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Neighbour shagging loudly, I banged on the wall

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SallyRey · 16/05/2025 14:20

And am now feeling a bit mortified.

We only moved in 6 months ago and this has been a very regular occourance. Always around 2/3am and loud enough to wake me up! I can't hear her husband, just her.

I always just put white noise on my phone and try and blocknit out but last night I just lost it. I had my DD in my room with me as both she and I were ill. She is 6 and had a temperature. She asked me what that noise is, I couldnt put music on as DD had a headache.

She got up to have a wee, again asking what the noise was and whilst she was out of the room I got the broom and banged loudly on the wall. I just felt so ill and was annoyed tbh.

She stopped immediately.
The thing is she has 2 small children too so I don't know how she is comfortable being so loud??

But now I'm dreading bumping into her, she knows it was me.

Ive lived in flats and terraced housing my whole life so am used to noise but shes honestly so loud, not at any other time, just during sex!

Part of me is mortified I did it butnpart of me is hoping she is too and I don't have to listen to her again!

OP posts:
DefinitelyMaybe92 · 16/05/2025 18:11

Ladyoats · 16/05/2025 17:05

I don’t think Op did anything wrong, they must be aware of the sound insulation or lack thereof and it was 2am. They probably also know there are kids next door. Should’ve been more considerate.

That said It’s only on Mn I hear people getting accused of being vocal during sex to get attention?! I am vocal (not necessarily super loud or screaming) if I’m in a space where I’m able to be (where I know I won’t be disturbing anyone) I’d be mortified if anyone except my partner heard me.

It’s definitely not showing off or attention seeking, I’m just letting out how I feel. And I’ve never watched porn in my life btw.

I was babysitting a friends kid overnight and she (the friend not her kid!) brought a man back, long story short but I heard her and she was embarrassed.

Sometimes people forget themselves and/or are inconsiderate but it’s not necessarily that they want others to hear.

Some people cry, laugh , stay silent -we are all different.

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If I’m in a space where I’m able to be

See this suggests the ability to exercise a level of self control though. I think that’s what I - and others by the looks of this thread - find irritating. We could all be extremely performative if we wanted to, but we choose not to. When people do choose to be extremely vocal in close quarters to neighbours, children etc. you can only presume they just have no respect for others or themselves.

lashy · 16/05/2025 18:11

Pancakeflipper · 16/05/2025 14:23

I'm stuck on the you "got the broom".

Do you take one to bed with you or did you get up, go downstairs, go in the broom cupboard and take it upstairs.

🤣🤣
I too, was surprised at how handy the broom was.
Mine's in my garden shed.

crazeekat · 16/05/2025 18:14

This isn’t funny who wants to be woken with that every night, ur child let alone her hearing it. I would be fking raging. A one off fair enough, bang the wall. Let them be embarrassed, to hear this nearly every night?? Fk that. To have ur sleep broken, and I have kids, work shifts etc, no. Not happening. I would be recording it and sending it to them to let them hear everything. Then threatening them with unsocial behaviour. Which it IS. Get them told.

MisterBlueSkyy · 16/05/2025 18:16

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 16/05/2025 15:19

It's so weird, isn't it?

Men are pretty much silent beyond some low ooofs, grunts, a bit of panting. Unless you're unlucky and get a talker.

Or a hummer.
that was weird, must admit.

It does make me wonder why a lot of women seem to feel they need to perform to feed the ego of the man. play the porn star so he knows he's a tiger. Grrrr.

If you are a performer, might I suggest swapping screaming for star charts? Your neighbours will thank you.

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Many years ago, I had a “squeaker”
He was a heavily built bloke but the noises he made were like a new-born mouse… very odd!
Put me off to be honest🙁

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 16/05/2025 18:25

I suffered this when I lived in a flat. The couple below were noisy when having sex. One night I was woken at about 3am to the sound of her screaming ‘put it in me, put it in me’. After this on repeat for about five minutes I laid down on the floor and shouted very loudly, ‘for fucks sake put it in her so we can all get some sleep’. The noise stopped and they were much quieter after that.

Original poster
SallyRey · 16/05/2025 19:33

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 16/05/2025 18:25

I suffered this when I lived in a flat. The couple below were noisy when having sex. One night I was woken at about 3am to the sound of her screaming ‘put it in me, put it in me’. After this on repeat for about five minutes I laid down on the floor and shouted very loudly, ‘for fucks sake put it in her so we can all get some sleep’. The noise stopped and they were much quieter after that.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Thats actually bloody hilarious

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HarrietSchulenberg · 16/05/2025 19:47

I had loud shagging neighbours, also the noise was only from the woman. She made loud, fake porn noises, including during the day. I think they were live streaming for a bit.
I got a sound effects app, put my phone against the wall, and played applause every time I heard them.
It stopped after a while then she moved out.

crazeekat · 23/05/2025 15:10

2catsandhappy · 16/05/2025 16:56

Ooh @SallyRey play the song 'Je t'aime moi non plus' by Serge Gainsbourg and Jane Birkin. Hold the music player at the wall and turn up the volume at the panting and breathy seduction bits.
She will get the hint.

That songs streaming numbers have just risen rapidly lol

Arina22 · 23/05/2025 15:26

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 16/05/2025 18:25

I suffered this when I lived in a flat. The couple below were noisy when having sex. One night I was woken at about 3am to the sound of her screaming ‘put it in me, put it in me’. After this on repeat for about five minutes I laid down on the floor and shouted very loudly, ‘for fucks sake put it in her so we can all get some sleep’. The noise stopped and they were much quieter after that.

Haha

Thisismetooaswell · 23/05/2025 16:00

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 16/05/2025 14:26

You should hear the bloke who lives above me.
He makes extremely loud growling/howling noises like a wounded animal.
In person, he's a miserable looking wretch and carries a man bag.

What's wrong with a man bag???

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