Female colleague lift

[LouXx12]

Posting for a friend as they don't have mumsnet.
Would you be annoyed if your Dh gave a female colleague a lift home in this situation.
Bit of context: friend trusts her Dh, no reason not to trust him.
Few months ago Friends Dh had a car accident after work, the female colleagues husband went into the back of him, they swapped details etc. Found out they live not far from each other.
Fast forward a few months friend is looking in her husbands phone for a phone number and finds a name she doesn't recognise so asks who it is, her Dh says oh thats colleagues Dh I have his number from when we swapped details from the crash, friend asks why he still has the phone number, her dh says just incase they ever try and ask for a lift I will know who it is ringing and then I can just ignore the call as I don't want to give her a lift.
Her Dh has said he's never had a conversation with female colleague and just says hello.
Fast forward to yesterday when Friends Dh is late home from work, comes in and says I HAD to give female colleague a lift home. Friend says what do you mean you HAD to give her a lift, Her dh said she asked infront of everyone so he felt like he had to give her a lift.
Friend is upset as feels it's strange how her dh said he kept the husbands phone number so he can avoid giving a lift, but then gives her a lift because she asks infront of everyone, also finds it odd how a woman would ask someone she's never had a conversation with for a lift home.

It sounds as though her H and this woman colleague are a lot friendlier than he is admitting to.

I think your friend sounds a bit jealous and controlling if I'm honest, unless you're going to tell us he has a history of cheating on her?

She was nosing through his phone (let's face it).

She then questioned him about why he still had the number? Why? It's his phone, he shouldn't have to justify that and I certainly wouldn't be pleased if my DH gave me an inquisition about the numbers in mine.

There's nothing wrong with giving a colleague a lift and I can quite imagine it being awkward if asked in front of everyone.

My thoughts too! Just wanted to see what others thought

What’s wrong with him giving her a lift?

No history of cheating,she was looking through his phone for a phone number (apparently not snooping) I agree it would be a bit awkward in that situation to say no to a lift, however something seems a bit off to me

Off why?

You say she trusts him and has never had a reason not to.

It's perfectly fine to give a colleague a lift even when the colleague happens to be female.

It would have been incredibly difficult for him to say no infront of everyone

I think your friends reading too much into things

She hasn't got a problem with him giving her a lift in theory, but thinking back to finding the phone number and him saying he's never had a conversation with her, seems a bit forward for her to ask someone she's never spoken to for a lift

Because when she found the phone number and asked who it was her H said he'd kept the number so if he got a call or text asking for a lift he would know who it was and could ignore it as he didn't want to give her a lift, but then he gives her a lift when she asks for one?

I have people's numbers in my phone from the last century. I should probably have a clear our, but I can't be arsed. So that in itself wouldn't bother me.

I tend to give lifts to people if they ask, if it doesn't cause me issues timewise. I spent years without a car, so I figure I'm paying back for all the lifts I used to be given.

I don't think it would bother me unless there had been mentionitus or something else going on.

I agree!

No nope nah uhhh, sorry but this is TOO coincidental. She finds number and his explanation is fine THEN his late and has the explained story. No no no. What women who has never had a conversation with asking for a lift. It doesn’t make sense. IMO I’d want it to make sense so I’d be asking more questions and explaining it’s inappropriate. Why was a loft not sorted before attending work in the morning? I do not believe that a lift was asked for in front of everyone? Im
sure the said person is closer to other workers than your friends husband? Who could be asked for a lift. No no no. Sorry, get it sorted now.

But the circumstances are different

Big difference to sitting in your house one evening and seeing a call come up from that number. He'd know who it was and why they're calling. Easy to ignore

Standing in an office with a group of people and being asked means he was totally put on the spot and felt obliged.

It's totally different circumstances. I bet if she asks again like that hell have an excuse ready

You and your friend really are making a mountain out of a molehill

It's the whole thing of him specifically saying he'd saved the number incase they rang to ask for a lift ( so he would know who it was so he could ignore the call) not a weird thing to say? And then giving her a lift even though he'd said he didn't want to, she just finds that a bit weird

Yes because he was put in an awkward position.

He may or may not have had the odd conversation with her at work, but do you really think he's going to tell that to his jealous wife who thinks it's ok to snoop through the numbers on his phone and then question him?

For all you know he's probably treading on eggshells around her, lest he disturb the jealous beast inside.

You're really not understanding what 'put in an awkward position' means, are you?

You keep repeating the fact he said he saved the number because he didn't want to give her a lift.

But she didn't ring him, she asked in front of everyone.

I don't know how anyone can explain it to your 'friend' any clearer than this?

Apparently she got a taxi to work as her own husbands car broke down (her husband normally takes her and picks her up) but she asked infront of everyone for friends H to take her home

I can see both sides, I find it a little coincidental the whole saving the phone number and then her asking for a lift, how did he preempt her asking for a lift (albeit months down the line) just seems a little suspicious, but also can see his side if he was asked infront of everyone it would be awkward to say no..but then again why would she ask him for a lift if they've never spoken?

They both sound a bit odd.
Her for asking who people are in her DHs phone
Him keeping a number for such an odd reason
Her for remembering the conversation about the phone number
Him and her for being so weird about someone needing a lift

Then again, why do you care this much?

And why didn't your 'friend' take 2-3 minutes to make her own account?

Because it seems a bit suspicious that he preempted her asking for a lift months down the line

Not really. She's now discovered someone she works with lives near her. Its not really a huge leap to work out that at some point down the line if she needs a lift he'd be handiest

You and your friend seem hell bent on turning this into something

I really don't, met up with friend, friend tells me, I can see both points of view, little suspicious but also can see it being awkward for him, I said let's see what mumsnet say

Bit CF to ask someone you have never had a conversation with for a lift, I wouldn't ask my male or female colleagues who I've never spoken to for a lift

Your friend doesn’t sound like a reasonable person if she’s asking “why do you still have this number?”
Do people delete numbers once they feel like they probably don’t need it anymore? I don’t. God knows what numbers I have on my phone, and if DH said “why do you still have this number” I’d think he’d gone a bit mad.

And, if you don’t want to speak to someone, but they have your number, keeping their number saved so that you can ignore a call makes perfect sense. I also think it makes sense that if she said, in front of everyone, “could you give me a lift, I still live just by you so it’s not out of your way” he didn’t feel able to say “no, I don’t want to.”