Mother in laws hating children’s names

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I have three children, Beatrice, Margot and Rafferty and I love their names, and so does my husband. My mother in law however has been making snark comments about the kids names for years, obviously not to the kids faces. Does anyone else have this issue?

How have you or your husband not told her to STFU?

”good job they’re not your kids then, isn’t it?”

or, if me,

”if you can’t be respectful, you can leave”

First reply nails it.

How rude of her. I love the names you’ve chosen.

@HiddenInCubeOfCheese😂 I should do shouldn’t I, unfortunately she’s the sort of women where you say one thing and it goes in one ear and straight out of the other.

@ThecatsatonthematsThank you

You remind her every single time that she got to choose her children's names and you and your husband have chosen your children's names.

Yes except it’s my mother. I couldn’t care less.

This thread could be quite outting, with it including your children's names

I was going to say the same thing. My own DM was not impressed with the first name of our DD. I replied that I had no say in the name she gave me, so she had no say in the name I called my child.

@RoundSquareWithTrianglesIf you mean that she might see, I wouldn’t worry she’s one of those with an aversion to internet usage and modern day technology.

I'm kind of hoping it is outing and her batshit crazy MIL finds out just how many other people think she is a nasty piece of work! Poor op having to tolerate her!

My grandmother told me I had a 'funny foreign name' I didn't care and neither did my parents.

Along with musing variations of the name, or telling everyone she’s named after some distant relative with a similar name on her side.

Except she isnt! She had my grandmothers name and I’m very open about why!

😂

Your mil got to name her own children....she doesn't get a say in yours.

Unless someone’s considering calling their kid Adolf it’s best to stay quiet on such matters

Not my favourite names but my opinion on your children’s names matters as much as your MIL’s opinion.

Mil hated ds's name. Said she would be using his initials. TJ.. Told her no law said she had to see him at all.
She soon stfu.
How about using her name with a cringe face?

Use the broken record technique

good old man phrase

did you mean to be so rude?

every single time she makes a snide comment

obviously if you could glare or raise eyebrows

but don’t get in an argument- if she retorts with anything - say

sounds like you’re being defensive

rem those two lines and repeat just those two lines when needed

itll stop going in one ear and out the other 😉

I really like your name choices OP.

My MIL does similar. What she does is gives some of the grandchildren nicknames that are basically completely different names and nothing to do with the original name. Think, a child called Sebastian and she calls it Bob, for example. It’s her way of saying she hates the name. She doesn’t openly say “I hate the name” because she’s manipulative, so she will let it be known by coming up with these nicknames instead. Drives me mad.

My mother in law however has been making snark comments about the kids names for years

The devil in me would retort “Yes, we know you don’t like the names… that’s why we chose them”

EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.

I love their names!

Tell her that she’s a dickhead. Sorted.

Or just reply, ‘I don’t like you either’

Lovely names, and I can’t imagine why she doesn’t like them
” My kids, my choice” or
” you named your DC, I’ve named mine”

Will do hahha thank you