Page 2 | What’s it like having a sister ?

KawasakiBabe · 31/05/2025 14:16

My sister is 5 years older than me, when we were young she basically ignored me. I’ve always adored her and have been her sidekick, often unwanted, lol.

We haven’t lived in the same town since 1980, even often in different countries. We’ve always loved seeing each other but never really sought each other out. It made me sad but we were leading such different lives. I have kids, she doesn’t, type of thing.

Then 2 years ago, my DH left me for another woman, the first person I called was my sister, I simply couldn’t imagine telling anyone else. She absolutely took me under her wing and looked after me. She was quite simply amazing, phoning me every day, making sure I could talk, vent, cry. She never judged, just remained steady and supportive. She talked me down from suicide, at huge pain to her self. I’m in awe of her, I really am, and I could never thank her enough. I idolise the woman.

CaptainJason · 31/05/2025 14:21

My sister is three years older than me, and she is my best friend in the entire world.

I’ve got two DDs and I hope their relationship is like mine and my sisters.

nokidshere · 31/05/2025 14:24

I have 5 sisters. All in our 60s now but we had a chaotic childhood and we were very close until we reached adulthood. Since then we are scattered around the world, all have families of our own. We speak daily on group chats, some of them go on holidays together but we tend to only meet up a couple of times a year. I’d describe us as friendly on a daily basis but we would all drop everything immediately if one of us needed something.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 31/05/2025 14:29

I would gladly give you my sister so you could find out, to be honest

MyKingdomForACat · 31/05/2025 14:30

Four years younger than me. More level headed. Not prone to outbursts of emotion. We are different in some ways and the same in others. Finish each other’s sentences. She always knows what I mean and I always know what she means. Shared history. She’s my best friend. I trust her, her dh and my niece implicitly. Along with my dh and two sons they are the loves of my life ❤️

CoughCoughLaugh · 31/05/2025 14:30

My sister is three and a half years older than me and is amazing, she's my best friend. As soon as I was born, I was "her" baby. I still am, and I'm 53 and we both have children! We are chalk and cheese though, she's a homebody and a people person, I've lived overseas most of my adult life, although I'm "home" at the moment and really don't like people. She's a people pleaser, I'm quite selfish and don't suffer fools and we both wish we were a little more like the other. We see each other 4-5 times a week for a short time as we are doing the C25K programme and Parkrun. I don't know what I'd do without her. We are both happily married but since we were teens we have always planned to retire into a mad-old-lady home together with rooms next to other and a joint verandah, rocking chairs and someone that brings round the wine and vodka in the afternoons... 😂And if we win big on the lottery, we are going to buy a massive plot of land and build houses next to each other with a corridor in between so we can visit without going out in the cold! 😍

Palsaq · 31/05/2025 14:31

It's hard to explain. It's like having a piece of you living its own life. She's not me, and I'm not her, but we're connected. If there's something happening with me, say something weird in my body (we're very physically similar) then I can ask her about it because she may well have the same thing. We don't talk every day - it's not like a friendship - but I can rely on her completely and she me. If she needs me, I'm bound to her service.

I really admire my sister - she's a noble spirit - and I'm so proud of her. I'm uncomplicatedly delighted by her success and only want her happiness. I know she's the same for me, just wants good things for me. I don't need to hide anything from her or put on a show. We trust each other. It's good to have someone on your side for life.

DelboytrottersDnecklace · 31/05/2025 14:43

I would have loved a sister but got 3 brothers instead

We hate each other

I've not spoken to any of them for at least 15-25 years (depending on which one your talking about)

My mother is a narc and turned us against each other from a young age (she wouldn't even allow the youngest two to enjoy being twins,they had to be at each others throats all the time to make her happy and get her attention,that they crave)

If any of them dropped dead tomorrow,I'd just shrug and get in with my day (this is a strong possibility-one is eating himself to death and the other a drug addict)

Who knows if anything would have been different with a sister?

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 31/05/2025 14:47

My sister is just a couple of years younger than me.
I thought we were really close, she was in a horrible relationship and she used to phone me for hours every evening.
I was always there on the phone for her even when it made my own relationship hard.
Her daughters school was round the corner from my home and I picked her up every day after school and looked after her until my sister came to collect her.
She knew I never even talked to her boyfriend.
I babysat her son for years until he went to nursery, listened to multiple hours of whatever every single day for years.
I would have done anything for her.
I had only moved to the house I lived in at the time as she begged me to live closer to her, so I uprooted my whole life because she needed me.

One day she went silent.

I was genuinely terrified for them and wondered if he had harmed them, she lived a few miles away and I went out there to find out if she was okay.

Turned out, we were not that close as far as she was concerned.
She'd planned for months to leave her ex and when she did she left me too, didn't tell me she was going, where she went, had found a new bloke hundreds of miles away to move in with and had never so much as mentioned him.
She'd changed her number, changed address, applied internally to move her job to a different location.

She got round to phoning me a few months later.
Didn't think going from being in my house 6 days a week with her kids and then on the phone for hours every single day to no contact was that big a deal.
Didn't think just letting me know that they were okay was something worth doing.
Obviously I didn't matter enough in her life to even be told.

It's never been the same since.

Our relationship now is very very fragile, which she doesn't seem to notice or care about.

Wish I didn't have a sister.

Not sure anything ever hurt me as much as she did.
I'd never have stopped her doing what she did, but the fact that she didn't trust me enough to have a clue what was going on, while she knew she was causing me problems in my own relationship with the amount of time she took up in my life really really hurts.

Now she has a better life a long way away from where I live, she rarely bothers to phone me unless she's at a loose end.

Every time she does, it just reminds me of how little I actually mattered to her when it counted.

OnGoldenPond · 31/05/2025 15:02

Overrated. My sister is a dreadful bully and we are NC now.

namechangeGOT · 31/05/2025 15:06

my Sister is my most ‘prized possession’ after my husband and son. She’s my first friend and she’ll be my last.

Toddlerteaplease · 31/05/2025 16:56

My sister is 15 months younger than me. We are chalk and cheese but get on really well. She teases me all the time!

PollyCreo · 31/05/2025 16:57

Oh I always wanted a sister but my parents decided after me they were done. My parents are both only children so I don't even have any cousins to compensate 😞

My older brother has been married three times however and I finally have an awesome SIL 😅

RaraRachael · 31/05/2025 16:59

My sister is 8.5 years older than me so we grew up almost as only children. Despite living 8 miles apart we never see each other. She's always been difficult and argumentative - no idea why.
I've always envied sisters who are close.

Parker231 · 31/05/2025 17:03

My sister is two years younger than me and my sister in law the same age as me. They are the best people even though throughout our adult lives we have lived in different countries. However we spend every Christmas together with both mine and DH’s parents and siblings - the best of times.

Hamrollitos · 31/05/2025 17:06

Mine is awful. Self centred to the extreme, takes and takes and takes but gives nothing back, has zero self awareness. Is also weirdly jealous and competitive. It’s awful. I wish it was different but she is who she is.

Rocknrollstar · 31/05/2025 18:00

DS would say it is great. He and DD are very close even now they are approaching middle age. Always have been. I have two - one I don’t see at all and would never be in the same room as her. I am friends with the other one, but not close.

Crushed23 · 31/05/2025 18:09

It’s nice. We have virtually nothing in common, have vastly different lives, and live in different continents, but we text every few days. Exchanging funny memes and the like.

Rosecoffeecup · 31/05/2025 18:19

My sister is my best friend, 2.5 years between us, I love her kids like they are my own.

Both of us have a difficult relationship with our mum and have done since we were teens so I expect that contributed to our closeness

ItsSoFoggy · 31/05/2025 18:21

For me it wasn’t (isn’t?) a good experience. My “mother” was awful and negatively compared us growing up - me always being the one who was told I wasn’t good enough. My sister loved it and joined in with the put downs. In my teens she flirted with my boyfriends, in our 20s she endlessly insulted me and bragged about her life (learnt behaviour from our “mother”). I’ve been NC with them all for years so don’t really have a sister now - and that is bliss in comparison!

Hysterectomynext · 31/05/2025 18:23

Absolutely awful unfortunately. My sister is very unpleasant to say the least. We don’t have any contact at all. She’s been vile but would say it’s my fault. Here’s something worse. I have a brother and he makes my sister seem quite lovely.

so I think the people who have lovely supportive family are really lucky.

WoodlandLove · 31/05/2025 18:35

AnneLovesGilbert · 31/05/2025 13:12

I adore mine. She’s 6 years younger and we’ve always been incredibly close. She now lives on the other side of the world but we talk all the time and she’s one of the best things in my life.

Do you have brothers?

I adore mine too 🥰
I absolutely love having a sister. But, I have to say that it's because we get on as people. Obviously not all sisters get on.
I've got a brother too, but we're not that close. We're fine, and it's all civilised; but we just don't gel as much as people. We were friends when we were small, so it's sad we've drifted...
My sister and I though are thick as thieves, kindred spirits, like-minded souls... I don't take it for granted, and I'm extremely grateful ❤️

LondonLady1980 · 31/05/2025 18:38

It’s brilliant!!!

I love my sister to pieces! We had the best childhood together ❤️

TheAphrodite · 31/05/2025 18:42

im the older sister and we have a 5 year gap. shes my most precious friend in the world. we laugh till our bellies hurt. shes my biggest cheerleader and I am to her. I tell her absolutely everything. theres just no words to explain how special she is to me 🩷

whynotmereally · 31/05/2025 18:45

Awful growing up. I’m 5 years younger and was bullied, kicked and generally treated like the most annoying person who ever existed .

we get on ok as adults, sis was awful to me as a adult too but I don’t accept it now. We are not close though we live at opposite sides of the country and see each other a few times a year I think she would like to be closer but I don’t want to be .