Anyone not tracked via their phone?

[Bighouseinthecountry25]

As far as I know I can't be location tracked. DH and I can't track each other and I have Snapchat to keep an eye on my teens but I don't share my location. I don't have a particularly exciting life but I like to be under the radar. Surely I'm not the only one as it seems to be the norm. We all have androids as well so no fine my phone iPhone thing.

@hangingonfordearlife1 derailing the thread completely here, but had no one in the family reported your BIL missing in that 3 days?

no because he just lived together with nephew in a different city to us and he was a taxi driver so often wouldn’t see nephew for days as nephew was at uni in daytime.

I find it weird that people feel the need to track their significant others

I gave an explanation - I didn't see that as an attack

Yes their parents and husbands. I do find it odd when people track their significant others.

You’re the one that has misunderstood.

My husband and I share locations. We both travel a lot, and it makes me feel more secure. After a crap day at work today, he saw me leave and made sure there was a meal waiting for me when I got home.

(My best friend and I also share locations. She goes on long cycle rides and likes to know that someone is watching. I get a message every time she starts and finishes a ride.)

As a family my 3 adult sons and I have each other on find my friends, mainly for safety as I’m disabled and live alone
They all live within 20 miles so can be with me in less than an hour
Well, I accept the cookies everywhere so, yes I’m tracked.. and in my case I gain far more than I lose

My DH and I don't track each other. He asked me to for a weekend when I went abroad alone. I did it for him but I hated it and removed the app immediately when I got home.

When I’m out on a long dog walk or just out and about, dh wfh will often look at where I am on find my friends so he can have a hot cup of tea waiting for me on my return.

I do the same. He’s off at a conference today and due home around 7 ish. I’ll have a look at his location so I can reheat his dinner and put the kettle on, it’s a nice thing to do for someone when they have been out of the house for 13 hours.

A friend of mine was staying once, we went out for a couple of hours and when we got back, dh was in his office working and he’d made us two fresh cups of tea on the kitchen side. She asked if he was psychic, and I said no, he probably saw we were headed home on find my friends and she went nuts, saying it was controlling. It’s not. He just knows I like to have a hot cup of green tea when I get in, he doesn’t care where I am or how long I’m out.

I do get the safety aspects, particularly for people living in remote or edgy locations, or those who run and hike alone. Were I doing those kinds of things, I would be tempted to turn on the tracking functionality for the duration of the activity.

I'm still not sure about the putting the kettle on thing though or how knowing where someone is translates into being picked up etc. If I want anything to be ready on my arrival home, I let the person know that and vice versa. We tend to keep in touch with each other and let the other people know we are setting off or an ETA etc. If I get stuck in traffic I ask the phone to call them and I let them know. It isn't any hassle at all and it means that I'm not putting the onus on the other person to be checking my whereabouts. To time it for a cup of tea being ready as you walk in, must mean that the person doing the tracking is literally tracking you minute by minute to make sure it is ready, which I personally would find really stressful.

No one but me (and tech companies) has access to my phone's location.
But in fairness, no one (except for tech companies) is remotely interested in knowing where I am.

My dh doesn’t track constantly and nor do I. More like if you’ve been told an eta “I’m taking the dog out, I’ll be in the woods so will be a couple of hours”
he will check around that time. I wouldn’t text to say I’d be back or see a text from him as my phone would be in my bag.

Just like I will check how far he is from home around 7 this evening - he’ll be driving, so won’t text or call, traffic though the city can be crap.

It’s not that deep. it’s just a handy tool to do something nice for each other now and again.

Absolutely not! I find it very intrusive. I often switch my phone off too or leave it at home when I go out. I hate being at its beck & call.

I find tracking apps intrusive and I don't want DH or my Mum knowing where I am all the time.

Sometimes I take out cash to buy coffee so it doesn’t show on our banking. My DH is not controlling and would never stop me buying coffee. But he thinks coffee is expensive and it tastes better when there’s no paper trail. Same sort of thing - I like to have little freedoms.

I find it comforting however I know that it is due to my ow experiences.
I'm in a 360 circle with a group of very close friends/family and it's a comfort to us because we've experienced some pretty traumatic events and we like being able to see where we all are. Between us we've had friends or family killed in a terrorist attack, at a festival, in a car accident and in the line of duty (you genuinely couldn't make it up) so this is our comfort blanket.
I travel a lot work work and I know my best friend worries and checks on me via the app when I'm away. If it makes her feel better then I'm fine with it.

And I also know that being tracked doesn't stop horrible things from happening but when you've been through what we have you do what you need to do to relax a little.

I'm shocked, honestly had no idea this was even a thing to track family members?! Maybe I'll feel differently when my kids are old enough to not be by my side 24/7

I've very occasionally turned on live location on WhatsApp so someone who's expecting me knows where I am on a journey to meet me in public etc but that's it

Wait until you hear about AirTags.

You no idea that it was a thing to track family members, despite enabling yourself to be tracked so that people know where you are?

I think some people really overthink the tracking. Someone just mentioned lack of trust. I can hand on heart say that we never use location tracking due to lack of trust - we've been married over 25 years and have never doubted each other for a second - it is 100% used for convenience. In fact I would argue it is lack of trust that makes people scared of it - I clearly trust my husband not to abuse it and can't imagine a situation where it would remotely concern me that he could see where I was because we tend to communicate anyway! It's usually used to check my husbands proximity to a supermarket, the train station if travelling, or occasionally it is used to tell my husband to hurry up and leave work because we are all waiting for dinner and are starving!! My young adults choose to be linked to us on Life360 and then my Mum even asked to join so that she knows when I'm home to call. I know some people are very cynical but it's actually a lovely positive thing!

I know, people tend to always leap to lack of trust or controlling. Like I said, it’s not that deep! It’s just convenient.

Or, in the case of my ds when he was younger, I could get a map to exactly where he was to pick him up when the coach he was on broke down and he was unsure where exactly he was. I got a map to his exact location to get him. That was really handy.

Definitely no tracking here. DC12 has a brick phone only, no tracking.

If I want to let my partner know when I'm leaving, a quick text does the job just fine!

Didn’t think I could be tracked but we have a family set up on Apple for sharing subscriptions and to monitor the children’s screen time etc. my daughter seems to be able to track me via my AirPods or watch. If I pop to the supermarket she will know and send me things to pick up for her. I can’t find a way to turn it off. Even putting my phone on flight mode she tracked me down!

Is it through the Find My app that she can see you if you have family sharing. I can see my AirPods and stuff on mine.