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Anyone not tracked via their phone?

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Bighouseinthecountry25 · 20/05/2025 10:06

As far as I know I can't be location tracked. DH and I can't track each other and I have Snapchat to keep an eye on my teens but I don't share my location. I don't have a particularly exciting life but I like to be under the radar. Surely I'm not the only one as it seems to be the norm. We all have androids as well so no fine my phone iPhone thing.

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Anedina · 20/05/2025 19:10

I think that sometimes DH wishes I could track him when he goes on his long hikes that sometimes go on at night, in case he injures himself.

feelingbleh · 20/05/2025 19:16

CountryQueen · 20/05/2025 10:14

You’ve got a burner phone for MN? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

This proper made me laugh 🤣🤣🤣

tripleginandtonic · 20/05/2025 19:20

Me neither

ARichtGoodDram · 20/05/2025 19:21

The only time we share location is from an Uber (and that's very rare as there's none local so only if I'm in the city with DD4 for hospital appointments).

DD2 occasionally will ask to share location with DD1 or one of us if she is going somewhere herself that she's unsure of as she has narcolepsy.

I don't believe regular tracking is healthy and it's something I've been very cautious with so that my sons don't think tracking their partner constantly is normal and my daughter equally don't think so.

DD2 has already ended 3 relationships over the issue - one was particularly aggressive when she'd share her location with someone else, someone who was local to her and able to help if needed, and not him, despite him being literally hours away.

I also absolutely hate the "I track her/him because I'm making the dinner and need to know what time they'll be home" as it's just enabling laziness. If you're going to be late home and someone is cooking for you then it's basic manners to send a text or call to let them know, not expect them to track you.

SadCarpetMess · 20/05/2025 19:22

Not tracked now.
XH did manage to put Spyzie on my phone though.
Bastard.

VeryQuaintIrene · 20/05/2025 19:22

Supremely creepy and awful. MrsIrene would think me absolutely mad if I tried to track her and vice versa.

AppropriateAdult · 20/05/2025 19:33

I love how we’ve adopted the drug kingpin lingo of ‘burner phones’, as if we didn’t all have PAYG phones in the 90s/00s Grin

Seeline · 20/05/2025 19:33

I was convinced we didn't need it. Kids got through school and most of uni quite happily.
Then after 4 years at uni, DS returned home, went out one night, rang us very drunk to say he was on his way home, and then vanished. Wouldn't/couldn't answer his phone. DH and I were out walking the streets at 4am in zero degree temps and couldn't find him. Luckily DD was home for the weekend, and remembered that at some point they had set up find my friend. We found him out cold in someone's front garden. I don't know how long he would have been there if we hadn't found him. And we probably wouldn't have done if DD hadn't been home. We realised he'd been spiked once we got him home.
We now all have life 360. Not obsessively tracking each other, but it's there if we need it.

user2848502016 · 20/05/2025 19:36

Me, I just think it’s weird to track another adult!

saraclara · 20/05/2025 19:37

Another one who thinks it's creepy and intrusive. No way do I want family or friends being able to check where I am, and I wouldn't do it to them.

I also hate my DD's Ring doorbell. When I'm looking after her house or feeding her cats when they're away, it freaks me out that they get a notification and can see me. I didn't know it was there the first time I went, so when I got a text from them while I was there to ask me to do something, I was REALLY creeped out.

I have a Samsung tag that I put in my luggage when I'm flying (having had luggage go missing) but that's my limit. And if course only I can track it.

AliBaliBee1234 · 20/05/2025 19:38

Bighouseinthecountry25 · 20/05/2025 10:13

I know the big companies are tracking me, hence using mum's net on my burner phone after the changes to t and c, but no one I know is location tracking me.

what changes to T's and C's

you now use a burner!?

TheNightingalesStarling · 20/05/2025 19:44

I don't particularly like the security camera outside but since its there for DHs motorbike I accept it.

EilishMcCandlish · 20/05/2025 19:45

Anedina · 20/05/2025 19:10

I think that sometimes DH wishes I could track him when he goes on his long hikes that sometimes go on at night, in case he injures himself.

So if he is doing solo night hikes, there is a valid reason for him keeping his location available. As long as he is in areas with mobile service, he could use Strava and turn the beacon setting on. Or if he has a Garmin smart watch, turn on its beacon setting so he can automatically alert you if he falls.

Pickingmyselfup · 20/05/2025 19:46

My location is shared with my husband 24/7 but that's only because I do a lot of long solo runs so I share my location with him just incase something happened to me. It's too much effort to turn it off and on again so I just leave it on to make sure I don't forget to share on one of the long runs.

I think my mum can also see my location all the time but since she's almost 100 miles away she isn't going to be a lot of use if I break my leg on a run and need someone to find me.

I don't want anybody constantly spying on me or giving me the 3rd degree on my location and I don't do anything remotely interesting but I don't think either even bother to look my location up unless I ask them to but since I always return on time from my run or answer the phone on a run nobody is concerned enough to look it up.

okydokethen · 20/05/2025 19:46

None of my family or friends do this as far as I know. My old boss used to watch her wife when out ‘to make sure she’s safe’, smacks of mistrust to me, I’d hate to be tracked and don’t plan to track my children.

Anedina · 20/05/2025 20:02

EilishMcCandlish · 20/05/2025 19:45

So if he is doing solo night hikes, there is a valid reason for him keeping his location available. As long as he is in areas with mobile service, he could use Strava and turn the beacon setting on. Or if he has a Garmin smart watch, turn on its beacon setting so he can automatically alert you if he falls.

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Thank you, he does use Strava and recently bought a Garmin watch, I will mention it.

TerrifiedPassenger · 20/05/2025 20:50

Gilead · 20/05/2025 11:18

Ex Dh was tracking. me, didn’t know until police found it. So no, nothing.

An ex used to insist I kept my WhatsApp Last Seen on, and would be forever questioning who I was chatting to - this escalated to demanding I turn on location tracking. I broke up with him.

I'll quite happily share my location on Whatsapp when we're out and about - great if we're in a crowd, or splitting up and meeting up later. Invaluable on a recent holiday when we would quite often go out on ways for a bit.

But not on regular use. Nobody needs to know where I am at any time. I don't need to know where my (now adult) kids are - even as kids they were either at school or home, didn't go out much due to COVID restrictions and even afterwards they're young adults and I trust that they are where they tell me.

I don't have my dp on tracking - we don't live together so he could be up to all sorts when we're not together, but I trust him so?

justasking111 · 20/05/2025 22:36

Husband bought me Alexa I wasn't happy. The only time it's switched on is when the grandchildren use Spotify for music.

Then he bought me a Fitbit I asked him to return it. Ugly damn thing.

I endure the ring doorbell with gritted teeth.

His new car says goodbye, don't forget your phone when he parks up. Creepy.

Sabire9 · 20/05/2025 22:40

I track my whole family and they all track me and each other. Nothing creepy about it. My kids are 25, 21 and 19.

XenoBitch · 20/05/2025 22:43

No, not at all. I don't even take my phone with me when I go out unless I am out all day.

Talulahalula · 20/05/2025 22:58

Tracking sounds like you are watching where someone is constantly.
We (me and DC) have got FindMy but rarely check it. I don’t think of it as being tracked like if someone put a location tracker on my car.

macshoto · 20/05/2025 23:30

We only track each other when it’s helpful(*) - and then only for the next hour or until end of the day.

(*) e.g. out shopping and want to head to different shops and then meet up / driving separately to a location only one of us knows the precise end-point / coordinating dinner timing for arrival home from a long journey for one of us, etc.

mondaytosunday · 20/05/2025 23:33

Yes my DD (20, at uni) and I have shared locations, and my son (21) has me on shared location but I don’t have him!

finfitrulesok · 20/05/2025 23:37

Oh I hate the idea, and I wasn't sure Google was tracking me. I must be naive. I don't have location on, don't save my search history, don't save journeys. Do they defo know where I am? I leave my phone at home as much as I can, but it does come to work and back with me daily.
I don't track my fitness, runs, anything like that. I have a cheap analogue watch. I signed in with paper during Covid. I avoid QR codes. I don't have Alexa or anything like that.
But I do use my phone a lot, so Google probably does know everything about me.

PickAChew · 20/05/2025 23:42

DH and I might share specific journeys with each other no fucking way would we share our locations with each other full time.