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Do you wear your wedding ring?

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FourLeafedToadstool · 19/05/2025 05:56

Chatting with some mums at a match at the weekend, and I horrified them! I mentioned I hadn't worn my wedding ring since basically when I was pregnant with DC2 who is now 13. One was adamant I should get it resized asap.

I've started a new job in an office and noticed that all the women wear jewellery and I don't.

Do you wear your wedding ring? Do you think it strange if someone doesn't?

What about wearing another ring on the ring finger? I've a couple which I used to wear on index or middle finger when I was (a lot) younger which would now fit my ring finger.

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prettydesertflower · 19/05/2025 08:11

I wear mine with my engagement ring and two eternity rings every time I go out. I feel naked without it. My husband who was never into jewellery hardly ever wears his and that’s perfectly ok. Do what you feel comfortable with.

Sofiewoo · 19/05/2025 08:13

I’ve never worn my wedding ring or engagement ring consistently. I have two sets that I switch out if I want a different looks and many days I just prefer to keep my hands bare.
Been married for 8 years, together for 18 and no less committed due to a piece of gold.

ErrolTheDragon · 19/05/2025 08:18

I haven’t worn mine for maybe 12 years. It was tight and dug into my finger when I was dinghy sailing. Having managed to get it off it now won’t go back on. DH has never had a ring, we don’t need them to know we’re married. Afaik no one else has ever noticed.

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ihaterunning111 · 19/05/2025 08:19

I wear wedding and engagement ring every day. Not at home though, they come off straight away like my bra! I think it’s up to the individual person though, no right or wrong.

WhiteWidowWithAttitude · 19/05/2025 08:26

I wear my wedding, engagement and eternity rings on my right hand ring finger. I’m widowed, and my left hand is slightly bigger so they now fit my right better. I always wore them except when I gained weight during all of my pregnancies. I wear my late husband’s wedding ring on the thumb of my left hand. He never took it off in 21yrs of marriage until my colleague removed it the day he went into intensive care by ambulance, and I’ve worn it since the doctor gave it to me that day.

I work in healthcare so it’s not unusual to see people with no jewellery at all and I wouldn’t really think anything of someone choosing not to wear a wedding ring if married.

BeMintFatball · 19/05/2025 08:32

Married 30 years.

i had a spell where I couldn’t wear my wedding ring because an uncomfortable nerve twitch was on amitriptolin (sp?) at the time. But got over that.

several years uninterrupted wearing then I realised it was small. I have gained significant weight. Bought myself a cheap Pandora ring and wore that for a couple of years. This year had a reality check. I am never going to slim back down. I miss my rings. Took them all to the jewellers and had them resized.

Now back to wearing my original wedding ring all the time.

DH rarely wears his. He doesn’t find wearing a ring comfortable

PixelatedLunchbox · 19/05/2025 08:52

I wear mine most of the time as does my husband. I take it off at night, at the gym, or when gardening. My husband wears his except when golfing or at the gym.

AnotherNightOwl · 19/05/2025 08:57

Married 15 years and still wear both my engagement and wedding rings. Personal choice though.

Justontherightsideofnormal · 19/05/2025 09:01

I have worn my wedding ring since I got married in 2002. I never take it off ( just tried and I actually cannot get it off) my DH didn’t get one so he has never worn a ring. Each to their own I’ve just never thought or needed to take it off.

BeaLola · 19/05/2025 09:02

Each to there own

I am a jewellery lover & wear my wedding and engagement rings most days - I take my engagement ring off for swimming, showering and gardening and holidays.

I have had my engagement ring resized and had to have it fixed last year as after 24 years the band wore too thin and split

okydokethen · 19/05/2025 09:02

No. Engagement ring broke about 5 years ago
and band is now too small. I did ask DH a few years ago if we could replace it but I guess it’s a lot of money. We’ve been together a very long time but saying that I think our marriage is almost over, so I won’t be splashing out.

Chicken5ausage · 19/05/2025 09:03

Usually, yes. But I’ve gone through stages where I haven’t. Usually in the house, I like to wear it if I’m going out though.

I love my rings, so why wouldn’t I wear them? They’re beautiful.

NeedWineNow · 19/05/2025 09:06

We've been married 28 years and both DH and I wear wedding rings. I had to have it resized and as I'd lost the central stone out of my engagement ring some years ago DH asked if I'd like a new ring remodelled from my wedding ring and the diamonds from my engagement ring. After some thought, and looking into the cost, we decided against that so I had my wedding ring and my mum's engagement ring (which she gave to me many years ago) resized which I now wear as a set.

We both wear our wedding rings all the time, it's right and meaningful for us, but I wouldn't judge anyone who decided not to. Their reasons are their own and nothing to do with me.

uggmum · 19/05/2025 09:09

I haven’t worn mine for around 25 years. I wear my engagement ring and an eternity ring. 3 rings on my ring finger would look bulky. So 2 look better.

Ihaveneedofwaternear · 19/05/2025 09:09

Rarely. Don't like the feel of jewellery. I put them on for going out for a meal or something, but even then not consistently

ExpressiveDelivery · 19/05/2025 09:12

I don't take mine off very often, just laziness really. Wear them for gardening, the gym etc, my engagement ring is a flat setting and doesn't catch on things. I'd be worried about losing them if I took them on and off regularly. They come off for hygiene reasons sometimes when cooking and baking but that's about all. We didn't get round to getting the wedding rings engraved before the wedding so we did it not long afterwards, I remember one of my colleagues being shocked when I wasn't wearing it, but I don't think most people are bothered.

user2848502016 · 19/05/2025 09:13

I do, and my engagement ring, I never take them off (not sure if I physically can take them off!).
I don’t think it’s weird if you don’t wear it though, DH doesn’t wear his anymore because it started giving him eczema.
I have a friend who doesn’t even have a wedding ring, she used her engagement ring in the wedding ceremony but doesn’t wear that anymore either, she just hates wearing rings

PorgyandBess · 19/05/2025 09:13

I wear my eternity ring. Haven’t worn my actual wedding ring for years.

SummertimeFeelingFine · 19/05/2025 09:17

No, I don't. I was very slim when we got engaged/married and it doesn't fit now.

I'm trying to decide if I want to resize or just buy new. I don't mind upgrading an engagement ring but a wedding ring? Seems totally wrong.

FunnyHiker · 19/05/2025 09:20

Happily married for 13 years and never wear a wedding ring. In fact, the most emotional part of my wedding day was when my husband and I took off our rings together. It was just us, we held hands and it just felt like "us".

We always said we wouldn't wear them. Oddly a few friends and family members felt that we really should wear them, but it was a choice we made together.

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 19/05/2025 09:24

Yes, married for 24 years. I don't wear stoned rings though (engagement or eternity), as they catch and can't be cleaned properly.

Habibtihayatiii · 19/05/2025 09:25

Nope, never have done (and I didn't change my name). We are very much married and happily so (15 years) but I'm not a jewelry person. DH never takes his off. Neither of our choices impacts the other though I have had comments over the years - 99% from women who seem to enjoy having a visible marker and can't understand why I wouldn't.

It didn't start out this way but I increasingly feel that my marital status is no one's business other mine and my husband's and resent the expectation to wear a ring, change my name or to use 'Mrs' - I don't do any of these. Professionally, it's irrelevant and personally, people who know me generally know I'm married and even if they don't, I'm an individual and not defined by my relationship with another, so I don't feel the need to 'announce' it with physical or verbal reminders.

Endofyear · 19/05/2025 09:29

I don't, took it off when pregnant and just never worn it since (youngest is now 24!) I don't wear any jewellery, I just find it uncomfortable to be honest. DH doesn't wear a wedding ring either. We've been married 35 years and I don't see it as a problem at all. We both know we're married! I don't notice if other people are wearing rings either.

MadameSzyszkoBohusz · 19/05/2025 09:29

I notice other people’s jewellery if it’s really nice, I don’t think I’d notice the absence of it.

I wear my engagement ring, wedding band and eternity ring all the time, plus my grandma’s engagement ring and wedding ring and my great grandma’s wedding band on my right hand. I almost always wear a watch (I have a man’s automatic Rotary which I love) and usually earrings but those change daily. Bracelets and/or necklaces if the outfit is crying out for them.

Oganesson118 · 19/05/2025 09:30

I wear mine but I'm just used to doing so. Same reason as I wear earrings (though obviously do change those!)

I also lost my engagement ring so I'd feel strange without anything on that finger now.