Unsure whst do do about get-together with friends now! 🤷‍♀️

[Sunshadows]

Myself and 2 other friends have been invited to our neighbour's to watch Eurovision tonight. Obviously she's preparing to host, and probably bought food & drink by now.

One of our group cancelled yesterday, saying she's not well. The friend who's hosting, messaged on our group last night to ask if we (remaining 2) were still coming. We both said Yes. I've now seen the other one has cancelled (due to being 'too busy'🤔), leaving only me!

This affects the whole feel of the evening. A few drinks, catching up watching Eurovision with a group sounds ideal, but now there's only two of us I'm not so sure. She's lovely, the one who's hosting, but definitely the quieter of the group and I feel the onus will be on me to keep the chat going. Much easier if we're all chipping in!

I'm not sure whether to message the host to suggest re-arranging, or just go along. Knowing her as I do, I feel she'll have been getting ready for us all day, and spent money on food & drink. I'd feel very bad, her having gone to a lot of effort for nothing, and am a bit annoyed with the 2nd person for cancelling last minute.

Would you all just go along, even though you'd now be the only one?

I would go. Just because she's quieter when you're in more of a group setting doesn't mean she will be hard work 121. Especially after a couple of wines.

Good heavens go

and I reckon you’ll have a lovely time without your flakey friends

Please don’t let her down op

I think it would be extremely mean of you not to go. Poor woman would probably feel very hurt if all 3 of you don't go and she's sat there on her own.

Would you rather upset your friend by cancelling or have a (possibly) slightly awkward evening?

Aww I feel for her so I would still go.

I'd definitely go. Do you have any other mutual friends to invite along last minute?

I'd meassage her and say did she want to rearrange to a date everyone could make it, if not you'd still love to go. That way she can cancel if she wants (she might be feeling awkward if it's only the 2 of you too).

It would be really unfair if you let her down too.

Eurovision will be on so it’s not like you’ll be sitting there in silence.

I would go, think about how disappointed she would be

Your poor friend. Go along and (on the group chat) offer to chip in for food if she's bought anything. The person who cancelled today should def also offer to pay. Then go round, eat and drink plenty and watch the show. Even if the chat is minimal there will be more of it than if you didn't go.

Honestly, you will be the flakiest out of your flaky friends if you don't go.

Fine if she suggests cancelling/ rearranging. But don't bail as well.

Yes go. You’ll be laughing at the music half the time anyway. She’ll already be gutted that no 2. cancelled today after assuring her she was coming last night. Don’t you be all flaky too!

Think if it was you hosting and all 3 friends dropped out last minute, of course you should still go. I’m sure you’ll have fun, and can talk about the songs if you’re stuck for conversation.

It sounds like she is the sort of person to put a lot of thought and effort in, so you may find that she’ll make an effort to talk more tonight. She’ll be as aware of the potential for awkwardness as you are if she’s naturally a quieter person, and it’ll feel like a big thing for her too. There is also the chance that she may find it easier to chat more one on one than in a group. I’d go in your position and hopefully you’ll have a good night.

This is an absolute no brainer. What you are saying is "should I be incredibly rude and flake out on my friend just because the other two have?".

And obviously the answer is NO! I'm sure you'll have a lovely time. The second drop-out (the "too busy" one) is awful btw.

I'd go. Sounds nicer than a group to me tbh

Yes don’t be a flop, go !

Go, not fair to let her down and it might end up being really fun just the 2 of you. Sometimes people open up a bit more when they're not in a big group.

Go - you'll have a great time and I bet you anything she's much chattier 1:1!!

You'll have loads to chat about just with Eurovision anyway, no need to think of new topics of conversation.

And I'd also be very unimpressed with "too busy" friend - so mean to the host, esp as she knew it was down to just the two of you guests.

Definitely go! You can talk about the music.🎵

Not only would i go but I would be messaging the other so called friend who is suddenly too busy asking wtf! Camt stand people who do that last minute crap excuse !!

I'd do this too. Something along the lines of "well I'm still keen, unless you'd rather we rearrange when we can all get together? Otherwise I'll see you at 7pm"

But tbh, flakey friends will always be flakey so even if you did rearrange what's the likelihood of them actually being able to make it 🤔

Definitely go! Even if she’s usually quieter, Eurovision will be on so you can just watch the songs some of the time and then talk/laugh about them to fill the gaps, it will be easy.

I can’t believe one of your friends cancelled last minute because she said she was “too busy”, that’s so rude!

Another one saying you've got to go but wow, how flaky is your other friend! Dropping out last minute because she's "too busy". What a knob!