What’s it like having a sister ?

[GingerPussInBoots]

ive Always wondered

As a child my parents believed everything my sister said as she was so much older than me so I got a little of unwarranted punishments.

Then my mother left her 4 times as much as me in her will. Especially galling when I'd been the one she came crying to when my sister had upset her ...... again and again.

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.

I’ve got one you can have…
older than me, hit and kicked me every day, smashed my things, helped her friend beat me up every school day, still tantrums like a toddler, liar extraordinaire, has to have everything her way always …
I don’t have anything to do with her.

Bit of a Disney answer but my Sister is my best friend in the world. We adore each other and our kids are each others kids too

My sister is wonderful. I can tell her absolutely anything and she always understands and if she thinks I’m making a bad choice she tells me straight. I trust her judgment, we are each other’s biggest champion and I would do anything for her, as she would for me.

I have a sister and apart from the fact we share parents we have nothing at all in common. I did try, for many years to build a relationship with her, gave up in the end since she wasn't interested.

Depends on the sister!

Mine (18 months younger)...

Funny
Random
Fucking needy
Rude
Lacks any sort of self awareness
Generous
Helpful
Bloody unhelpful
Loves a witter
Massively concerned with what other people think of her
Utterly struggles with listening to other people/taking criticism
Strong sense of justice/duty
Could start a row in an empty room

She's rung me three times today, wittered away, despite being reminded each time I am at work, appears to have forgotten and is surprised, though I have worked 8 hours every saturday for the last three years at least.

She asks my advice on utterly everything - then does the bloody opposite, I have told her she is a complete askhole multiple times.

Asks my advice then yells that I am telling her too many things.

I love her, she's my sister, I would also gladly fire her out of a cannon into outer space most days of the week.

I have a younger sister (only by 2 years). We exchange Christmas cards, and that is it. She has kids and I would not recognise them in the street.
She even bullied me in school, and was awful to me at home too.

Same for me - 17 year gap!

I always wished I had a sister close in age growing up. I do have a brother 2y older than me, we didn't grow up together until we were teens

My sisters are my absolute best friends. They never judge me, have always had my back and see me for who I truly am. We didn’t have a great childhood so I think that’s bought us closer together and made us appreciate each other.

That being said my best friend also had a crappy childhood and she is the polar opposite of her sister and they merely tolerate each other.

I have two. It’s a very complicated set of relationships, as we all reacted very different to our childhood. One is very close to our parents, one semi-estranged, and I’m somewhere in the middle.

I have 2. 4 1/2 years between the eldest and myself, and just under 3 years between me and my middle one. I love them with all of my life. We are all very different. The eldest one and middle one hated each other for a good 35 years. Go on holiday together all the time now, and that makes me happy. Love them both to the world and back and would hate to be without them.

I’m older by six years. Got on as kids and teenagers but really did not like her when she was 15. Stole from me and lied constantly, caused all sorts of drama with the family. Caught her sneaking home after going drinking once to find she had nicked my bag so I took it back off her, only to find a used condom in the bag… 🤢 she copied my hair and even wore the same style of glasses despite having perfect vision, she also copied a tattoo that I had drew myself and stole my passport and then lost it. Silly things but it pissed me off. Things haven’t improved. But love my brother though.

She also flirted with all my boyfriends 🤭

I can't even be in the same room as my sister. She's always been the golden child; I'm the one who gets the crumbs of our Mum's time and attention. She had a massive MH episode in her mid 40s, found the Lord and started being even more of a bitch than ever - so for me, it was over and out. I don't miss her at all, the peace of mind is incredible and I should have gone NC 15 years before I did in truth.

I've got cousins who are incredibly close to each other and it makes me feel sick with envy.

Eating dinner with 2 of my daughters their response is

Dd2 age 25."Its like having a friend but ig they hit you. You have to make up with them. & Siblings can get away with stuff that friends cant (or would get a restraining order for)

Dd3 age 21 said. I'd give you my kidney but no you can't have my crisps.

For me. I would not have made as much effort for a friend to get along as I have with my sister. (Sister and I are very different peraonalities)

I have a brother and a sister and I would say the differences in our relationships are much more about personalities than gender. I’m more like my brother in personality than my sister and I would say my relationship with him is a lot easier, but that’s not because he’s a brother, it’s just because he’s a much calmer and less intense person than my sister.

My sister’s ten years older than me and my brother’s seven years older than me so it wasn’t like I really grew up playing with them or anything. I wouldn’t say that my sister and I really bonded over girly stuff because I wasn’t very into the same sort of girly stuff as she was and as adults we have quite different taste, but she did take me to get my ears pierced for my 10th birthday! (She had my parents’ permission, I hasten to add, she didn’t just randomly take a kid to get pierced on a whim.)

I have one older and one younger sister. We shared a room (all three of us - while my brother the only boy got his own room). We played together as children, but we didn't have other play dates so it wasn't out of choice really. We got on OK as adults, we lived near each other and had various practical reasons to stay in touch, but we have never had much in common or shared the same values.

I have never confided in them about personal issues and there is quite a lot of my life that they have no idea about. They have always hinted at being judgemental about my life choices.

Since my 40s I am no longer in touch with them as I realised the relationships were not meaningful in any way and brought no benefit to me.

Depends on the sister. I have two: one is an absolute rock who I am very close to. The other is a toxic bitch who I have finally gone non contact with and feel better for it.

Nancy Mitford: Sisters are a shield against life’s cruel adversity.
Decca Mitford: Sisters ARE life’s cruel adversity!

I have four of them 😊

One is joyous, my closest friend. One is gloomy and never sees the joy in life. One is competitive and quite difficult to get on with. The fourth keeps her distance but seems lonely and slightly isolated.

We're there for each other in emergencies and crises though. They can all call on me, and me them. I think that becomes more important with age.

I love my sister, and she would be the person I would want to look after my kids if the worse happens (to which she has already agreed), but I am much closer to my brother.