Female colleague lift

[LouXx12]

Posting for a friend as they don't have mumsnet.
Would you be annoyed if your Dh gave a female colleague a lift home in this situation.
Bit of context: friend trusts her Dh, no reason not to trust him.
Few months ago Friends Dh had a car accident after work, the female colleagues husband went into the back of him, they swapped details etc. Found out they live not far from each other.
Fast forward a few months friend is looking in her husbands phone for a phone number and finds a name she doesn't recognise so asks who it is, her Dh says oh thats colleagues Dh I have his number from when we swapped details from the crash, friend asks why he still has the phone number, her dh says just incase they ever try and ask for a lift I will know who it is ringing and then I can just ignore the call as I don't want to give her a lift.
Her Dh has said he's never had a conversation with female colleague and just says hello.
Fast forward to yesterday when Friends Dh is late home from work, comes in and says I HAD to give female colleague a lift home. Friend says what do you mean you HAD to give her a lift, Her dh said she asked infront of everyone so he felt like he had to give her a lift.
Friend is upset as feels it's strange how her dh said he kept the husbands phone number so he can avoid giving a lift, but then gives her a lift because she asks infront of everyone, also finds it odd how a woman would ask someone she's never had a conversation with for a lift home.

Well maybe, but that’s unrelated to your friend’s husband not deleting an old number.

I really don't think my friend is jealous and controlling, she's very organised and laughs at me for having 100s of unread emails and notifications, she's the sort of person who would go through her own phone and delete old phone numbers, emails, duplicate photos. I think she was asking in an organised more than a controlling way

Of course she's controlling.

My ex husband would go through my phone too and ask me about numbers he either didn't recognise, or thought I shouldn't have.

It's one of the reasons he's an ex.

She had no right to demand why he didn't delete the number after the crash.

And if he has had the occasional colleague to colleague chat, I'm not surprised he didn't tell her.

It's just not worth the aggro when you're married to someone like that.

It could be completely innocent, or there could be something iffy going on. Is the number saved in the phone definitely the woman’s dh? Or could it be hers?

On the face of it, it sounds like your friend’s dh was put into a difficult situation and couldn’t easily say no to her.

However, despite your friend’s protestations it does sound like she was snooping on him. If she was looking for a number of someone (who she presumably knew by name) then it’s unlikely she would have just stumbled across this random contact. Plus why is she questioning him about people in his contact list. I have years and years worth of random people’s numbers and if my dh started grilling me about who certain people were and why I had their number then I would find that very nosy and controlling. Also, why does your friend feel the need to know everyone in his contact list? Again, comes across as controlling. Her dh is allowed to contact people she doesn’t personally know.

Wow! Just because you've had a controlling ex everyone's controlling. She didn't demand why he didn't delete the number, she just wondered who 'fred' was and why he'd kept 'freds' number

Not sure if its definitely the H, but that would be a bit silly to say it was colleagues H if it was actually colleague, if he's lying why wouldn't he just say its Fred from work or Fred from school

Tbf people say stupid things when put on the spot. However, unless she has reason to think he’s lying, I think your friend just take what her dh says at face value.

She has no reason to suspect anything

Another thing he said which she thought was strange was ' You wouldn't have even known if I didn't tell you' (about the lift)