How do the no photo parents manage others taking photos?

[butteredradish1]

I know some parents don't allow pictures of their child with others or on social media etc. It's not a concern of mine and I allow photos.

I was however surprised at baby groups that parents took photos of their child with mine/others without asking.

How did the no photos parents manage that? Any issues?

What about when going to parties, do you tell everyone not to take photos or how does it work? Do you also not take photos of your child with others?

No photos is not the same as no photos on social media. It's possible to take photos of your children and their friends for your own enjoyment without a plan to post them on social media for likes.

If have thought that in this day and age, the groups themselves would have guidelines. Like schools often do. My kids school does anyway. Any invite to a performance by parents has it written that any photos are not to be shared with anyone or on any social media. If they police that is another matter.

She says no photos of her child with other children. That's her rule from the nursery.

She has an open tiktok with 3000 views of her kids on one photo so I'm not sure what to do.

I take plenty of pictures of DS and his friends at various things but I wouldn’t dream of posting them on social media and that seems pretty standard with other parents I know as well. If they do post them, they normally cover up other children’s faces.

I try not to get other children in photos we take in public- if unavoidable ie somewhere super busy then not a huge deal as don't put any photos on social media. If its a party etc everyone i know will put smilies/emoji over the other children's faces. I think generally people should ask others if it's a clear photo, obviously randomers in the background of a photo they're less likely to be super noticeable anyway.

We don't post any photos on social media, we didn't give school or any clubs permission to either- they sometimes blur them if they're in shot.

All the baby groups I went to didn't have rules for parents taking photos

If you are at a party they will be taking photos with other children.

I’m confused - are children other than her own in this SM post?

If I took photos of DD with other children I never posted them unless I was friends with their mums on FB and tagged them. Otherwise they were just for us, I shared them with the parents if I had a phone number/email address.

I think in open groups everyone can go to it is very difficult to police this unless you have a strict no photo rule and even then you will have parents taking them or filming.
It's similar to taking a photo at an event, park, playground. I did my best to exclude children but it's basically impossible.

More closed settings like a paid-for children activity/group where the leader can police photo taking I would say a rule is acceptable.

DH is often posting photos from Scout events on their offical website/FB page as part of his volunteering job and it can take hours to shift through them to blur out the faces where parents did not give permission.

No it's just her own child. She always said to me she won't be putting her kid on SM and I know at nursery she doesn't allow any photos on SM and also no photos with other children.

Yet has a very open TT.

I also don't have a social media by the way. It's just I don't know what the rule is when you don't allow photos.

Not at any party DS has been to tbh, and we have never taken any of other children at his. People who just put other people's children on social media are selfish.

I'd expect other parents to ask if it is OK before taking a photo of my dc. But if she just happened to be in the background I wouldn't go berserk and smash the other parent's phone or whatever. You can only control what you can control and it also makes a difference why they don't want any pictures taken. If it's a domestic violence security risk thing, that's different to someone like me who just doesn't like her kids being on social media.

Thoughtless yes.

Why do you even need photos of other people's children?

Maybe because your kid is doing something cute with theirs, or you are capturing the birthday child to send to the parents, or because it’s difficult to just get one child in shot?

I wouldn’t post on FB etc though without permission.

A baby class or whatever can throw you out for taking photos if that is against the rule of the class, but a lot of places don’t ban photos, they just ask people not to put them on SM eg school plays.

The law doesn’t stop any of this (except unauthorised commercial use) so it’s convention more than anything

When it comes to DS and his school friends, parents tend to take photos at school events/parties and shame them with the group, particularly for the benefit of those parents who weren’t able to make it.

So their children weren't there?

Schools don't allow photos, any.

Groups organized for older children have rules.

Baby groups have no rules

Baby groups have no rules

That is one heck of a blanket statement!

What's a blanket statement?

You are on the internet and on the wind-up

You know where Google is.

No, I'm asking you what's my blanket statement....

The phrase from your post that I put in bold, obviously.