First time granny age rising?

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The thread about what we perceive as elderly got me thinking. I wouldn't have described my gran as elderly, whereas my mother definitely was when she became a granny.
I worked out that my granny was 48 when I was born. My mother was 65 when she became a granny, so almost 20 years older than her mother had been.
To my horror, I then realised that I'm now older by some way than my granny was when I was born.
Is there a big difference in how old your mother and granny were when they became grandparents? If you're a grandparent, were you older or younger than your mother was?

My nan was 63. My mum was 57 when she became a grandparent and my nan became a great grandparent at 90. I'm 52 but not expecting to become a grandparent for a few years yet.

My Grandma was 60 when my mum had my older sister, my mum became a Grandma to my niece when she was 53, I was 48 when I became a Grandma, I was 21 when I had my 2nd son, he is 27. My sister was 55 when she became a Grandma.

My DGM was late 70s when I was born. My mother was mid 70s when my first was born. I was mid 30s when I had my first so I might well be 70 odd too if mine have children.
Don't think I know anyone in my social circle/ their parents who became a grandparent before their 60s.

My family were all in late 50s early 60s when they became grandparents. This will change as women have babies later so I suspect most won't become GP until their 70s or 80s.

My mum became a granny at 58 (she had me at 36 and I surprised everyone by having mine at 21). My mum was secretly quite pleased to consider herself a “young gran” as she believed she would be a lot older and less able, and so she threw herself into the role. She’ll be a granny again now at 64 and never in a million years would I consider her to be elderly. Many of her friends aren’t becoming grandparents until 70+, it seems the norm and they continue to be quite active grandparents, even at an older age. Maybe the key to staying young is to have young grandchildren?

I became a nanna at 39..

My DGM was 46 when I was born (first grandchild). She’s still living independently and well at 92. My DM also became a grandma at 46 and it’s entirely possible that my sister could be a grandma at 46 as her kids will be 23, 24 and 30 by then. I’ll be 46 next year and my kids will be only be 4 and 8 so I will inevitably be older, much older!

DH’s parents are older - his DM was 60 when her first grandchild was born and 75 when the last one arrived.

My Mum was 54 when she became a granny (I was 27 when I had my first). I was also 54 when I became a granny via a surprise lockdown baby from one of my kids!
Have to say though I'm outside the norm in my friendship group and wider family. My sil became a grandmother at 69. All of my mates have kids in gcse to uni years.

How old are you? I'll be 59 soon and am perturbed that you describe your mother as having been "elderly" when she became a grandma at 65!

I'll still be working FT til I am 67 and certainly don't feel that I am approaching being "elderly". My eldest is 34 but I am not a granny yet, probably will be by 65 though.

My mum became a grandparent at 75, my grandma was a lot younger.

@BottleBlondeMachiavelli that’s the case for me (born in my mum’s 30s). My grand dads had both died by the time I was one, my nans by the time I was about eight so I don’t remember them too well, they lived far away too so didn’t see them often.

I'm 61 and the first born child, my granny was 57 when I was born. My mother became a grandma at 52 when I had my first child, and I became a grandma at 50. My mum at 87 has an 11 year old great-grandchild but quite a few of her friends of a similar age have still got teenage grandchildren and will likely not be great grandparents or be extremely old if they are.

My Nanas were 59 and 57 when their first DGC were born, my DM was 65 and I was 60 .

My mum was 62 as a ft granny. I was 29 with dd and my mum was 33 when she had me. But of my
friendship group I was the first to have kids and everyone kind of joked that I was a teen mum (at almost 30!) so the expectation that you’ll have your kids in your 20s has certainly shifted to your 30s in the circles I move in.

Saying that, MIL was 45 as a first time granny but only because she had her first son at 18 who then had a child at 27. She doesn’t speak
to her oldest son and he doesn’t speak to his child or child’s mother,
sadly. I know that a lot of the time
having kids young works out but int their case it led to a lot of relationship turbulence.

Generally, yes.
People are having children later in life and we’re living longer so it makes sense.

65 is not elderly.

My grans was 63 and 54 when I was born, in my memories of them both they were elderly.
My mum became a nana at 51 but she had a lot of ill health, my mil was 45 and was very hands on/full of energy.
im 46 if my dds get their plans I will be a nana around 50.

My Nan …….. 40
my mum ……..49
me…………….54

I think actually my grandmother was older when she became a mother than my mum was. GM was, I think, 51 and my mum was 49. Not much in it admittedly.
My husband’s GM was 43 and my husband’s mum was 49, so they do follow your theory.

I think my gm was in her 40's but my dm had me young and despite waiting till I was 30 to have kids she was only 50. I am currently 46 with teenagers it's more likely to be late 50's early 60's if my dc decide to have kids.

My Grandma became a grandmother at 61 and my Mum is 65 and doesn’t have any grandchildren yet but I am trying so maybe next year - so slightly older but not a massive difference.

I became a grandmother at 52, dm was 53 and my dgm was 51

Most if my my dds peer groups are not having dc as yet but there are a few.

My granny was 46, my mum 50 and I'm not a grandparent yet at 59.

My DM was probably early 50s. I was 67.

My gran was 48 when she became a granny. Always looked and seemed old to me. My dm had me at 21 but I’ve had mine at 35 and 40 so she didn’t become a gran until she was 56 despite having children young. I will be much older or I may not even see grandchildren in my lifetime. Just the way it goes sometimes.

My mum was 62 when I had my first. MIL was 53. DM was 38 when I was born, late for a first child in her generation. I was 23, but my DC had their children much later, so I was 61 before I became a granny. Some friends are GGMs, my DGC are still in their teens.