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Just come into emergency accommodation and I feel so low

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cheekycee · 07/06/2025 16:29

I’ve come into emergency accommodation with my children (one child is still on holiday with her dad but my son is with me) I feel so low and like I let them down. How am I almost 30 and I am in this situation😭. I feel so low. Everyone here see ex cons and all sorts. I’m sorry I’m judging but it is true I have seen them. I know it’s cause it’s change but honestly I feel heart broken. I’m told I could be here for 7-9 months. In a hotel room. With two kids. I’m out of the area that is normal for me so it all feels strange I’m so low.

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DurinsBane · 07/06/2025 21:56

Fairyladyonwheels · 07/06/2025 21:54

How come you ended up in emergency accommodation? Were you not paying rent? If you are working, try and private rent and work more hours to improve your situation.

She works full time….

Missj25 · 07/06/2025 21:56

cheekycee · 07/06/2025 16:29

I’ve come into emergency accommodation with my children (one child is still on holiday with her dad but my son is with me) I feel so low and like I let them down. How am I almost 30 and I am in this situation😭. I feel so low. Everyone here see ex cons and all sorts. I’m sorry I’m judging but it is true I have seen them. I know it’s cause it’s change but honestly I feel heart broken. I’m told I could be here for 7-9 months. In a hotel room. With two kids. I’m out of the area that is normal for me so it all feels strange I’m so low.

Hey OP ..
Stop feeling bad .. This is only a short term situation & you’ll find your feet again ..
Once you & your kids are together, it is really all that matters ..
I know it is easy for us to say & you’re going through this , but you know it’s not forever..
Kids live in homes with parents who don’t show them any love , or don’t look after them & that’s so sad 😔 ..
You’ll get through this , you’re not a failure , thing’s just aren’t going as you’d like at the moment, but they will again , don’t worry x x

bestcatlife · 07/06/2025 22:05

Many many people are in the same situation. You are not alone, OP. Eventually you will be housed somewhere permanent and I hope your wait is short.

ruethewhirl · 07/06/2025 22:07

Fairyladyonwheels · 07/06/2025 21:54

How come you ended up in emergency accommodation? Were you not paying rent? If you are working, try and private rent and work more hours to improve your situation.

RTFT. 🙄

CalicoPusscat · 07/06/2025 22:58

You're going to have bleak moments. Take a deep breath, steady yourself, and find something distracting to do.

And find any support network you can to talk to about it.

ungratefulcat · 07/06/2025 23:01

Is private renting an option? The local authority may be able to help you with the deposit

ungratefulcat · 07/06/2025 23:03

Or some charities can help fund rent deposits too - try the turn2us website to see if there are any suitable charities you can apply for to help with the rent deposit ?

If there are difficulties with how other people staying in the hotel are behaving please report this to the local authority. They can only take action if they are aware of the issue.

Hdpr · 07/06/2025 23:04

Stay strong, you will come out of the other side. Just try and keep busy doing free things and trying to enjoy your children. Tell them it’s not forever and you will make the best of it. Sorry you’re going through this

Whistlingformysupper · 07/06/2025 23:20

OP is private renting not an option? 9 months is a really long time to be in a grim emergency accommodation, if you are working full time can you not look for a rental? Even a 1bed flat with the two kids sharing the bedroom and you on a sofa bed in the lounge?
Surely that would be better

Isitreallythough · 07/06/2025 23:39

Wishing you strength OP. It must be a really hard week, but it really doesn’t sound like you’ve let your children down. I hope you can find little things to enjoy to keep yourselves and each other positive until you’re able to move on to a better place and a bright future

LadyLolaRuben · 07/06/2025 23:44

Come on OP you can do this. In your whole life it's a chapter of months. You're keeping warm and dry - it's a start. The only way is up x

Azulejo9 · 07/06/2025 23:59

Try to focus on the positives for now, whilst not ideal it’s only a temporary solution.
You've got a bed & a roof over your heads. Do not beat yourself up either. This can happen to any person.I truly wish you the very best OP. You have got this 💖

Throwingpots · 08/06/2025 00:24

Ive not been in your situation, but I can only try and imagine how you feel. You obviously love your kids so much, and are managing to keep the three of you together so well done you. I wish you well, and hope life gets easier for you soon. Keep strong for those lovely kids, they'll thank you for your love one day.

JustMyView13 · 08/06/2025 05:32

I’ll be honest with you OP. It’s really hard to exist and experience life’s challenges in a world where everyone is portraying perfection online. But the truth is, nobody posts about the tough times. This is a phase for you. A moment. Being in this temporary accommodation is a means to an end. Showing your children how to rebuild again after this setback will teach them so much about resilience, growth and hard work. It might not be perfect, and it’s ok to miss your old routine. But it also won’t be forever.

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cheekycee · 08/06/2025 06:02

Good morning all, I’ll be honest.. where they tried to put me before this one was nothing short of a crack den. Obviously I walked out and did not take my kids there. Then I was offered this. It’s a nice little hotel room I am not saying the room itself is grim. The living conditions without cooking and being out with ex cons is grim too… my mum suggested a soup maker and I couldn’t be more pleased cause now I can still put veggies into my children 🥹

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cheekycee · 08/06/2025 06:03

Fairyladyonwheels · 07/06/2025 21:54

How come you ended up in emergency accommodation? Were you not paying rent? If you are working, try and private rent and work more hours to improve your situation.

If only…. I’m a single mum with no help my daughter works school hours I work full time and I ended up here because of domestic abuse and being put into debt. Renting would cost double what it would on the council. Private rent would leave me in the - each month trust me I worked it out this was last resort.

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cheekycee · 08/06/2025 06:05

mumtumok · 07/06/2025 18:27

Hay girly your doing it for your children never forget what’s your doing it for! It’s not forever and Rome wasn’t built in a day. I’ve been there and there is light at the end of the tunnel xx

I just wanted to come back to your comment and advise you that my mum suggested a soup maker for the hotel room which I’m going to do. Have you got one? They’re amazing and allows us to feed veggies into the kids still. Also I ordered a small countertop fridge for my sons milk and daughters snacks etc

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ToriTheStoryteller · 08/06/2025 06:16

Have you already bought the soup maker? If not, I'd suggest a small slow cooker instead as you can get a lot more out of it - soups, casseroles, bolognaise, curries, cheap meat joints that suit low, long cooking times. It would give you a lot more variation and you can just bung everything in and leave it (I never bother to pre-fry anything).

Good luck, by the way. You will get to a brighter place.❤️

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cheekycee · 08/06/2025 06:20

ToriTheStoryteller · 08/06/2025 06:16

Have you already bought the soup maker? If not, I'd suggest a small slow cooker instead as you can get a lot more out of it - soups, casseroles, bolognaise, curries, cheap meat joints that suit low, long cooking times. It would give you a lot more variation and you can just bung everything in and leave it (I never bother to pre-fry anything).

Good luck, by the way. You will get to a brighter place.❤️

Ahhh you’re absolutely right I’ll do that - I do have a soup maker at my parents but will get the slow cooker instead. Thanks a lot :-)

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cherrycola66 · 08/06/2025 06:22

cheekycee · 08/06/2025 06:02

Good morning all, I’ll be honest.. where they tried to put me before this one was nothing short of a crack den. Obviously I walked out and did not take my kids there. Then I was offered this. It’s a nice little hotel room I am not saying the room itself is grim. The living conditions without cooking and being out with ex cons is grim too… my mum suggested a soup maker and I couldn’t be more pleased cause now I can still put veggies into my children 🥹

You could also get a slow cooker? I use one when I’m working I think they’re great

ToriTheStoryteller · 08/06/2025 06:30

cheekycee · 08/06/2025 06:20

Ahhh you’re absolutely right I’ll do that - I do have a soup maker at my parents but will get the slow cooker instead. Thanks a lot :-)

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No problem! If you are restricted with fridge space, get the smallest size then you won't end up with loads leftover (which is OK if you have a freezer).
I have a small one and found a chicken reduced at Tesco yesterday morning - it just squeezed in the slow cooker and gave us a cheap roast with half left for today.
Taming Twins website has tons of good recipes that I've used a lot.

PearlsPearl · 08/06/2025 08:15

Fairyladyonwheels · 07/06/2025 21:54

How come you ended up in emergency accommodation? Were you not paying rent? If you are working, try and private rent and work more hours to improve your situation.

Oh just -go away- and get off the internet

(edited to remove what I actually want to say but don't want MN to kick me off)

BunnyRuddington · 08/06/2025 08:21

I’m so sorry you’re going through this but wanted to say that you’re doing the right thing, even though it must be so hard.

The fact that you’re worried about your DC shows how much you care for them. Several months sounds like a long time now but hopefully this time next year you’ll be settled on your new home with your DC and looking back at how well you’ve done to escape and make a better life for you and the DC Flowers

Stripeyanddotty · 08/06/2025 08:32

Because you are working full time then your children still have the stability of their nursery/childminder Monday to Friday so that’s a positive in terms of getting them out of the hotel room. Also your dd probably sees her dad EOW?

Notwiththebullshizz · 08/06/2025 08:56

Can you get yourself a little air fryer too? That'll allow you to make lots of different meals, quickly too. I appreciate space is not on your side but you could rotate the appliances if this is the case. I'm sure you're doing absolutely all you can to assure a better future for your kids, that's the main focus so keep remembering that. Good luck with everything, keep to yourself and it'll pass quickly for you all. Sending you all the strength