Today is the day I go into emergency accommodation (hotel) with my babies

[cheekycee]

So today I’m going into emergency accommodation. I fled DV this time last year and thought I’d get a property by now so my parents said I could stay here short term. They’re 60 odd and it’s getting unbareable to be living here with us all under one roof as it’s their home they want to relax and I have my two very wild and lovely child like children running riot just being kids! I have taken the steps to go into emergency accommodation to then secure temp accommodation and then finally our forever home.

I feel so bad putting my daughter through this move as she’s older and will realise the moving around. My son is a baby so he wont remember it at all.

im nervous and I haven’t yet found out where I’m going.. I think I’m just posting to deal with nerves to be honest! I could be here upto 30-40 weeks they have told me due to shortages on temp accommodation 😫. Urgh.. here goes…

You have done tbe best thing you ever could for your dd by leaving a dv relationship. Hold your head high and remember that x

Good luck with the move! It'll be hard staying in B&B with two small children - hopefully your parents will still be there for you and offer support.

I just feel guilty that it took me so long to leave. Strictly speaking I should have left at the first instant. I feel bad for that but it isn’t that easy. I’m getting a lot of guilt now I’m healing… but the show goes on and the world does not stop spinning. Thanks guys x

I'm sending you all the luck in the world. X

Same here - best of luck & a brighter future for you all!

Don't feel guilty - we live our lives forwards! And you've done the brave thing. Hope all goes well for you.

I wish you the best life, for you and for your beautiful children 🙏 You've done what they absolutely needed: you've fled from a life of violence and fear, for them, so you have done the right thing. The right path doesn't always look easy, though. Hang in there together, aknowledge their feelings about it all and be with them when they express their grief in all of its forms. You will be safe and together. I hope your life fills with peace and love, and that you find the place to call home sooner rather than later 💐🙏💚💪

🥹thank you SO much. That message is the nicest message I think I may have ever received. You’re absolutely right and your advice will be taken onboard thank you so much and I return them well wishes to you also. I wish you great health, happiness and great things now and moving forward x

Well done for getting yourselves safe and I hope it goes well today.
I have a friend who had to do this - she made her emergency/ temporary accommodation as cosy as she could for the kids by taking some familiar/ fun decorations, and clipping up their drawings etc and a special ‘fairy’. Kids can be so resilient and they focus on things that that we don’t (and vice versa). Also they really pick up on our feelings don’t they, so as long as you act as positive as you can (even if it feels grim there) and try to make it fun, then that’s what they’ll take from the experience. You’ve got this! 💪 xx

Your children have a very brave and very loving mum. It’s very hard to leave, you’ve done it! Onwards and upwards OP!
The future is bright for you all.

Youve done the hardest part with leaving so you can more than deal with anything that comes your way now.

It'll be tough but look how far you have already come. You know that leaving was the best possible thing you could do for your kids.

You are strong. Your daughter will see you being strong.

Good luck.

This is what they put me in. I walked out and told them I’d sooner sleep on the streets. Crack heads and blood all up the walls and bathroom. Unclean and very unsafe.

Oh dear. Have you gone back to your parents? I'm so sorry x

Im sorry to see this. What will happen now?

Is there anyway you can make things work better with your parents?

Is that the hotel you're currently staying at? Or are you saying you've just walked out of there.

Good luck with the new accommodation ,you’re giving your kids the best you can just now.
Very soon this stage in your life will be over and you will have a great future to create.
It’s hard just now but your resilience will set you up for anything. Your kids will be so proud of.

God that is unbelievable. Is there zero dignity awarded to those who need such accommodation? And surely there must be inspections of some sorts and basic standards to be met.

I'm shocked at those pics, but maybe I shouldn't be.

Where have you gone now, back to your folks? Sorry about your troubles.

That's dreadfull , have you gone home to parents

So sorry you’re going through this. Please go back to your parents. Good luck moving forward. Take care of yourself.

I d hope you parents who have been providing your accommodation are ok with you walking out of the emergency option and returning to them!

it must be very difficult for you to have accommodation that you don’t like.

Realy hope things eventually work out for u xxxx

Could you try a private rental if you get UC? It will be of a higher standard and you’ll have more choice

What on earth did the Council say @cheekycee?

Really hope something works out soon. I know what you mean about different stages with parents 🌺

For tonight I have but I was found a better accommodation with a clean bedroom and friendly staff x

I walked out. I put the keys in the side and told him he and his hotel are disgusting and I’d sooner be on the streets