Today is the day I go into emergency accommodation (hotel) with my babies

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So today I’m going into emergency accommodation. I fled DV this time last year and thought I’d get a property by now so my parents said I could stay here short term. They’re 60 odd and it’s getting unbareable to be living here with us all under one roof as it’s their home they want to relax and I have my two very wild and lovely child like children running riot just being kids! I have taken the steps to go into emergency accommodation to then secure temp accommodation and then finally our forever home.

I feel so bad putting my daughter through this move as she’s older and will realise the moving around. My son is a baby so he wont remember it at all.

im nervous and I haven’t yet found out where I’m going.. I think I’m just posting to deal with nerves to be honest! I could be here upto 30-40 weeks they have told me due to shortages on temp accommodation 😫. Urgh.. here goes…

Guys sorry I was quiet I was sorting an alternative hotel. I reported to my council and they are reporting this hotel (rightly so!) I was found a much better hotel with friendly staff. The man is lovely. He couldn’t help me more

Good luck. I hope it works out and doesn't last too long. You are doing the right thing.

Oh well done OP.

I get nervous when people say they refused temp accommodation in case the council refuse to help any more.

Really glad you had a good outcome. Best of luck for getting a permanent home.

I was prepared and took that risk because honestly I’d have begged stolen or borrowed to do anything else other than stay there so if it was that or nothing I’d choose nothing. My kids deserve better than that. Oh my gosh!!! Never in this life time would I let them stay there

Thank you xxx

I'm really glad you reported that hotel. the owner will be charging the council plenty of money for that room. Your room should have been of the same standard as the privately paying guests room - and it wasn't.

He probably deliberately keeps a crappy room for women evading domestic abuse and how many other women have had no choice but to accept it? I hope he loses his contract.

He charges the council £370 a week. He said he was giving me a “bigger and better room because I had kids”

Well done for leaving in the first place, and well done for refusing to be accommodated in that dive! Hopefully your complaint will help ensure other vulnerable people aren't placed there. I'm so glad the council have found you somewhere else

Thank you, it’s just a bloody joke is what it is honestly. I feel for the woman who have stayed here….

Fucking cheeky bastard. It's the taxpayer he's ripping off. So pleased you've reported him. What did he say when you said you weren't gonna stay there.

Are you ready for his response….. “ok no problem” 😫🫣😆 THEN I walk out and two crack heads are walking in!!!! Honestly it was horrific

And this is the problem. People on here shocked by that accommodation and think it's an abbreviation. It's not. Round here it's very standard for homeless families. I personally know of one hard to place family that have been living in a four person room like that since covid. Yes to the drug abusers and violent alcoholics.
Sometimes you have to flee. I get that. But I regularly see people on here advising that if a family let themselves be made homeless by a private landlord the council will house them. They have an obligation.
Yes they do have. And this is where you will end up. For years.

Oops abberation! Not abbreviation

There's no point on dwelling on what you should have done, other than recognising what you'd do differently if you were in that situation again. You've gone now and memories of moving around a bit will be far less damaging for your daughter than memories of an abusive father.

You're another step along the along the road; don't look back.

That poor family!!! I couldn’t even imagine. I honestly will be praying for them. They do not deserve that! I hope and pray they are out of there soon! The poor things 💔

I'm very glad my message touched you 🙏 If it has contributed just an ounce to lifting your mood, I feel honoured. I really admire your strength 💐

You need feel no guilt, quite the opposite you’ve done the correct thing for your children. A massive well done. I too left an abusive relationship when my kids were 3 and 5 and I thank gd every day that I did. I would’ve messed them up for life had I not left.

Just take each day as it comes, and know that you’ll look back one day when life’s moved on, and be so happy you did it.

You're doing something incredibly brave and loving—choosing stability and safety for your family, even when the path is tough. Try not to carry guilt for your daughter; what she’ll remember most is your strength and how fiercely you protected her.
Emergency accommodation isn’t forever—it’s a step forward. One move closer to the home you all deserve. You’ve got this, even on the hard days. Be proud of how far you’ve come.

I'm happy you were quickly offered a better place than that shabby one. A young woman I know was in one (it was a decent room though) and she said the place was full of meth users, and she was afraid to eat at the free buffett they had as she felt the food sat there all day. She's out of there now thankfully. Not in UK.

Oh that’s terrible! Why was she in there for so long surely she can’t be there for 2 years!?

Wishing to you and your kids the very very best ❤️. You've done right by leaving, and I'm sure it was very hard for you. But you stood up for yourself then and you did today.

Hope this journey is short and that you're placed in your forever home soon ❤️

Thank you so much lovely🫂🥰. I really appreciate your kind words. It was extremely hard to leave and took me almost this whole year to get over him properly. Now it’s just the damage he caused that I’m trying to repair. It was all worth it though I’d do it again for my babies❤️

I think it may have been closer to 1 year, trying to remember, she was definitely homeless during the pandamic. She was pregnant when she went there, and had the baby, they moved her to a larger suite with a better kitchenette then, because of the baby, and the baby was over 1 when she left. She moved in with her boyfriend in 2022, and had another baby who is 2 now. But yes it was very rough on her, she has anxiety, and struggled a lot, and has moved frequently, she's settled now, hopefully. I'm thankful she managed to get out of there.

Ahh okay, it sounds like that may have been temp accommodation maybe as it had a kitchen? So temp you have that until you get your perm home but before temp you go into emergency which is usually a hotel with no cooking facilities x

She had ended up in in the hotel as she left a violent abusive partner too. She never worked, didn’t finish school. It was hard, she'd stop communicating to people who tried to talk her into leaving, and it took her years to leave him, but she is happy she left, and is living in peace now.

I never stayed in a welfare hotel but I did escape an abusive partner decades ago. Although I had sworn off men forever, I met my now dh, I've been happily married for 30 years now.

You did the right thing, it takes time to get a place but it is a small price for your freedom!