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Stay alive if no man on earth was sexually or physically attracted to you in any way?

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AlTD · 16/05/2025 14:04

Doesn’t apply to me but curious as friends were discussing this the other night. Answers from women only - would you stay alive/be able to enjoy life if literally NO man on earth was sexually or physically attracted to you/turned on by you in any way, shape or form? And why?

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TheHerboriste · 16/05/2025 22:06

What a pathetic mindset they must have.

nocoolnamesleft · 16/05/2025 22:06

Happily.

SwanFlight · 16/05/2025 22:08

Well I seem to be alive, I am of the assumption no one is attracted whatsoever to me. There's an odd recollection of being attractive to a partner a long time ago in a galaxy far far far away.

Plotzbluemonday · 16/05/2025 22:11

AlTD · 16/05/2025 14:04

Doesn’t apply to me but curious as friends were discussing this the other night. Answers from women only - would you stay alive/be able to enjoy life if literally NO man on earth was sexually or physically attracted to you/turned on by you in any way, shape or form? And why?

Laughing because I know that some men will puck anything … the thing does not even need to be alive

it’s just not possible to have no man “attracted sexually”

Thisshirtisonfire · 16/05/2025 22:13

I think that's an impossible scenario actually... there's ALWAYS someone who will be attracted to you. Even if it's mainly about your personality!
Particularly as a woman i think... however would you want them in return?
Might be quite freeing to never have any male attention. But I do think it's an impossibility.

But yes if this is like a magic thought experiment where you could have all men revolted by you physically then that would be quite depressing as I'm a v sexual person.
But sexuality isn't the only affection or connection you can have with people in life.

ohwhatadustyanswer · 16/05/2025 22:14

Absolutely bonkers question. OP is undoubtedly a man who can’t seem to grasp that women can happily survive without them. Despite overwhelming answers that men are unnecessary for our survival and self-worth.

MySweetGeorgina · 16/05/2025 22:18

What a weird question! Yes I would want to stay alive

also there is no woman on this planet that no man would want to have sex with. She may think this is the case but she should be wrong. Men want sex, and if they can’t have the woman they want they will go with another one, they would even sleep with someone they find unattractive

And some men even want sex with dead women, so staying alive in this respect is not even a relevant part of your weird question 😏

Absolutenonsense · 16/05/2025 22:20

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Sounds perfectly pleasant . Quite nice actually 😆

Gnomegarden32 · 16/05/2025 22:23

Of course - there are many things to enjoy in life that don't involve a man

Disturbia81 · 16/05/2025 22:31

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I wear makeup for me, clothes for me etc.
However I’m only mid 40s and I get more attention than ever so right now I’d find it hard to lose it. Right now I’m very aware life is short and so I want to enjoy it. Maybe one day I’d be okay with losing it but then again my mum was enjoying getting chatted up in her 70s!

ChaToilLeam · 16/05/2025 22:33

I'd live perfectly well, it would be great.

NattyTurtle59 · 16/05/2025 22:39

I couldn't care less. Anyone who thinks life without a man being attracted to them isn't worth living has a problem.

Tbry24 · 16/05/2025 22:41

You and your friends have got this all wrong.

I am in my 50s but I think I’d have said the same answer at any age. I don’t dress or wear make up in a particular way to attract men I dress as I please for myself and I always have done.

No I would not care if suddenly no man ever found me attractive again. And in my case I don’t go around seeing men as attractive I never have done, so for example a film star or whomever that other people find attractive isn’t how I am. I like people based upon their personality, intelligence that sort of thing. I have a very handsome DP, I mainly realise this from comments from others over the years. But I’m not with him for his looks, I am with him as he’s my friend.

So yes I would be fine if I was never desired by anyone again. As long as I had books to read, hobbies and especially pets and nature I would be completely ok.
My grandmother never had a partner after my mum was born and she was a lone parent after the war, so spent her whole life single from her mid 20s enjoying her hobbies and pets, I’m very similar.

And in regards to the other question yes I’d be fine also surviving with just two other women….I would just prefer it not to be female relations as they currently don’t speak to me :)))…. Saying that I could cope with that too as long as I had pets, books and plants.

BountifulPantry · 16/05/2025 22:59

No I wouldn’t care at all.

How attractive men find me/ don’t find me features very little in my mind and does not feature on my list of priorities.

So if no man in the world found me attractive I’d be cool with that. I’d actually probably be really safe too as there would be no harassment etc.

Iknowaristotlee · 16/05/2025 23:00

Best case scenario tbf

Itsoneofthose · 16/05/2025 23:02

Absolutely! The world is full of interesting things to know, see and do with the attention of men.

Noshadelamp · 16/05/2025 23:03

Of course, me and my life is not validated by men's attention or interest!

OurManyEnds · 16/05/2025 23:07

I mean, I’d stay alive and stuff, but it would be a lot more boring 😁

Noshadelamp · 16/05/2025 23:07

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I think the problem is you and your misunderstanding of the answers.

It seems you can't imagine living without male validation or interest.

Unless you are a man and can't fathom women living without your attention?

PawsAndTails · 16/05/2025 23:12

I would be quite happy if no man was attracted to me. I don't need a man to be complete and sex is over rated.

tillyandmilly · 16/05/2025 23:17

That attention went when I hit my 30’s! Couldn’t care less now in my 50’s - I have no need for men - they are irrelevant! 🤣

LegoNinjago · 16/05/2025 23:20

ohwhatadustyanswer · 16/05/2025 22:14

Absolutely bonkers question. OP is undoubtedly a man who can’t seem to grasp that women can happily survive without them. Despite overwhelming answers that men are unnecessary for our survival and self-worth.

This

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NattyTurtle59 · 16/05/2025 22:39

I couldn't care less. Anyone who thinks life without a man being attracted to them isn't worth living has a problem.

It seems a bit attention seeking otherwise

Discombobble · 16/05/2025 23:23

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Never worn makeup, have mostly dressed to please myself. Not having men pursuing me makes life very peaceful

Everintroverte · 16/05/2025 23:33

Of course I would be happy to exist and enjoy life in those circumstances. My enjoyment of life and existence is not defined by whether or not a man finds me attractive.