First time granny age rising?

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The thread about what we perceive as elderly got me thinking. I wouldn't have described my gran as elderly, whereas my mother definitely was when she became a granny.
I worked out that my granny was 48 when I was born. My mother was 65 when she became a granny, so almost 20 years older than her mother had been.
To my horror, I then realised that I'm now older by some way than my granny was when I was born.
Is there a big difference in how old your mother and granny were when they became grandparents? If you're a grandparent, were you older or younger than your mother was?

Average first time mother is now about 31. My own mother didn’t have me til mid 30s (in the 60s so quite old at the time to start a family) but her mother had her at 40 (7th if 8th). I had my kids in my 40s, as did a number of my friends have a child in their 40s. So many of our kids grandparents became so in their 70s.
So yes, I think they are.

My nana was 32 when my mum was born in 1944. My mum was 34 when she had me. I had my dd at 32. So not elderly, but retirement aged.

I became a Mum at 20 and a Nanny at 40 . I think my Mum was 23 when she had me and so 43 when I had my first so not much difference in age .

My aunt was a grandmother at 48...her grandmother was still alive, so 5 generations alive.

it's bound to happen with people having children later.

My gran would have been 49 when I was born and my mum was 49 when my nephew was born so not in my case. My brother was a young parent though.

Not sure what the offical definition is but I wouldn't class 65 as elderly.

Not really, my granny started earlier than my mum but had more dc than my mum so had some later in her 40s.

people don't seem to understand that elderly just means old.

So my mum was 43 when her first grandchild was born.

I was 40 when my first grandchild was born.

I think my grandmother was in her mid 50's when my mum had her first.

Dm was 18 when she had me, making dgm a grandma at 35. I was 28 when I had my eldest and 34 when I had my youngest, my dm became a grandma via my sister at 46, the age I am now, so I will likely be much older than either of them if I ever have grandchildren

Mum was 36 when she became a grandmother. I was 37 so about the same. I have children younger than my grandchildren though - I had my first 17 and last at 40.

My nan was 48 when she became a nan, my mum was 45 when I had dd1. I was 44 when I became a nan.

My nanna had her first child at 21 and was 44 when she became a grandmother. My mother had me at 23 and became a grandmother at 55. I was 53 when my grandchild was born.

I suppose we’ll see much older first time grandparents in future if women continue to start their own families in their 30s and even 40s.

As having DC in your forties becomes more common, increasing numbers of people in the future won’t ever meet, or remember their grandparents.

Wasn't having dc in your 40s most common after WW2?

I had my DS at 45 so I'll likely be 80 before I am a gran.

That works for me 😀

My DGD is 22 and I’m 63 could be a great grandmother soon.

My Gran (mum's mum) became a gran at the age of 68. Her daughter (my mum) became a gran at 61. I had my child in my 40s so I will probably be older than both of them!

My dad's mum became a gran in her late 40s but was 73 when I (her 15th grandchild!) was born.

@TronaldDumpsalot that's mad, your kids are younger than grandchildren. So the aunts and uncles are younger than nieces or nephews, is that right? What's the family dynamic like? Must be very unique

My Grandmother was 25 when my Mum was born (she was a second child, first child born when my gm was 24) Her own mother would have been in her 40s becoming a grandparent.

My Mum had me 20 years later so my GM was 45.

When I was born my maternal great grandmother was still alive in her 60s, and she lived until I was 7.

I had my first child at 28, so my mum was 48 becoming a grandmother. My eldest is nearly 8 and my Grandmother (their great) is their very best friend ❤️ She was about 73 when I gave birth.

So in my family the ages have remained roughly the same and we have been blessed to have great grandparents for a good few generations now.

I loved my great grandparents (I had two growing up) and I know the relationship my kids have with theirs is amazing (they had four at birth, now two sadly) I would think it sad if they missed out on that and tbh it was a small deciding factor in when I decided to first start ttc my first - I wanted my child to have the relationship I had with my greats growing up and felt I was risking them not getting that if I waited.

I was lucky that despite both my grans being in their 40s when they had my mum and dad, and in their late 60s/early 70s when I was born, they were around for all of me and my younger siblings childhoods, not dying until I was in my early 20s.

Edited to add that I didn't have my child until my 40s - which was 20 years after both my grandmothers had died.

My mum was 26 when she had me. I had my first child at 27 so she was 53. My daughter didn’t have my granddaughter until she was 33 so I was 60.

They made good ages. Both over 90?

Yes, died aged 91/92. They had very different lifestyles and family backgrounds but both lived to almost exactly the same age.

My mum and granny both became grandparents aged 53. I'm 43 and no sign of any grandchildren yet. I am very lucky to still have my grandad at my age and my 2 adult children have their great grandad. I never knew any of my great grandparents but dh did and my dc do.

I became a nanny at 43, my mum became a nan at 52. When my grandson was born, my nan was still alive - she became a great great nan at 97