather than meaningful.

in sayinng that, DS is that type so sometimes I reply to him other times I tell him to Wheesht lol

DH and I tend to say it at bedtime..

Not very often at all, together 25 years, a very calm and happy relationship and it’s just ‘known…’

The dog however, every 20 minutes or so perhaps?! 😆

I never say it unless absolutely pressed. I too had a dysfunctional family growing up so maybe that’s it.

Not very often. But I'll tell my friends all the time ....

Several times a day, both phone/text or face to face & at bedtime. 24 years together, married 23 ❤️

Probably once every 6 months 😂 been together 8 years, married for 3

We tell each other a lot, and we mean it

We don't say it everyday, it becomes white noise. My brother and sister in law say it constantly (and all over Instagram) and fight like cat and dog. The words don't matter to me as much at the actions.

I had a really stressful day at work a few weeks ago back to back, DH popped out to my favourite coffee shop got me a coffee and handed it to me while I was in a teams meeting and mouthed love you.

I had to be up early and out last week and DH was starting a new job, we usually make our own lunches, but I knew it would make his life easier doing the school run and getting to his new job on time if I made his too, so I did and put a note in saying enjoy your first day, you'll be fantastic, I love you.

Zero times. Maybe once in a while. to DC a bit more. There’s other ways to tell them you love them without saying it explicitly. It’s cultural also

I’m all for actions speak louder than words

Not every day for us. Maybe once every few months. Married for decades and no issues, we both know that’s how the other feels so no need to say/hear it daily. We have been that way from the beginning though, it didn’t drop off over the decades.

The dog 🤣🤣

It doesn't feel authentic, almost like it would be trying to make it stick if that makes sense.

We don't say it every day , if you say it at the same time of every day or the same situation every day then you are just saying it out of habit.

when we say it we really mean it, saying it and showing it are so different things, I’d rather be shown that I’m loved than hear the phrase repeated to me out of habit.

God sounds exhausting! 🤣 married 11 years, very happily and I’m lucky to have an amazing husband

however I couldn’t be doing with him saying ‘love you’ every day! Or every week. Or even every month. Seems so needy to me.

we probably say it a couple of times a year.

I always think that love is the easiest thing to say and the hardest thing to prove and it’s just so meaningless to tack it on to the end of every text or whatever it is that people do!

that’s just me though and I suspect I’m in a minority here 🤣

This is more my comfort zone I think.