What did I do wrong?

[ByJadeExpert]

Years ago, there was a woman sending seductive photos and messages to my then boyfriend. clothed, but certain angles/positions/looks and speaking to him as though they were a couple. I was essentially being gaslit by both of them. They were telling me that it was ok, there was nothing wrong with it, that I am imagining a problem etc. after a while of these excuses, I posted some of the photos the woman had sent to my boyfriend, as well as screenshots of some of her messages to reddit to ask for the opinions of other people. I got a massive amount of backlash from people in general for posting those photos without her consent and my posts were removed. They told me that I was in the wrong, but I genuinely to this day, don’t understand why

You don’t understand why it’s wrong to post pictures of someone on the internet without their permission?

Because two wrongs don't make a right.

There being a problem implies that my feelings were right and there was something inappropriate about the messages and the photos. Unless there is something more to it? People are posted on the internet everyday without their permission , YouTube and Tik tok, so yes I don’t understand what the issue is

She might have been Lilo Lil but you were being devious by posting the pictures of her on a public forum with the sole intent of having random people agree with you and most likely hopefully slag her off.

It backfired and you were quite rightly called out for it.

The only person that needed to decide whether the photographs and messages being sent to your boyfriend were inappropriate was you. No need to show anyone else except maybe a sister or best friend if you needed support, but certainly not random people.

No. She could have been dressed as a nun and posting images of her on the internet without her permission would still be messed up. If she’s identifiable in the photos, it’s possibly also illegal.

What on earth is wrong with you?

I still don’t understand why it was wrong

Did you post her face?

You shouldn’t have posted her photos online. Posting the messages would have been fine but not her photos

https://www.gov.uk/government/news/crackdown-on-intimate-image-abuse-as-government-strengthens-online-safety-laws

It is morally wrong to post pictures of people without their consent, potentially defamatory if you were insinuating negative things about her, and definitely illegal if the photos were sexually suggestive, that could be revenge porn. What is it you don’t get?

It wasn’t revenge porn. She was clothed. It was more the look she was giving to the camera, and also she was wearing a vest and had just gotten out of the shower with wet hair. So still seductive, but not naked or porn

You shared photos of someone on a public forum without their consent. Convinced this is a troll account.

Weirdly perfectly acceptable if a parent does it to their child though.

OP, you’re a grown adult, you know it was an invasion of privacy.

If this happened years ago, why are you thinking about it now?

Funnily enough I disagree with this too if done publicly. I hate these YouTubers that do it, like Louise pentland.

What seems like the majority of parents in general tend to post their kids photos on the internet.

There’s a bit of a difference from posting normal kids pics to a private fb page to outing sexy albeit clothed photos of some girl to Reddit publicly where anyone could see and download it.

i dislike the parents who publicly post where anyone can see and take it similar to what this girl has done. She could potentially get in trouble with the police if they are sexy photos - even if they’re clothed. Could still be seen as revenge porn.

In terms of posting other people’s photos without their permission, I don’t see a difference.

But going back to the OP, I’m struggling to believe they don’t understand they were in the wrong.

Probably a troll

Have you any understanding of data protection? You can’t just willy nilly target someone and post peoples pictures on the internet. This is very different to posting a picture of crowds at a music venture.

if you were unhappy with the messages between them both, then you should have ended the relationship

I would be absolutely raging if someone posted my photo on a public website regardless of the situation.

It wouldn’t be OK for your boyfriend or your colleagues or your mates to upload pics of you to Reddit and ask strangers to comment on them.

it wouldn’t be OK for me to post wholesome pictures of my gran on Reddit without her consent.

You just don’t put photos of other people up on public internet forums. That’s what you did wrong.

I have a learning disability but ok

So it was of her face, and you still don't think you did anything wrong? You did, the fact that you don't understand that doesn't mean it wasn't wrong.

Well take the advice of everyone here, and on reddit, and accept that you did something wrong.