Neighbour shagging loudly, I banged on the wall

[SallyRey]

And am now feeling a bit mortified.

We only moved in 6 months ago and this has been a very regular occourance. Always around 2/3am and loud enough to wake me up! I can't hear her husband, just her.

I always just put white noise on my phone and try and blocknit out but last night I just lost it. I had my DD in my room with me as both she and I were ill. She is 6 and had a temperature. She asked me what that noise is, I couldnt put music on as DD had a headache.

She got up to have a wee, again asking what the noise was and whilst she was out of the room I got the broom and banged loudly on the wall. I just felt so ill and was annoyed tbh.

She stopped immediately.
The thing is she has 2 small children too so I don't know how she is comfortable being so loud??

But now I'm dreading bumping into her, she knows it was me.

Ive lived in flats and terraced housing my whole life so am used to noise but shes honestly so loud, not at any other time, just during sex!

Part of me is mortified I did it butnpart of me is hoping she is too and I don't have to listen to her again!

It's so weird, isn't it?

Men are pretty much silent beyond some low ooofs, grunts, a bit of panting. Unless you're unlucky and get a talker.

Or a hummer.
that was weird, must admit.

It does make me wonder why a lot of women seem to feel they need to perform to feed the ego of the man. play the porn star so he knows he's a tiger. Grrrr.

If you are a performer, might I suggest swapping screaming for star charts? Your neighbours will thank you.

We once shared a house with a bloke whose girlfriend was a screamer. Bear in mind that it was a house full of people who all had girl/ boyfriends so there was consequently lots of shagging going on .

It was all dramatics of course and She wasn't liked in the house so probably her way of establishing herself.
The noise was way above acceptable behaviour and they had to be told. If she didn't shut up she would be banned from the house. She shut up.

Don't be embarrassed OP.

Woman behind me was a performance shagger with the landing window open. She neighed like a horse.

Forever known as Red Rum after that.

Change your WiFi code to something pointed that get the message across.

Is there room on your broom for an mner like me??
Ndn once was literally banging his gf for hours... I what's app - ed him Lionel Richie All Night Long.
Young lad in his 20's.
The next day he moved in with his gf.. Not sure why-his technique left a lot to be desired...
We told his dps we knew why he had left.. They were mortified..
Privacy of your own home should mean the sounds stay in your own home also.
Imo

You did the right thing!

My upstairs neighbour has an occasional lady visitor and she is literally screaming along with the headboard hammering. Wakes me up at 4am

Red rum 😂😂

At that time of day it's bloody selfish

This. In any case SHE should be the one who is mortified…….. not you.

My ndn had a gf for a while who was a screamer and the sound insulation was really poor. After the finished I did my loudest and best Harry met Sally impersonation. YES YES YES. Didn’t happen quite so loudly again.

on holiday in France some of the neighbours were at it night and day. As it was in an old town difficult to know which neighbours. We’d be playing board games with the kids or having dinner on the terrace…. Had to put music on. Hideous.

I can't believe you've put up with this for 6mths and not banged back on the wall sooner than now!

TBH, when you said you'd used a broom, I wondered if that would scratch/damage the wall 🤔

I hope you are your DD are feeling better.

I did the same a few months ago although I banged on the wall and shouted shut the fuck up😬 Not my finest moment but she had woken me up the previous night with loud music so I kind of snapped

Why is it always the woman that screams! Not men

Ive had so many holiday stays ruined, by women screaming loudly during sex in the nwxt room

I think they get a sexual kick out of everyone hearing them

She should be the one embarrassed,not you.

Thank you! Totally agree!

She will be the embarrassed one, if anything is said I’d tell her she wakes you and DD up. I wouldn’t explain you were ill or anything or try to sugar coat it.

Ooh @SallyRey play the song 'Je t'aime moi non plus' by Serge Gainsbourg and Jane Birkin. Hold the music player at the wall and turn up the volume at the panting and breathy seduction bits.
She will get the hint.

Totally understand. I did the same thing with my neighbours last November (couple, no children) whilst I was pregnant, raging and dying to try and get to sleep. This was after months of having to listen to them at 2am for hours every time. I didn’t want our baby hearing it once they were here either. Luckily, they moved out not long after. 😂

Performative sex (usually by women) is ridiculous & totally fake. I’d have knocked on the door not the wall.

I don’t think Op did anything wrong, they must be aware of the sound insulation or lack thereof and it was 2am. They probably also know there are kids next door. Should’ve been more considerate.

That said It’s only on Mn I hear people getting accused of being vocal during sex to get attention?! I am vocal (not necessarily super loud or screaming) if I’m in a space where I’m able to be (where I know I won’t be disturbing anyone) I’d be mortified if anyone except my partner heard me.

It’s definitely not showing off or attention seeking, I’m just letting out how I feel. And I’ve never watched porn in my life btw.

I was babysitting a friends kid overnight and she (the friend not her kid!) brought a man back, long story short but I heard her and she was embarrassed.

Sometimes people forget themselves and/or are inconsiderate but it’s not necessarily that they want others to hear.

Some people cry, laugh , stay silent -we are all different.

I did the exact same thing for the exact reason. Honestly I could have written this post. The banging made her stop for a while but then it picked back up again, so I wrote a letter and posted it through her door. I was polite and said I was happy she seemed happy but she was waking my whole house up every night and it's not okay!

It’s the 2am timeframe that is my take away from this! It’s literally the middle of the night. We were broken into once and the police told us that's a favourite time for robberies as it's considered a "dead hour". Not for everyone, it seems!

Mine too. 😂
Have they no work to go to ?
Children to look after for school in the morning.

Who the hell wants to be shagging at 2-3am anyway? Doesn’t she have a job to go to/the kids to get up with?